Welcome back to Create Your Happy! In this episode, we're exploring the age-old paradox: does commitment mean sacrificing your freedom? If you've ever worried that marriage or commitment means losing your individuality, this episode challenges those beliefs and explores how security and independence can beautifully coexist.

🔥 What You'll Discover in This Episode:

* The "Ball and Chain" Myth: Origins and why it persists

* Historical Context: How past restrictions shaped current fears

* Cultural Perspectives: Different views on commitment and freedom

* Modern Love: Redefining relationships for today's world

* Personal Growth: How commitment can enhance freedom

* Practical Tips: Maintaining individuality while growing together

* Financial Freedom: Navigating money and independence

* Social Life: Keeping friendships alive in committed relationships

💡 Featured Quote:

"A healthy relationship doesn't take away your freedom. It enhances it. It's not about losing yourself. It's actually about finding new ways to grow both as an individual and as a couple."

🌟 Essential Resources for You:

💝 Love Reimagined Course: Ready to create a relationship where love and freedom coexist beautifully? This self-led video course helps you reframe love as an inside job. Explore communication, intimacy, and self-awareness: https://coachchristyholt.com/product/lovereimagined/

📚 Love Unstuck: Don't miss the November 18th launch! Get on the waitlist for special launch day offers: loveunstuck.com

🧘‍♀️ Sweary AF Meditations: Find your center with these fun, quickie meditations: https://bit.ly/swearyzen

🎧 Related Episodes:

* Episode 25: Attachment Styles https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/christy-holt/episodes/The-Four-Attachment-Styles-in-Relationships-e2nv87e

* Episode on Sacrifice in Relationships https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/christy-holt/episodes/Beyond-Sacrifice-Harmonizing-Love--Life--and-Parenting-for-Mutual-Growth-e2hmn8e

🎧 Please Share & Leave a Rating and Review! If you found this episode valuable, please leave a rating and/or review and share it with someone who might need these insights on freedom in relationships.

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Welcome back to Create Your Happy! In this episode, we're exploring the powerful concept of "Let Them" – a mantra designed to help you break free from people-pleasing and embrace your authentic self. If you've ever found yourself bending over backwards to win others' approval or worrying excessively about what people think of you, this episode is your guide to finding peace and living true to yourself.

🔥 What You'll Discover in This Episode:

• The Power of "Let Them": Understanding and applying this transformative mantra

• Breaking Free from People-Pleasing: How to stop exhausting yourself trying to please everyone

• Embracing Authenticity: Why it's okay (and even great) if not everyone likes you

• Self-Compassion in Practice: Dealing with the discomfort of others' opinions

• Resilience Building: Techniques to strengthen your emotional resilience

• Authentic Relationships: How being yourself attracts the right people into your life

• Practical Steps: Implementing the "Let Them" mindset in your daily life

💡 Featured Quote:

"Not everyone is going to like you, and that's okay. In fact, it's better than okay. What's more important is actually that you like yourself."

🌟 Essential Resources for You:

🧘‍♀️ Sweary AF Meditation Series: Shake off stress and recenter yourself with this lighthearted but powerful meditation series. https://bit.ly/swearyzen

📘 Love Unstuck: Get on the waitlist for my upcoming book, packed with insights on creating healthy, loving relationships. https://bit.ly/ufrwaitlist

More Great Episodes:

You Don’t Have a Relationship Problem, You Have an Identity Problem https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/christy-holt/episodes/You-Dont-Have-a-______-Problem--You-Have-an-Identity-Problem-e2l04oh

Stop Being a PEOPLE PLEASER, Start Being Authentically You (Here's How) https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/christy-holt/episodes/Stop-Being-a-PEOPLE-PLEASER--Start-Being-Authentically-You-Heres-How-e2dgmkf

🎧 Please Share & Leave a Rating and Review! If you found this episode valuable, please leave a rating and/or review and share it with someone who might benefit from the "Let Them" mantra.

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Welcome back to Create Your Happy! In this episode, I’m tackling the myth that self-care is selfish. If you've ever felt guilty for taking time for yourself or putting your needs first, this episode is your guide to understanding why self-care is not just important, but essential for healthy relationships and a fulfilling life.

