If you’re back at work and already quietly overloaded — you’re not broken.

January often pretends everything resets, while your nervous system, responsibilities, and expectations clearly don’t.

In this episode, Dex explores why high-performing leaders don’t need new goals, more effort, or a “new you” — they need a new standard.

Drawing on Dan Sullivan’s concepts of The Gap and The Gain and 10x thinking, this episode reframes overwhelm, pressure, and ambition — and shows how leadership energy is restored by raising standards, not expectations.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

• Why January motivation often collapses — and why that’s not a failure
• The difference between goals, standards, and unrealistic ideals
• How unexamined standards quietly drain leaders
• Why burnout isn’t about caring too much — but outgrowing old rules
• How to move from The Gap to The Gain in everyday leadership
• What real 10x leadership looks like (and what it isn’t)
• The one question to ask in your first week back at work

This episode is for leaders who want high performance without self-betrayal — and results that don’t cost their health, relationships, or joy.

Next step:
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This Christmas Day episode is a quieter, more reflective conversation about leadership that actually works — especially in high-pressure environments like healthcare.

Dex is joined by Dr Joshua Hartzell, retired US Army Colonel, physician, and author of A Prescription for Caring in Healthcare Leadership.

Josh has spent 25 years in military medicine and leadership training. His message is simple and deeply relevant at this time of year:

Take care of your people. They will take care of the mission.

In this episode, we talk about:

• Why caring leadership is not “soft” — it’s effective
• What military leadership gets right about standards and support
• Burnout as a leadership systems issue, not a personal failure
• Why psychological safety improves outcomes
• How small human interactions create powerful ripple effects

If you’re a leader who genuinely cares — but feels stretched thin — this conversation will meet you where you are.

Resources:
A Prescription for Caring in Healthcare Leadership https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0DSQ4276K
Dr Joshua Hartzell https://joshuahartzellmd.com/

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Most leaders think they need authority to act — but real leadership begins when you give yourself permission to move. In this episode, we explore how to drop imagined judgement, stop waiting for endorsement, and step into decisive, high-impact leadership.

What we cover:

1. Drop the "hairy eyeball"
2. Own your authority instead of waiting for it
3. Anchor in your highest-value contribution
4. Give yourself the green light
5. Experiment and iterate without perfection
6. Reflect on impact — not opinion

Mini-Exercises You Can Use Today:
• Ask: “Is this judgement real or imagined?”
• Declare: “I lead here.”
• Identify the two highest-impact actions this week.
• Affirm: “I have my own back.”
• Take one imperfect action.
• Measure value by outcome, not applause.
Uplevel your answers with Dex AI
Your confidential, expert leadership performance coach.

Key message:
Permission doesn’t come from outside you.
Authority is something you inhabit.

If you’d like personal guidance applying these practices so your leadership becomes natural, confident, and self-backed — book a conversation with me:

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In this episode, I share a personal story about leading from behind in a small, entrepreneurial tech team. The team was fragmented, underperforming, and in constant conflict with other departments — a quiet war in full swing.

I walk through how I:

• Connected with each team member to understand strengths, weaknesses, and ambitions
• Stabilised fragile IT systems and workflows without fanfare
• Built trust, morale, and cross-team collaboration quietly
• Turned invisible leadership into tangible results

We also explore practical reflection questions and steps any leader can use to reduce friction, unite teams, and lead with high impact while keeping stress low.

Takeaways include:

• How to lead invisibly and effectively
• Building trust and psychological safety in a small team
• Practical tactics for smoothing friction and improving collaboration
• Reflection prompts to assess your current leadership challenges

Actionable next step:

Try asking Dex AI Coach:

• “How can I reduce team friction today?”
• “How can I unite my team in shared purpose?”
• “How do I lead from behind instead of pushing from the front?”

Even a quick session can reveal actionable leverage points and reduce your day-to-day stress as a leader.

Resources mentioned:

• Creativity, Inc. by Ed Catmull

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Summary
In this episode, we break the spell of the “lone wolf” identity — the myth that high performers must grind alone, stay stoic, and win through self-sacrifice. We explore why this model silently burns people out, why it’s collapsing as a leadership archetype, and what replaces it: inner partnership, genuine support, and a way of working that restores energy instead of draining it.

