Coming off the holidays, you might find yourself reflecting on those tricky in-law dynamics—whether it’s navigating family gatherings, balancing expectations, or handling unsolicited advice. In this episode, Maddy and Jen dive headfirst into the complexities of in-law relationships. Join us!

Key Takeaways:

• Assume Good Intentions: During and after the holidays, it’s helpful to approach in-law relationships with the belief that everyone is doing their best. This shift in mindset can create space for understanding and reduce tension.
• Communicate Effectively: Venting about your in-laws to your partner can create unnecessary friction. Instead, focus on constructive conversations that strengthen your teamwork as a couple.
• Set Realistic Expectations: Your in-laws aren’t your parents, and they don’t need to be. Different doesn’t mean bad—embrace the uniqueness of the relationship.
• Prepare for Family Time: Anticipate patterns of behavior that might create challenges during gatherings. Use radical acceptance to meet people where they are and set boundaries where needed.

Connect with us:

• Email us your questions at: hello@areweokay.com
• Follow Jennifer on Instagram: @manhattan.wellness
• Follow Maddy on Instagram: @downtownbehavioralwellness

Downtown Behavioral Wellness: Founded by Maddy Ellberger, Downtown Behavioral Wellness is a private therapy practice in NYC specializing in Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT) and Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT). The practice focuses on providing evidence-based treatments for young adults and middle-aged clients dealing with life transitions, anxiety, and the unique challenges of their 20s, 30s, and 40s. Whether you're grappling with relationship issues, career stress, or emotional regulation, Downtown Behavioral Wellness is there to support you every step of the way.

Manhattan Wellness: Led by Jennifer Teplin, Manhattan Wellness is a boutique therapy practice dedicated to helping young professionals in New York City. Specializing in issues such as anxiety, depression, self-esteem, and major life transitions like dating, engagements, and new motherhood, the team at Manhattan Wellness provides compassionate, individualized care to help clients navigate the ups and downs of their 20s and 30s.

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Co-Host: Maddy Ellberger

Co-Host: Jennifer Teplin

Executive Producer: Wicked Child Studio, Hailey Rovner Malach

Happy New Year! this week Maddy and Jen dive into the ever-elusive world of New Year’s resolutions. From societal pressures to personal accountability, they share practical insights and tangible tips on how to make meaningful changes that actually stick—without falling into guilt, shame, or perfectionism traps.

Your roadmap to creating meaningful change in the new year:

• Ditch the "New Year, New Me" Mindset: Instead, focus on being the same you, but better. Small, consistent improvements trump grand overhauls every time.
• Focus on Gentle Measurements: Replace rigid "every day" goals with achievable ones, like "more times than not." Progress over perfection.
• Plan for Obstacles: Life happens. Instead of aiming for flawless execution, anticipate challenges and have a backup plan.
• Celebrate the Golden Nuggets: Small wins deserve recognition. Each success, no matter how minor, is a step towards sustainable change.
• Accountability Isn’t Tyranny: Share your goals with people who’ll support, not criticize. Accountability is about connection, not shame.

Connect with us:

• Email us your questions at: hello@areweokay.com
• Follow Jennifer on Instagram: @manhattan.wellness
• Follow Maddy on Instagram: @downtownbehavioralwellness

Downtown Behavioral Wellness: Founded by Maddy Ellberger, Downtown Behavioral Wellness is a private therapy practice in NYC specializing in Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT) and Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT). The practice focuses on providing evidence-based treatments for young adults and middle-aged clients dealing with life transitions, anxiety, and the unique challenges of their 20s, 30s, and 40s. Whether you're grappling with relationship issues, career stress, or emotional regulation, Downtown Behavioral Wellness is there to support you every step of the way.

Manhattan Wellness: Led by Jennifer Teplin, Manhattan Wellness is a boutique therapy practice dedicated to helping young professionals in New York City. Specializing in issues such as anxiety, depression, self-esteem, and major life transitions like dating, engagements, and new motherhood, the team at Manhattan Wellness provides compassionate, individualized care to help clients navigate the ups and downs of their 20s and 30s.

