⁠⁠The Fourth Trimester: A Postpartum Guide to Healing Your Body, Balancing Your Emotions, and Restoring Your Vitality by Kimberly Ann Johnson

PART 1 of 5: Part 1 of Book- Preparing For The Fourth Trimester

Ch 1. The Postpartum Revolution

Ch 2. Setting Yourself Up for a Smooth Transition to Motherhood

Presented by Megan Riesgo, LCPC, PMH-C & Joy Walsh, LCSW, PMH-C

OVERVIEW Episode 105 explores Ch. 1 & 2 of The Fourth Trimester: A Postpartum Guide to Healing Your Body, Balancing Your Emotions, and Restoring Your Vitality, by Kimberly Ann Johnson. Page numbers and links in show notes for listeners to find additional information on topics explored from the source.

DISCLAIMER: The content in this podcast is not intended to be a substitute for professional or medical advice, diagnosis or treatment and does not constitute medical or professional advice. This information is presented to be informative and does not replace therapy or other medical support.

If you or someone you know is struggling during this phase of parenting a resource to connect with is Postpartum Support International ⁠⁠⁠ ⁠www.postpartum.net⁠⁠⁠⁠

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CHAPTERS and NOTATIONS

Ch. 1 The Postpartum Revolution

02:15 Discussion of The Fourth Trimester card deck by Kimberly Ann Johnson

04:50 Author’s website as a resource www.kimberlyannjohnson.com

07:30 Discussion from context of book about prioritizing mama and what that might look like

08:10 Reference to book What to Expect When You Are Expecting by Heidi Murkoff

09:00 Discussion related to unspoken messages around birthing person and postpartum

10:00 (pg.25) How long is the 4th trimester discussion

11:00 (pg.26) Definition of postpartum

11:25 Discussion related to other cultures and postpartum period

12:00 (pg.28) 5 universal needs in postpartum period from author

13:00 (pg.29) Reference to resting period around the world.

16:45 (pg.31-32) Discussion from book and not rushing nature. When birthing person feels supported they thrive.

Ch. 2 Setting Yourself Up for a Smooth Transition to Motherhood

21:20 Discussion of possible supports and ways to ask for help

22:55 Resource: Check On Mom

24:00 (pg.36) Preparing to rest and discussion of “lazy”

28:40 (pg.42) Journal exercise from author and tuning into inner dialogue

30:00 Example of nesting experience

31:40 (pg.46) Use of mantra and asking / receiving support.

Childrens’ Book

37:30 Blanket: Journey to Extreme Coziness, by Loryn Brantz

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BOOK 1: Raising Good Humans, A Mindful Guide to Breaking the Cycle of Reactive Parenting and Raising Kind, Confident Kids by Hunter Clarke-Fields, MSAE

PART 4 of 4: Chapter 7 Solving Problems Mindfully & Chapter 8 Supporting Your Peaceful Home

Presented by Megan Riesgo, LCPC, PMH-C & Joy Walsh, LCSW, PMH-C

OVERVIEW Episode 4 explores chapter 7 & 8 of Hunter Clarke-Fields, MSAE book, Raising Good Humans, A Mindful Guide to Breaking the Cycle of Reactive Parenting and Raising Kind, Confident Kids. Page numbers and links in show notes for listeners to find additional information on topics explored from the source.

DISCLAIMER: The content in this podcast is not intended to be a substitute for professional or medical advice, diagnosis or treatment and does not constitute medical or professional advice. This information is presented to be informative and does not replace therapy or other medical support.

If you or someone you know is struggling during this phase of parenting a resource to connect with is Postpartum Support International ⁠⁠⁠ ⁠www.postpartum.net⁠⁠⁠⁠

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CHAPTERS and NOTATIONS

Book Exploration - Chapter 7 Solving Problems Mindfully

00:45 (pg. 126) “Mindfulness meditation is the foundation of our conflict-resolution skills.” Normalizing conflict.

01:20 (pg. 126) Example of conflicting needs

01:55 (pg. 126-129) Authoritarian and permissive parenting

03:30 (pg. 130) Conflict resolution with balance. “How do we find the middle path, where everyone can get their needs met?”

04:45 (pg. 130) Latin root of word discipline, disciplina.

06:10 (pg. 132) Five steps for Win-Win Problem Solving, Identify, Brainstorm, Evaluate, Make Decision, Check In

07:50 Five Why’s technique

10:50 (pg. 136) Talking out problems instead of power struggles.

11:10 (pg. 136- 137) Sibling conflict and benefits of role modeling and self regulation. “Coach instead of controlling.”

13:25 (pg. 138-139) Examples and options to tend to both children. “Handling Sibling Conflicts: A Cheat Sheet,” steps referenced.

15:20 (pg. 142) Quote explored, “What need is your child trying to meet? What are your needs?”