🔥 What You'll Discover in This Episode:

• The Truth About Self-Care: Why it's essential, not selfish

• Breaking the "Good Girl" Rules: Overcoming conditioning that puts others first

• The Oxygen Mask Principle: Why taking care of yourself helps you care for others

• Guilt-Free Self-Care: Understanding and overcoming the guilt associated with self-care

• Practical Steps: How to incorporate self-care into your life without feeling selfish

• Self-Worth Insights: Recognizing your inherent worth beyond what you do for others

• Relationship Benefits: How self-care improves your capacity to love and connect

💡 Featured Quote:

"Self care isn't selfish. It's essential."

🌟 Essential Resources for You:

👉The People Pleaser's Path to Freedom Masterclass & Ebook: Ready to ditch those people pleasing tendencies that keep you perpetually disappointed and coming in last? Get Instant Access to The People Pleaser's Path to Freedom Masterclass & e-book: https://bit.ly/ppptffreebie

💖 Love Reimagined Program: Ready for a significant personal transformation? Love Reimagined is designed to help you build a solid, loving relationship with yourself, setting the foundation for healthy, loving connections with others. Learn more and enroll here: https://coachchristyholt.com/product/lovereimagined/

🧘‍♀️ Sweary AF Meditations: Start your self-care journey with this free 5-minute Sweary AF meditation designed to help you prioritize yourself. https://bit.ly/createlovemeditation

📘Get on the waitlist for my upcoming book Love, Unstuck - https://bit.ly/ufrwaitlist

More Great Episodes:

• Asking for Support Without Guilt Episode: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/christy-holt/episodes/How-to-Ask-for-Support-from-Your-Partner-Without-Feeling-Guilty-e2oc2gr

• Let That Sh*t Go Episode: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/christy-holt/episodes/Let-that-Shit-Go-3-Powerful-Techniques-to-Release-Grudges-e2jb5gn

🎧 Please Share & Leave a Rating and Review! If you found this episode valuable, please leave a rating and/or review and share it with someone who might need these insights on self-care and relationships.

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Welcome back to Create Your Happy! In this episode, we're venturing into the often-challenging task of asking for support from your partner – all without being weighed down by guilt. Whether you're struggling with feeling burdensome, unsure how to communicate your needs, or simply want to strengthen your partnership, this episode is your guide to transforming your approach to seeking support.

🔥 What You'll Discover in This Episode:

• Understanding Your Needs: How to get clarity on what you truly need

• Timing is Everything: Choosing the right moment to ask for support

• Expectations vs. Reality: Managing your expectations in relationships

• Effective Communication: How to phrase your requests for maximum success

• Guilt-Free Support: Understanding and releasing guilt around asking for help

• The Gift of Asking: Why seeking support benefits both you and your partner

• Practical Steps: Tools for confidently asking for what you need in your relationship

💡 Featured Quote: "Asking for support isn't about being weak or needy. It's actually about recognizing your humanity and allowing your partner, no, inviting your partner to be part of your journey."

🌟 Essential Resources for You:

📓 Unstuck for Women Daily Self Discovery Journal: Use this journal to gain clarity on your needs and build confidence in communicating them. A perfect companion for your journey to self-discovery and healthier partnerships. Find it here: http://www.gtfu.ca/

💖 Love Unstuck: Get on the waitlist for my upcoming book, packed with tools and insights to help you create the life and love you desire. Don't miss out on the special launch day offer! https://bit.ly/ufrwaitlist

👀 Related Episodes:

• More on Forgiveness: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/christy-holt/episodes/The-Art-of-Hugging-Your-Inner-Porcupine-Forgiveness--Self-Compassion-e2haba0

• Let That Shit Go: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/christy-holt/episodes/Let-that-Shit-Go-3-Powerful-Techniques-to-Release-Grudges-e2jb5gn

🎧 Please Share & Leave a Rating and Review! If you found this episode valuable, please leave a rating and/or review and share it with someone who might need these insights on asking for support in relationships.