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Co-Host: Maddy Ellberger

Co-Host: Jennifer Teplin

Executive Producer: Wicked Child Studio, Hailey Rovner Malach

BIRTHDAY TWINS Maddy and Jen take listeners through a candid review of their past year. With humor, vulnerability, and plenty of relatable insights, they share their personal highs and lows, their obsessions of the year, and their hopes for what’s to come... adios 2024.

💌 A Note to Our Are We Okay? Listeners 💌

Thank you, thank you, thank you—for tuning in, for showing up, and for being part of the Are We Okay? community. Every download, every listen, and every moment you spend with us means the world. Whether you’re here for the laughs, the therapy insights, or just to feel a little less alone, we’re so grateful to have you on this journey with us.

Here’s to more honest conversations, more golden nuggets, and more moments of realizing… maybe we are okay after all???

With love,
Maddy & Jen

Connect with us:

• Email us your questions at: hello@areweokay.com
• Follow Jennifer on Instagram: @manhattan.wellness
• Follow Maddy on Instagram: @downtownbehavioralwellness

Downtown Behavioral Wellness: Founded by Maddy Ellberger, Downtown Behavioral Wellness is a private therapy practice in NYC specializing in Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT) and Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT). The practice focuses on providing evidence-based treatments for young adults and middle-aged clients dealing with life transitions, anxiety, and the unique challenges of their 20s, 30s, and 40s. Whether you're grappling with relationship issues, career stress, or emotional regulation, Downtown Behavioral Wellness is there to support you every step of the way.

Manhattan Wellness: Led by Jennifer Teplin, Manhattan Wellness is a boutique therapy practice dedicated to helping young professionals in New York City. Specializing in issues such as anxiety, depression, self-esteem, and major life transitions like dating, engagements, and new motherhood, the team at Manhattan Wellness provides compassionate, individualized care to help clients navigate the ups and downs of their 20s and 30s.

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Co-Host: Maddy Ellberger

Co-Host: Jennifer Teplin

Executive Producer: Wicked Child Studio, Hailey Rovner Malach

Today Maddy and Jennifer lay out the ultimate roadmap for finding a partner in one year or less. With a mix of LOLs and practical advise they break down everything you need to know to make it happen—without losing sight of who you are.

The Roadmap:

• Define Your Needs: Create an exhaustive list of "non-negotiables" and "nice-to-haves" to clarify what you're looking for in a partner.
• Work on Yourself: Reflect on patterns from previous relationships, take responsibility for your role, and clean up your “side of the street.”
• Put Yourself Out There: Commit to being uncomfortable at least once a week, whether that’s going on a date, joining a new activity, or meeting new people.
• Optimize Your Dating Profile: Your profile should reflect who you are and invite connection.
• Move Quickly to IRL Dates: Limit prolonged texting to avoid false intimacy. Use simple, direct language to transition to in-person meetings and assess real-life chemistry.
• Adopt a Yes-And Attitude: During dates, stay curious and open.
• Own Your Solo Time: Learn to enjoy and prioritize your own company.

Connect with us:

• Email us your questions at: hello@areweokay.com
• Follow Jennifer on Instagram: @manhattan.wellness
• Follow Maddy on Instagram: @downtownbehavioralwellness

Downtown Behavioral Wellness: Founded by Maddy Ellberger, Downtown Behavioral Wellness is a private therapy practice in NYC specializing in Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT) and Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT). The practice focuses on providing evidence-based treatments for young adults and middle-aged clients dealing with life transitions, anxiety, and the unique challenges of their 20s, 30s, and 40s. Whether you're grappling with relationship issues, career stress, or emotional regulation, Downtown Behavioral Wellness is there to support you every step of the way.

Manhattan Wellness: Led by Jennifer Teplin, Manhattan Wellness is a boutique therapy practice dedicated to helping young professionals in New York City. Specializing in issues such as anxiety, depression, self-esteem, and major life transitions like dating, engagements, and new motherhood, the team at Manhattan Wellness provides compassionate, individualized care to help clients navigate the ups and downs of their 20s and 30s.

