Episode 141 - Podcast Rewind - Jim Burns, Empty Nesting and Living With Your Adult Children

Back on episode 15 of Dad Space, Jim Burns was an early guest and I really love our conversation around preparing for the empty nest and how to effectively parent your adult children.

Episode 15 - https://youtu.be/mLu4tLCbj5k

Book: Finding Joy in the Empty Nest: Discover Purpose and Passion in the Next Phase of Life

When the kids are gone, you can discover a richer, deeper, and more fulfilling life than you ever imagined!

Whether you've been looking forward to it or dreading it, the experience of coming home to an empty nest brings with it a well of emotions, realizations, and one gigantic, all-consuming thought: Now what? In Finding Joy in the Empty Nest, Jim Burns combines his personal experiences with his expertise as a family educator to help you navigate your new life as an empty nester and find joy in this new season of life.

Rather than offering shallow suggestions of hobbies you should take up, Burns encourages you to actively pursue a fresh start, reinvent yourself, and thrive. Backed by extensive research and filled with interviews with fellow empty nesters, this book equips you with practical advice and timeless principles, teaching you how to:

• Change the relationship you once had with your children for the better
• Face big issues--including aging parents, finances, and kids returning home--with confidence
• Rekindle your fire and purpose to live with passion day by day

Amid Burns' wealth of know-how, you'll uncover what may be the most important takeaway of all: the best is yet to come.

Praise for Finding Joy in the Empty Nest:

"Jim Burns is smart, witty, grounded, and immeasurably practical. Whether you're getting close to the second half of marriage or are in the thick of it, you won't want to miss out on this fantastic book."

--Drs. Les and Leslie Parrott, bestselling authors of Saving Your Marriage Before It Starts

https://a.co/d/iZJqr3F

Book: Doing Life with Your Adult Children: Keep Your Mouth Shut and the Welcome Mat Out

Are you struggling to connect with your child now that they've left the nest? Are you feeling the tension and heartache as your relationship dynamic begins to change? In Doing Life with Your Adult Children, bestselling author and parenting expert Jim Burns provides practical advice and hopeful encouragement for navigating this tough yet rewarding transition.

If you've raised a child, you know that parenting doesn't stop when they turn eighteen. In many ways, your relationship gets even more complicated--your heart and your head are as involved as ever, but you can feel things shifting, whether your child lives under your roof or rarely stays in contact.

Doing Life with Your Adult Children helps you navigate this rich and challenging season of parenting. Speaking from his own personal and professional experience, Burns offers practical answers to the most common questions he's received over the years, including:

• My child's choices are breaking my heart--where did I go wrong?
• Is it OK to give advice to my grown child?
• What's the difference between enabling and helping?
• What boundaries should I have if my child moves back home?
• What do I do when my child doesn't seem to be maturing into adulthood?
• How do I relate to my grown child's significant other?
• What does it mean to have healthy financial boundaries?
• How can I support

Episode 140 - Books for Dads - The Most Human, Reconciling with My Father, Leonard Nimoy by Adam Nimoy

Adam was born during the Eisenhower administration to Leonard and Sandra Zoberblatt Nimoy. He attended the University Elementary School, a “lab school” run by UCLA, where he was subjected to numerous psychological experiments. The experimentation continued at UC Berkeley in the form of mind-altering substances from which he may, or may not, have fully recovered. In a state of absolute certainty, Adam attended Loyola Law School. He was wrong.

After seven years of practicing entertainment law and one moment of clarity, Adam left his life as an attorney to follow his passion of making films. After directing forty-five hours of network television, some of it sublime, some of it eminently unwatchable, Adam’s career plummeted due in large part to drug and alcohol addiction. On January 1, 2004, Adam entered 12-Step recovery hoping to achieve an attitude adjustment. This was a New Year’s resolution he knew he had to keep. For 8 years, he taught writing, directing and acting at the New York Film Academy and taught filmmaking at Beit T’Shuvah, an addiction treatment center where the residents kept him on the straight and narrow.

Book: The Most Human: Reconciling with My Father, Leonard Nimoy

"Engaging and immensely relatable, while at the same time offering deeply profound insights into Adam Nimoy's personal relationships, particularly with his famous father." — Eugene Roddenberry Jr., CEO Roddenberry Entertainment

Living with Dad was like living with a stranger— as a kid I often had trouble connecting and relating to him. But I was always proud of him. Even before Star Trek I'd see him popping up in bit roles on some of my favorite TV shows like Get Smart, Sea Hunt, and The Man From U.N.C.L.E. And then one night he brought home Polaroids of himself in makeup and wardrobe for a pilot he was working on.