What We Cover
– How the lone-wolf philosophy sneaks into high-stakes careers
– The quiet suffering that looks like competence from the outside
– Why burnout isn’t weakness — it’s a loyalty problem (too loyal to the wrong rules)
– The emotional toll of being “the one who always holds it together”
– The cultural lie that self-reliance is noble
– How isolation becomes self-attack
– The moment a leader realises they’re exhausted because they’ve been the strong one
– What replacing the lone-wolf identity actually looks like
– How inner solidarity becomes fuel, power, and clarity
– Practical questions to shift from isolation to support

Key Takeaway
Burnout thrives where connection dies.
The lone wolf doesn’t fall because he's weak — he falls because he’s alone.
Real strength comes from restoring partnership: with yourself, with others, and with the life you actually want to lead.

Try This
– Ask yourself: “Where am I still trying to do everything alone?” (Ask Dex AI to help you solve it)
– Identify one area where support is overdue.
– Let one person in.
– Notice how your system settles when you stop carrying everything solo.

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In this conversation, we go straight into the territory most professionals tiptoe around: intuition, subtle energy, the “inner signals” you’ve been trained to ignore since childhood.

I talk about why Western culture is so committed to denial, how that denial fuels burnout, and why your quiet inner nudges are often the most honest, helpful guidance you’ll ever get.

We cover everything from witches and shamans, to Victorian emotional repression, to the modern addiction cycle… and yes, the moments in my own life when intuition slammed into me like a freight train.

This isn’t about superstition—it’s about reconnection. Tuning back in to yourself, to others, and to the deeper stream of intelligence running through all of us.

If you’ve been feeling disconnected, numb, over-stimulated, secretly exhausted, or like you’re living 10cm to the left of your actual life… this one’s for you.

In This Episode

• Why so many smart, capable adults are terrified of their own intuition
• The cultural training that teaches us to ignore our inner signals
• How denial and addiction quietly build modern burnout
• Why meditation and yoga don’t “fix” burnout unless you stop overriding your inner voice
• How loneliness dismantles your nervous system
• Stories from my own life of intuitive “hits”—the kind that make you question everything
• How subtle energy shows up in healing work
• Why reconnecting with yourself is the foundation of real leadership
• How burnout recovery gives you back your early dreams—the ones you quietly shelved
• What it takes to step into the “bigger you” you’ve been resisting

Key Takeaways

• Intuition isn’t fringe. It’s human.
• Suppressing your inner experience creates anxiety, addiction, and burnout.
• Reconnection—not productivity hacks—is what heals you.
• Your inner voice is rarely wrong. You’re just out of the habit of trusting it.
• Burnout is a transformation process. It pushes you back into contact with the parts of yourself you’ve been avoiding.
• The dreams you abandoned still matter. They’re signals, not fantasies.
• When you stop running from yourself, your life stops running from you.

If You’re Ready to Get Your Mojo Back

If you want support reconnecting with yourself, healing burnout, and stepping into the version of you that actually feels like you—book a time with me at:

https://mini.dexrandall.com

Let’s map out what your next chapter could look like.

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You will discover what ChatGPT says are the essential skills and practices needed for professional burnout recovery.

I review ChatGPT's suggestions, enhancing them with my own insights from 10,000 client sessions. You will learn the importance of deep self-awareness, stress management, emotional resilience, and setting boundaries, in the context of your own personality and experiences. Then compare it with the general advice offered by large language models.

Finally, I'll introduce Dex AI Coach, a personalized AI tool trained on my own successful methods, offering personalised responses for those battling burnout.

If this sparks your curiosity, I encourage you to try Dex AI Coach (link below) — it's private, expert, and free. I've trained it on my methods, so it can help you reduce stress in minutes. My clients are loving it.

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When burnout hits, most people think they’re simply tired. But underneath the exhaustion, there’s often a deeper driver: shame — that quiet voice that says, “You’re failing. You should be stronger.”

In this episode, Dex unpacks how shame silently fuels isolation and self-abandonment in high performers, and what it really takes to break that destructive cycle.

Through the story of “Mark,” a high-achieving executive who spiralled into withdrawal and disconnection, Dex reveals the hidden mechanisms of shame and how they erode confidence, relationships, and health — all while convincing us to “work harder.”

You’ll learn practical, immediately usable steps to reclaim self-trust and reconnect with your power — even in the middle of burnout.

What You’ll Learn

• Why shame is the invisible engine of burnout
• The Shame–Isolation–Self-Abandonment Loop and how it traps high performers
• The biology of shame: how it drives withdrawal and shutdown
• Why masculine conditioning amplifies shame in leadership
• Four Steps to Break the Shame Spiral:
  1. Name the shame
  2. Practice tiny acts of self-connection
  3. Reach out to a safe person
  4. Recommit to self-respect

Key Quote

Resources

• Free AI Coach for burnout relief: Dex AI Coach
  – private, expert, free, and can reduce shame in minutes.
• Book a free consultation: dexrandall.com

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