Book Exploration - Chapter 8 Supporting Your Peaceful Home

19:00 (pg. 144-145) Identified concepts of connection. “All of this love creates a positive feedback loop.”

21:30 (pg. 150-151) Daily Rhythm concepts explored.

22:20 Resource: Big Little Feelings

22:45 (pg. 152) Test Drive Routine concepts explored to know what is expected with weekly schedule. Reference within Kim Payne’s book Simplicity Parenting predictable rhythm for dinners.

24:45 (pg. 155-160) References to Kim Payne’s Simplification Steps.

25:30 (pg. 153) Reference to Maria Montessori and The Montessori Method, tools and resources at child’s level for independence. Reference to Melissa and Doug and For Small Hands as brand options for daily living toys and tools for kids.

26:50 (158-161) Toys and clutter with options to simplify the environment.

27:00 (pg. 161-162) “Progress not perfection” Reference to Mindful Mama Podcast. Final thoughts reference from book, “How do we give unconditional love? By leading with loving and accepting ourselves.” Additional quote explored, “... old habits are familiar and strong. It takes diligent practice to bring mindfulness into daily life and learn to respond to our children empathetically and skillfully.”

BOOK 1: Raising Good Humans: A Mindful Guide for Breaking the Cycle of Reactive Parenting and Raising Kind, Confident Kids by Hunter Clarke-Fields, MSAE

PART 3 of 4: Chapter 5: Listening to Help and Heal; Chapter 6: Saying the Right Things

Posted date: 7/31/24

Presented by Megan Riesgo, LCPC, PMH-C & Joy Walsh, LCSW, PMH-C

OVERVIEW Episode 103 explores Ch. 5 and 6 of Hunter Clarke-Fields, MSAE book, Raising Good Humans A Mindful Guide for Breaking the Cycle of Reactive Parenting and Raising Kind, Confident Kids. Page numbers and links in show notes for listeners to find additional information on topics explored from the source.

DISCLAIMER: The content in this podcast is not intended to be a substitute for professional or medical advice, diagnosis or treatment and does not constitute medical or professional advice. This information is presented to be informative and does not replace therapy or other medical support.

If you or someone you know is struggling during this phase of parenting a resource to connect with is Postpartum Support International ⁠⁠ ⁠www.postpartum.net⁠⁠⁠

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CHAPTERS and NOTATIONS

Book Exploration - Chapter 5: Listening to Help and Heal

00:00 Intro to show

00:30 (pg. 91) Introduction to Ch. 5, discussion about choice of words matters

1:45 (pg. 92) “A Mindful Approach to Problems”

2:00 (pg. 93) Children are trying to get their needs met.

2:40 (pg. 92) “Whose Problem Is It?”

3:00 (pg. 93) “We don’t need to solve all of their problems.”

3:30 Age appropriate communication and “we problems.”

5:25 (pg. 95) Slowing down to explore child’s perspective.

6:45 Somatic Experiencing reference www.traumahealing.org

7:30 (pg. 94-95) “How Listening Heals” - adults need to ground and deal with own stress response

8:10 (pg. 94) Examples of practicing self compassion, flexibility, and non judgemental thoughts. “Listen to Cultivate Connection,” relationships based on connection.

9:50 (pg. 97) “What Not To Say” Examples with scenario

12:10 (pg. 98) “Barriers to Communication” impact of dismissing feelings, examples explored

12:40 (pg. 99-100) "Change Isn’t Easy”

13:35 (pg. 101) “Reflective Listening In Action," direct quote.

14:35 (pg. 101) “Pay Attention Mindfully”

16:00 (pg. 104) Reflective listening to connect with empathy.
Book Exploration - Chapter 6: Saying the Right Things

17:00 (pg. 108) Building awareness to your needs as a caregiver

17:45 Reference to Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs

18:50 (pg. 109) Modeling healthy boundaries

19:00 Recognition of the value of caregivers for little humans.

20:15 (pg. 110) "children are immature by definition."

21:20 (pg. 113) Paraphrase from book related to shifting intentions and language.

21:35 (pg. 113) The Problem With “You-Messages”

22:30 (pg. 114) “I messages” exploration

23:00 (pg. 116) Framework for "I messages" from Thomas Gorden who coined the term. Reference from Parent Effectiveness Training (1970). 3 parts: Describe behavior, describe specific tangible effect, and share your feelings.

26:20 (pg. 117) Resistance Expectation, I messages may need to be repeated several times.

26:30 (pg. 118) Trouble Shooting You-messages disguised as I-messages.

27:40 (pg. 119) "Connect Then Correct” mantra. Ex. from book - shouting from another room

28:00 (pg. 120) "Using the Friend Filter"

References discussed from author, Mindful Parenting online course and podcast (Mindful Mama)