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Co-Host: Maddy Ellberger

Co-Host: Jennifer Teplin

Executive Producer: Wicked Child Studio, Hailey Rovner Malach

Today Maddy and Jen dive into the complex and colorful world of mother-daughter relationships. From Jen’s close bond with her mom to Maddy’s reflections on her own, the duo explores how their relationships with their mothers shape what they’ll carry forward—or leave behind—as parents.

Key Takeaways:

• Mother-daughter relationships are dynamic: They evolve over time, shaped by shared experiences, individuality, and values.
• Clear communication is essential: Whether it's setting boundaries or addressing concerns, open dialogue can help strengthen bonds.
• Empathy goes both ways: Recognizing that mothers are navigating parenthood for the first time—just as daughters are figuring out their own paths—can foster mutual understanding.
• Pick your battles: Not every conflict is worth escalating. Choose when to prioritize your feelings and when to let things go for the sake of harmony.
• Relationships take work: Whether it’s navigating food dynamics, balancing enmeshment, or fostering independence, relationships require effort and patience to thrive.

Connect with us:

• Email us your questions at: hello@areweokay.com
• Follow Jennifer on Instagram: @manhattan.wellness
• Follow Maddy on Instagram: @downtownbehavioralwellness

Downtown Behavioral Wellness: Founded by Maddy Ellberger, Downtown Behavioral Wellness is a private therapy practice in NYC specializing in Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT) and Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT). The practice focuses on providing evidence-based treatments for young adults and middle-aged clients dealing with life transitions, anxiety, and the unique challenges of their 20s, 30s, and 40s. Whether you're grappling with relationship issues, career stress, or emotional regulation, Downtown Behavioral Wellness is there to support you every step of the way.

Manhattan Wellness: Led by Jennifer Teplin, Manhattan Wellness is a boutique therapy practice dedicated to helping young professionals in New York City. Specializing in issues such as anxiety, depression, self-esteem, and major life transitions like dating, engagements, and new motherhood, the team at Manhattan Wellness provides compassionate, individualized care to help clients navigate the ups and downs of their 20s and 30s.

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Co-Host: Maddy Ellberger

Co-Host: Jennifer Teplin

Executive Producer: Wicked Child Studio, Hailey Rovner Malach

Welcome back! Today, Maddy and Jennifer tackle the tricky terrain of expectations versus reality. Have you ever caught yourself wondering if your friends hate you since you're always the first one to make plans? or wrestled with the string of high hopes meeting not-so-perfect outcomes? Maddy and Jennifer share their most relatable client stories and personal insights...

Key Takeaways:

• Reframing Expectations: Learn to replace rigid expectations with flexible hopes that leave room for joy and growth, reducing the sting of unmet goals.
• Perfectionism Isn’t Perfect: Perfection doesn’t exist, but striving for mindful progress can help you focus on what truly matters.
• Reality vs. Social Media: Understand how curated online images skew our perceptions and fuel unrealistic standards for life, relationships, and success.
• The Role of Communication: Discover the power of open communication in friendships, relationships, and family dynamics to clarify and manage expectations.

Resources & Links:

• Email us your questions at: hello@areweokay.com
• Follow Jennifer on Instagram: @manhattan.wellness
• Follow Maddy on Instagram: @downtownbehavioralwellness

Downtown Behavioral Wellness: Founded by Maddy Ellberger, Downtown Behavioral Wellness is a private therapy practice in NYC specializing in Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT) and Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT). The practice focuses on providing evidence-based treatments for young adults and middle-aged clients dealing with life transitions, anxiety, and the unique challenges of their 20s, 30s, and 40s. Whether you're grappling with relationship issues, career stress, or emotional regulation, Downtown Behavioral Wellness is there to support you every step of the way.

Manhattan Wellness: Led by Jennifer Teplin, Manhattan Wellness is a boutique therapy practice dedicated to helping young professionals in New York City. Specializing in issues such as anxiety, depression, self-esteem, and major life transitions like dating, engagements, and new motherhood, the team at Manhattan Wellness provides compassionate, individualized care to help clients navigate the ups and downs of their 20s and 30s.