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Welcome back to Create Your Happy! In this episode, we're FOURaying into the fascinating world of attachment styles (there are 4 main styles) and how they impact our relationships. Whether you're struggling with anxiety, avoidance, or simply want to understand your patterns better, this episode is your guide to transforming your relationships from the inside out.

🔥 What You'll Discover in This Episode:

• Understanding Attachment Styles: What are they and how do they form?

• The Four Main Attachment Styles: Secure, Anxious, Dismissive Avoidant, and Fearful Avoidant

• Relationship Dynamics: How different attachment styles interact

• Self-Awareness: Recognizing your own patterns and their origins

• Radical Responsibility: Taking charge of your growth and healing

• Practical Steps: Tools for improving your relationships and attachment style

  
  

💡 Featured Quote: “Healing your attachment wounds isn't about becoming perfect. It's actually about becoming more aware, more compassionate, more authentic in your relationships."

📝 Journal Prompts for Deeper Reflection: Reflecting on Your Roots

• What memories or experiences came up for you around how your needs were (or weren't) met emotionally as a child? Write a few key moments.

Observing Your Patterns

• When do you notice yourself protesting for reassurance or intimacy? What about distancing or withdrawing? Jot down some recent examples.

Envisioning Secure Connection

• Describe in a few sentences what securely opening yourself and being truly seen/accepted feels like for you. Capture this desired experience vividly.

Invoking the Inner Nurturer

• Have a dialogue where you speak the words of unconditional love and support to yourself that you may have missed. What does your Inner Nurturer say?

Integrating the Experience

• What is one simple action you can take in the coming days to practice self-attunement and reparenting your anxious or avoidant patterns?

🌟 Essential Resources for You:

📓 Unstuck for Women Daily Self Discovery Journal: Use this journal to explore your patterns, process your emotions, and chart your path to a life and love that you adore. A perfect companion for your journey to self-love and healthy partnerships. Find it here: http://www.gtfu.ca/

🧘‍♀️ Sweary AF Meditations: Start your journey to secure attachment with this free 5-minute Sweary AF meditation series designed to help you find a little more zen in your day. https://bit.ly/createlovemeditation

💖 Love Reimagined: Ready to become more aware of your own patterns so that you can create healthier relationships? This course guides you through understanding love and empowering yourself to create secure, fulfilling connections. https://coachchristyholt.com/product/lovereimagined/

🎧 Please Share & Leave a Rating and Review! If you found this episode valuable, please leave a rating and/or review and share it with someone who might need these insights on attachment and relationships.

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Welcome back to Create Your Happy! In this episode, we're talking all about the journey of healing from heartbreak and rediscovering love. Whether you're nursing a freshly broken heart or still carrying the weight of past heartbreaks, this episode is your guide to transforming pain into personal growth and opening yourself up to love once again.

🔥 What You'll Discover in This Episode:

• Understanding Heartbreak: Why does it hurt so much and how can we navigate it?

• The Power of Self-Care: Essential strategies for healing your heart

• Emotional Processing: Healthy ways to feel and deal with your emotions

• Rediscovering You: How to use this time for profound self-discovery

• Lessons in Love: What can heartbreak teach us about ourselves and relationships?

• Battling Loneliness: Strategies to deepen your relationship with yourself

• Opening Up Again: How to prepare yourself for new love

💡 Featured Quote:

"Heartbreak can really feel like the end of the world, but it's also a profound opportunity for growth and self-discovery."

🌟 Essential Resources for You:

💖 Love Reimagined: Ready to rewrite your love story? This program guides you through reimagining love and empowering yourself to create relationships that make you truly fucking happy. Perfect for those healing from heartbreak and ready to open up to new love. https://coachchristyholt.com/product/lovereimagined/

📕 Unstuck for Women: Dive deeper into self-discovery and personal growth with "Unstuck for Women". This book includes strategies to overcome emotional hurdles and build resilience after heartbreak. Get your copy here: http://www.gtfu.ca/

📓 Unstuck Daily Self Discovery Journal: Use this journal to process your emotions, rediscover yourself, and chart your path to healing after heartbreak. A perfect companion for your journey to self-love and new relationships. Find it here: http://www.gtfu.ca/

🧘‍♀️ Creating Love - A Sweary AF Meditation: Start your inner healing journey with this free 5 minute Sweary AF meditation designed to help you to cultivate the love within. https://bit.ly/createlovemeditation

🎧 Please Share & Leave a Rating and Review!