It was December 1964 and nobody had heard of Star Trek. Still, the eight-year-old me had watched enough Outer Limits and My Favorite Martian to understand exactly what I was looking at. Spock's popularity happened quickly, and soon the fan magazines were writing about dad's personal life, characterizing us as a "close family." But the awkwardness that defined our early relationship blossomed into conflict, sometimes smoldering, sometimes open and intense. There were occasional flashes of warmth between the arguments and hurt feelings— even something akin to love— especially when we were celebrating my father's many successes. The rest of the time, things between us were often strained.

My resentment towards my father kept building through the years. I wasn't blameless, I know that now, but my bitterness blinded me to any thought of my own contribution to the problem. I wanted things to be different for my children. I wanted to be the father I never had, so I coached Maddy's soccer, drove Jonah to music lessons, helped them with their homework— all the things dads are supposed to do. All the things I wanted to do. So what if my Dad and I had been estranged for years? I was living one day at a time. And then I got his letter. That marked a turning point in our lives, a moment that cleared the way for a new relationship between us.

Amazon link: https://amzn.to/3KvTi1s

https://adamnimoy.com/

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Episode 139 - A Birthday Reflection, My How Things Have Changed Around Here

As I sit alone on my birthday, the silence in the house feels both comforting and heavy. The vibrant chaos of family life has faded into quiet memories, and I find myself reflecting on the years gone by.

I remember the laughter echoing through these walls, the noise of birthday celebrations filled with balloons, cake, and the excitement of my kids. Each year, they would rush to make me cards, their little hands crafting heartfelt messages that warmed my heart. Now, those cards are tucked away in a box, cherished reminders of simpler times.

Today, there are no phone calls or surprise visits. I’ve become accustomed to this solitude, but it still stings a bit. I think about how quickly they grew up—how just yesterday we were celebrating their milestones together, and now they’re off chasing their own dreams. I’m proud of them, of course, but it’s hard not to feel a twinge of loneliness.

I pour myself a cup of coffee and look out the window at the familiar sights of our neighborhood. The world keeps turning, but my heart aches for the days when birthdays meant family gatherings and shared moments. I wonder if they’ll remember me today or if life has swept them up in its relentless pace.

As I sit here, I choose to embrace this quiet time. It’s an opportunity for reflection—an invitation to think about what’s next for me. Maybe this is a chance to explore new hobbies or reconnect with old friends. Perhaps it’s time to invest in myself as much as I invested in them.

I take a deep breath and remind myself that this phase of life is just another chapter. While the house may be empty today, my heart is full of love for my children and gratitude for the years we shared.

And who knows? Maybe next year will bring new traditions or surprises.For now, I'll celebrate quietly—grateful for the past and hopeful for what lies ahead. Happy birthday to me; it’s a new beginning in its own way.

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Episode 137 - Dave Campbell, Host of the Dad Space Podcast Answers 3 Questions for Dads - NaPodPoMo

Dads can often feel isolated in their parenting journey, especially if they believe they lack support. Here are three questions that can guide a Dad in seeking advice and building a supportive network:

1. What are some effective ways to manage stress and maintain mental health as a Dad?

Managing stress is crucial for Dads, as the transition to parenthood can be overwhelming. Dads should prioritize their mental health by establishing healthy habits. This includes regular exercise, a balanced diet, and sufficient sleep, which are all foundational to maintaining energy levels and managing stress effectively. Additionally, finding time for personal interests or hobbies can provide a necessary outlet amidst the demands of parenting.

2. How can I build a strong bond with my kids while also supporting my partner?

Building a connection with your kids is essential. It’s important for dads to communicate openly with their partners about their needs and to support each other in this new phase of life.

3. What practical tips or resources have helped you navigate fatherhood?

Dads should prepare for the practical aspects of parenting. Moreover, understanding that there is no perfect time to become a parent can help alleviate anxiety about financial or personal readiness. Embracing the journey with flexibility and humor can also be beneficial, as it allows for a more enjoyable experience despite the challenges.

https://movember.com/

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Episode 137 - Books For Dads - The Intentional Father, A Practical Guide to Raise Sons of Courage and Character

The Intentional Father: A Practical Guide to Raise Sons of Courage and Character (Includes Activities, Rites of Passage, and Steps for Parenting Boys. ... for Dads, Grandpas, and Expectant Fathers) by Jon Tyson (Author), David Kinnaman (Foreword)

The Intentional Father by Jon Tyson is a practical and insightful guide for fathers seeking to raise sons of courage and character in today's challenging cultural landscape. Tyson presents a clear, actionable plan for intentional fatherhood, drawing from his personal experience and backed by research from the Barna Group.