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Co-Host: Maddy Ellberger

Co-Host: Jennifer Teplin

Executive Producer: Wicked Child Studio, Hailey Rovner Malach

Today Maddy and Jen dive into the psychology of manifesting... What does it mean to manifest? Is it just another buzzword, or does it hold genuine psychological merit? From vision boards and intention setting to actionable goal-making, Maddy and Jen explores the balance between dreaming big and staying grounded.

Key Takeaways:

• Defining Manifestation: It's about clarifying what you want and acting in alignment with those goals. Think of it as mental scrapbooking with a purpose!
• The Science Behind It: How behaviors and thoughts influence outcomes and the importance of radical acceptance when things don’t happen on your timeline.
• Common Pitfalls: Why thinking alone isn’t enough—action is essential to making your dreams a reality.
• Practical Tools: From journaling techniques like "write and rip" to identifying must-haves vs. nice-to-haves, Maddy and Jen share ways to turn intentions into reality.

Resources & Links:

• Email us your questions at: hello@areweokay.com
• Follow Jennifer on Instagram: @manhattan.wellness
• Follow Maddy on Instagram: @downtownbehavioralwellness

Downtown Behavioral Wellness: Founded by Maddy Ellberger, Downtown Behavioral Wellness is a private therapy practice in NYC specializing in Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT) and Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT). The practice focuses on providing evidence-based treatments for young adults and middle-aged clients dealing with life transitions, anxiety, and the unique challenges of their 20s, 30s, and 40s. Whether you're grappling with relationship issues, career stress, or emotional regulation, Downtown Behavioral Wellness is there to support you every step of the way.

Manhattan Wellness: Led by Jennifer Teplin, Manhattan Wellness is a boutique therapy practice dedicated to helping young professionals in New York City. Specializing in issues such as anxiety, depression, self-esteem, and major life transitions like dating, engagements, and new motherhood, the team at Manhattan Wellness provides compassionate, individualized care to help clients navigate the ups and downs of their 20s and 30s.

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Co-Host: Maddy Ellberger

Co-Host: Jennifer Teplin

Executive Producer: Wicked Child Studio, Hailey Rovner Malach

It's tiiiiime! Maddy and Jennifer tackle the perennial holiday struggle: managing family dynamics, setting boundaries, and finding joy amidst the chaos of the holidays.

Key Takeaways:

• The Power of Preparation: Reflect on past holiday challenges to prepare for what’s ahead.
• Set Boundaries Without Guilt: Use humor or redirection to pivot away from uncomfortable topics.
• Interpersonal Effectiveness: Plan for specific relational patterns, whether it's guilt, anxiety, or anger, and approach each with tailored strategies.
• Honor Personal Needs: Carve out space for yourself during extended family gatherings.
• Reframe Difficult Relationships: Shift your perspective on family behaviors you can’t control. Look for ways to appreciate even the quirks that might drive you nuts.

Resources & Links:

• Email us your questions at: hello@areweokay.com
• Follow Jennifer on Instagram: @manhattan.wellness
• Follow Maddy on Instagram: @downtownbehavioralwellness

Downtown Behavioral Wellness: Founded by Maddy Ellberger, Downtown Behavioral Wellness is a private therapy practice in NYC specializing in Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT) and Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT). The practice focuses on providing evidence-based treatments for young adults and middle-aged clients dealing with life transitions, anxiety, and the unique challenges of their 20s, 30s, and 40s. Whether you're grappling with relationship issues, career stress, or emotional regulation, Downtown Behavioral Wellness is there to support you every step of the way.

Manhattan Wellness: Led by Jennifer Teplin, Manhattan Wellness is a boutique therapy practice dedicated to helping young professionals in New York City. Specializing in issues such as anxiety, depression, self-esteem, and major life transitions like dating, engagements, and new motherhood, the team at Manhattan Wellness provides compassionate, individualized care to help clients navigate the ups and downs of their 20s and 30s.

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Co-Host: Maddy Ellberger

Co-Host: Jennifer Teplin

Executive Producer: Wicked Child Studio, Hailey Rovner Malach