Ever caught yourself pretending to be a Deadhead just because he is? Guilty as charged.

This week, Maddy and Jen unpack just how much we let other people’s opinions influence the way we show up—on Instagram, on first dates, and even in our own heads.

Why do we shape-shift to please others? Who are we really trying to impress? And how do we know when we’ve crossed the line from harmless tweaking… to full-blown personality catfishing?

Key takeaways:

• You don’t owe the world access to your inner world.
• Having a cringe worthy moment is totally human. And, trust us, the only person ruminating about it is YOU.
• The goal isn’t to be liked by everyone— if you like yourself 60% of the time you're winning at life.
• Opposite action to shame = the antidote to self-editing.

Key takeaway from Maddy:

• Always check the UV index, always wear sunscreen!!!

Connect with us:

• Email us your questions at: hello@areweokay.com
• Follow Jennifer on Instagram: @manhattan.wellness
• Follow Maddy on Instagram: @downtownbehavioralwellness

Downtown Behavioral Wellness: Founded by Maddy Ellberger, Downtown Behavioral Wellness is a private therapy practice in NYC specializing in Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT) and Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT). The practice focuses on providing evidence-based treatments for young adults and middle-aged clients dealing with life transitions, anxiety, and the unique challenges of their 20s, 30s, and 40s. Whether you're grappling with relationship issues, career stress, or emotional regulation, Downtown Behavioral Wellness is there to support you every step of the way.

Manhattan Wellness: Led by Jennifer Teplin, Manhattan Wellness is a boutique therapy practice dedicated to helping young professionals in New York City. Specializing in issues such as anxiety, depression, self-esteem, and major life transitions like dating, engagements, and new motherhood, the team at Manhattan Wellness provides compassionate, individualized care to help clients navigate the ups and downs of their 20s and 30s.

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Co-Host: Maddy Ellberger

Co-Host: Jennifer Teplin

Executive Producer: Wicked Child Studio, Hailey Rovner Malach

Meet your dating app fairy godmothers - Maddy & Jen. Whether you've been on the apps for 2 weeks or 2 years, the gals are giving your profile the glow-up it deserves.

From curating the perfect photo lineup to finding the sweet spot between witty and sincere in your prompts, consider this your no-judgment dating app audit—with plenty of hot takes and a few LOLs along the way.

Because let’s be real—the goal is to get you off the apps and onto your first date!

What you’ll hear about:

• Why your first photo actually matters the most
• The art of a great prompt
• How to sneak your personality into your pics
• Maddy's “get off the apps fast” formula (spoiler: just say hi!!)
• What swiping behavior says about your brain (and your heart)

Connect with us:

• Email us your questions at: hello@areweokay.com
• Follow Jennifer on Instagram: @manhattan.wellness
• Follow Maddy on Instagram: @downtownbehavioralwellness

Downtown Behavioral Wellness: Founded by Maddy Ellberger, Downtown Behavioral Wellness is a private therapy practice in NYC specializing in Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT) and Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT). The practice focuses on providing evidence-based treatments for young adults and middle-aged clients dealing with life transitions, anxiety, and the unique challenges of their 20s, 30s, and 40s. Whether you're grappling with relationship issues, career stress, or emotional regulation, Downtown Behavioral Wellness is there to support you every step of the way.

Manhattan Wellness: Led by Jennifer Teplin, Manhattan Wellness is a boutique therapy practice dedicated to helping young professionals in New York City. Specializing in issues such as anxiety, depression, self-esteem, and major life transitions like dating, engagements, and new motherhood, the team at Manhattan Wellness provides compassionate, individualized care to help clients navigate the ups and downs of their 20s and 30s.

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Co-Host: Maddy Ellberger

Co-Host: Jennifer Teplin

Executive Producer: Wicked Child Studio, Hailey Rovner Malach

Whether it’s with a partner, a roommate, or back at your parents’ place (helloooo pandemic throwback), living with other people brings up a lot. From differing standards of cleanliness to unspoken resentment and the passive-aggressive dance we all pretend we’re not doing—this episode is for anyone navigating the emotional rollercoaster of cohabitation.

Key Takeaways:

• Living together isn’t always romantic: Sometimes moving in is about rent, timing, or convenience—not a Nicholas Sparks moment. And that’s okay.
• Communication is everything: Avoiding small issues (like not replacing the toilet paper or crumbs on the counter) often leads to massive blowouts. Say the thing, sooner rather than later.
• There’s no one-size-fits-all: Not everyone needs to live alone to find themselves. If it works for you and your situation, go for it.
• Parents are not roommates: When moving back home, it’s easy to feel infantilized. The key? Set boundaries and give your parents grace. They’re relearning too.
• To poop spray or not to poop spray? …You’ll just have to listen.

Connect with us:

• Email us your questions at: hello@areweokay.com
• Follow Jennifer on Instagram: @manhattan.wellness
• Follow Maddy on Instagram: @downtownbehavioralwellness

Downtown Behavioral Wellness: Founded by Maddy Ellberger, Downtown Behavioral Wellness is a private therapy practice in NYC specializing in Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT) and Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT). The practice focuses on providing evidence-based treatments for young adults and middle-aged clients dealing with life transitions, anxiety, and the unique challenges of their 20s, 30s, and 40s. Whether you're grappling with relationship issues, career stress, or emotional regulation, Downtown Behavioral Wellness is there to support you every step of the way.

Manhattan Wellness: Led by Jennifer Teplin, Manhattan Wellness is a boutique therapy practice dedicated to helping young professionals in New York City. Specializing in issues such as anxiety, depression, self-esteem, and major life transitions like dating, engagements, and new motherhood, the team at Manhattan Wellness provides compassionate, individualized care to help clients navigate the ups and downs of their 20s and 30s.

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Co-Host: Maddy Ellberger

Co-Host: Jennifer Teplin

Executive Producer: Wicked Child Studio, Hailey Rovner Malach