If you found this episode valuable, please leave a rating and/or review and share it with someone who might need these words of healing and hope.

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That problem that you have… it's not what you think it is. And you're not unhappy for the reasons that you think you are.

Welcome back to another episode of the Create Your Happy podcast! In this episode, “You Don’t Have a Relationship Problem, You Have an Identity Problem,” we're exploring a profound topic: how your external problems are actually reflections of your internal identity.

Let’s dive into understanding the roots of your challenges and discover how embracing your true identity can transform your life. It’s time to get to the root of all of these “problems” so that you can see them more clearly for what they truly are!

🔥 What You'll Discover in This Episode:

• Seeing Internal Reflections: Learn how your external problems are really internal disconnections.

• The Illusion of Suffering: Find out how resisting reality causes unnecessary suffering and how embracing what is can lead you to true peace.

• Reclaiming Your Power: Discover how changing your thoughts, feelings, and reactions can help you reclaim your power and find genuine freedom.

• Embracing All of You: Explore the importance of accepting all parts of yourself, flaws and all, to achieve wholeness and authenticity.

💡 Featured Quotes:

"You don't just face random problems. You're encountering an I-dentity problem."

"Our own self beliefs are actually what are causing us our own pain and suffering."

"When we claim our rightful power to change the world by reframing our thoughts, our feelings, and our reactions, we can finally find true freedom and peace."

Journal Prompts For Reflection:

To help you integrate these insights, here are the journaling prompts to explore.

Reflect on a current or recent problem in your life.

How might this situation actually be reflecting a part of your identity?

What is this problem teaching you about yourself?

Where might this problem be signaling an unmet need that you have?

How can you go about meeting that need for yourself?

🌟 Essential Resources for You:

📕Unstuck for Women: Ready to dive deeper into these concepts? My book "Unstuck for Women" includes my signature Spiral Stopper Method, designed to help you rewire your neural pathways from survival mode to conscious creator mode. Get your copy here: http://www.gtfu.ca/

📓Self Discovery Journal: Begin your journey of self discovery with the "Unstuck for Women Daily Self Discovery Journal." This tool will help you illuminate your unique path to freedom and happiness. Find it here: http://www.gtfu.ca/

🎧 Please Share & Leave a Rating and Review!

If this episode resonated with you, please leave a rating or review wherever you're listening and share with a friend who could use this message. Your feedback helps me improve and also helps others find the podcast!

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Hey hey, gorgeous human, I’m so excited to be back with another episode of the Create Your Happy podcast! Today, I’m tackling the topic of hyper independence and asking for help in “Doing it All Yourself? You’re Doing Independence WRONG!”

Are you ready to explore the roots of hyper-independence and the impact on your relationships? Let’s explore why this form of "independence" might not be quite the high virtue you’ve been led to believe and how by learning to ask for help you are actually giving a GIFT to others.

🔥 What You'll Discover in This Episode:

• Understanding Hyper-Independence: Learn how this trait can lead to isolation and strain your relationships.

• The Historical Context: Discover how the feminist movement and changes in financial independence have shaped modern hyper-independence.

• The Impact on Men and Women: Explore how shifting roles and expectations have influenced both genders.

• Shifting from Independence to Interdependence: Find out why embracing vulnerability and community can lead to deeper connections and personal happiness.

💡 Featured Quotes:

1. "True strength lies in your willingness to be vulnerable."

2. "Hyperindependence can create a barrier to intimacy, leaving both parties feeling isolated."

3. "In giving, not only do we help others, but we receive the enriching experiences that we most long for."

🌟 Essential Resources For You:

Authenticity Unleashed Program: Struggling with hyperindependence and finding it hard to ask for help? Learn how to set healthy boundaries and embrace your authentic self with this incredible program. Enroll now: https://coachchristyholt.com/product/authenticityunleashed/

🎧 Listen and Share: If this episode inspired you, please leave a rating or review wherever you’re listening. Your feedback not only helps me improve but also helps others find the podcast!

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