Key Features

Practical Approach: The book offers concrete steps, activities, and rites of passage for fathers to implement, making it a hands-on resource rather than just theoretical advice1.Emphasis on Intentionality: Tyson stresses the importance of being deliberate in fatherhood, contrasting the "intentional father" with other less engaged paternal archetypes

Discipleship Model: The author encourages fathers to create a discipleship path for their sons, focusing on imparting values and preparing them for manhood

Core Concepts

• Rites of Passage: Tyson describes meaningful rituals to mark important milestones in a boy's journey to manhood
• Regular Engagement: The book emphasizes the importance of consistent, dedicated time between fathers and sons
• Character Formation: It focuses on developing integrity, faith, and resilience in young men

• Research-Backed: The book incorporates statistical data to support its arguments and strategies
• Relatable Tone: Tyson's personal anecdotes and approachable writing style make the content accessible
• Adaptable Framework: While providing a structured approach, the author encourages fathers to tailor the strategies to their individual situations

• Christian Perspective: The book is written from a Christian worldview, which may not resonate with all readers
• Focus on Father-Son Relationships: While valuable, the book's specific focus may limit its applicability for other family dynamics

The Intentional Father serves as a valuable resource for fathers, grandfathers, and male mentors looking to actively shape the character of the young men in their lives. It provides a roadmap for raising sons who are prepared to navigate the complexities of modern manhood with confidence and integrity.

https://a.co/d/01Qyleg

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Episode 136 - Books For Dads - You Will Rock As a Dad, The Expert Guide to First-Time Pregnancy and Everything New Fathers Need to Know

You Will Rock As a Dad! is a comprehensive guide designed specifically for first-time fathers navigating the challenges and joys of impending parenthood. This book serves as an essential resource for new dads, providing practical advice and emotional support during the transformative journey of pregnancy.

Overview

Target Audience:

This guide is ideal for expectant fathers who may feel overwhelmed by the prospect of becoming a dad. It addresses common fears and uncertainties, reassuring readers that they can indeed rise to the occasion

Content Highlights:

Understanding Fears: The book begins by exploring the typical anxieties faced by first-time fathers, offering strategies to overcome them.

• Modern Dads’ Essentials: It covers crucial topics from understanding newborn appearances to mental preparation for baby care.
• Birth Planning: Readers are guided through creating a birth plan, including key questions to consider with their partners.
• Supporting Your Partner: The guide emphasizes the importance of being there for your partner during pregnancy, addressing symptoms like cravings and mood swings.
• Maintaining Relationships: Tips on keeping the romance alive post-baby are also included, alongside advice on navigating postpartum challenges.

Practical Advice

• The book offers actionable insights such as:Prenatal Visits: Encouragement to attend prenatal appointments and what to expect during these visits.
• Packing Lists: Detailed lists of items needed for the hospital and baby care essentials.
• Signs of Labor: Clear indicators that it’s time to head to the hospital when labor begins.

Unique Approach

Unlike many parenting books that offer vague comparisons of fetal growth to fruits or vegetables, this guide dives deeply into the realities of fatherhood. It combines humor with practical advice, making it relatable and engaging for dads with a sense of humor.

Conclusion

You Will Rock As a Dad! is not just a book; it’s a supportive companion for new fathers eager to learn and grow into their roles. With its thorough coverage of pregnancy and early fatherhood, it stands out as a must-read gift for any dad-to-be looking to embrace this life-changing experience confidently.

https://a.co/d/hOEEfhB

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Episode 135 - Books for Dads - Dads, Kiss Your Sons by Mark Craven Are You Terrified to Become a Dad - So Was I

Terrified to Become a Dad? So Was I.

"Fear is often our first response when we discover we are going to be fathers. We talk to just about everyone we know or search for quick answers to give us some sense of confidence to see our way through the unknown ahead. But what if you didn't have a dad? What if you didn't have role models to follow? What if the whole idea of being a dad is so completely foreign to you that quantum mechanics seems easier to master? That's my story along with becoming everything to my son that I never had growing up." -Mark Craven

As a teacher and coach in higher education, Mark Craven has researched numerous behavioral studies as well as the biology of neurological systems pointing to insights for new and expectant dads to adhere in Dad's, Kiss Your Sons, bringing a whole new level of significance to being a dad.

The current generation of dads has made fatherhood a part of their self-identity. They are seeking resources and feeling that there aren't enough content-related resources available to them.

Dad's, Kiss Your Sons is the book every dad needs.

1. Here's a summary of the book "Dads, Kiss Your Sons" by Mark Craven:The book addresses the fears and uncertainties many men face when becoming fathers, especially those who grew up without father figures themselves. Craven shares his personal journey of overcoming his own fears about fatherhood, having lacked paternal role models in his own life.Key themes and insights include:Embracing vulnerability and emotional openness as a father, particularly with sons. The title emphasizes the importance of physical affection between fathers and sons.
2. Drawing on behavioral studies and neuroscience to provide evidence-based parenting insights for new and expectant fathers.
3. Addressing the unique challenges faced by men who didn't have positive father figures growing up, offering guidance on breaking negative cycles.
4. Recognizing fatherhood as a core part of identity for many modern dads, who are actively seeking resources and support.
5. Providing practical advice and strategies for building strong emotional bonds and effective communication with children, especially sons.
6. Exploring how to become the father figure you wish you had, even without personal experience to draw from.
7. Emphasizing the transformative power of fatherhood and its potential for personal growth.

The book aims to fill a perceived gap in parenting literature specifically tailored for fathers, especially those who feel unprepared or anxious about their new role. Craven combines personal anecdotes with research-based insights to create a guide that is both relatable and informative for new and expectant fathers.

https://a.co/d/bgMFCvK

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Episode 134 - Books for Dads - Rasing Supaman by Nathaniel A Turner, How To Parent via Harvard Admissions Requirements

Raising Supaman - Although many years have passed since Nathaniel A. Turner began writing letters to his then two-year-old son, Raising Supaman remains as prophetic as ever. Turner's aim in writing his son was to witness during his lifetime the outward manifestation of his deepest hopes and most profound dreams, namely that his child would be a better man than him.

In Raising Supaman, Turner explores the most critical issues in the lives of males of all ages. From academic success and professional advancement to personal achievement to social responsibility, Turner wrote a practical travel guide that anyone might use to navigate their way through the incredible journey called life.

Raising Supaman by Nathaniel A. Turner is a heartfelt and insightful book that chronicles the author's journey of fatherhood through a series of letters written to his son. The book offers a unique perspective on parenting, particularly focused on raising young men to become exceptional individuals.

Key Themes

**Intentional Parenting**

Turner emphasizes the importance of purposeful and proactive parenting. He demonstrates how setting high expectations and providing consistent guidance can shape a child's character and future.

**Personal Growth**

The author's letters not only aim to guide his son but also reflect his own journey of self-improvement. Turner openly shares his desire to be a better man and father, setting an example of continuous personal development.

**Academic and Professional Success**

A significant portion of the book focuses on the importance of education and career advancement. Turner provides practical advice on how to excel academically and professionally, stressing the value of hard work and perseverance.

**Social Responsibility**

Turner instills in his son a strong sense of social consciousness and the importance of contributing positively to society. He encourages empathy, community involvement, and a commitment to making the world a better place.

Structure and Style

The book is structured as a collection of letters, which gives it an intimate and personal feel. This format allows readers to witness the evolution of both father and son over time, providing a longitudinal perspective on parenting and personal growth.

Turner's writing style is described as transparent and authentic, making the book relatable and accessible to a wide audience. The letters are not just instructional but also emotionally resonant, reflecting the deep love and commitment of a father to his son.

Impact and Reception

Raising Supaman has been well-received for its practical advice and emotional depth. It has been noted for its relevance to parents, particularly fathers, seeking guidance on raising sons in today's complex world. The book's enduring popularity suggests that its messages remain pertinent and valuable years after its initial publication.

Turner, described as a "Humanity Propulsion Engineer" and TED speaker, brings his expertise in personal development and motivation to the book, enhancing its credibility and impact.

Conclusion

Raising Supaman offers more than just parenting advice; it provides a comprehensive guide to becoming a better person and raising children to reach their full potential. While focused on the father-son relationship, its principles can be applied more broadly to parenting and personal development in general. The book stands out for its combination of practical wisdom, emotional honesty, and aspirational goals, making it a valuable resource for anyone interested in personal growth and effective parenting.