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In this powerful episode of Dads in Autismland, host Mark de Grasse takes on a difficult but necessary topic—the use of the R-word and why it will never be acceptable. Mark dives into the word’s history, its dehumanizing impact on the autism community, and how language shapes public perceptions of disability.

Drawing from personal experience and historical context, he explores the dangers of normalizing offensive language and how it has been used to justify discrimination.

This episode isn’t just about calling out harmful language—it’s about education, advocacy, and protecting the dignity of autistic individuals and their families. Mark also shares practical ways to address the use of the R-word in everyday conversations, encouraging dads to stand up for their children with confidence and compassion.

If you've ever wondered how to respond when someone uses the term, this episode is a must-listen.

TOPICS

• The historical origins of the R-word and why it became offensive
• The real-world impact of dehumanizing language on the autism community
• How harmful language has historically led to discrimination and worse
• The importance of speaking up when you hear the R-word used
• Practical ways to educate others and advocate for respectful language
• The role of inclusion in shaping a better future for autistic individuals

QUOTE
“It doesn’t just dehumanize and devalue the autistic community—it also devalues everybody who supports the autistic community.” - Mark de Grasse

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Every child's autism journey is unique. This video shares one family's personal experience and is meant for informational purposes only. Always consult with healthcare professionals for medical advice.

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In this emotional and eye-opening episode of Dads in Autismland, host Mark de Grasse sits down with Alfred Samson, a dedicated father navigating the complexities of raising his autistic daughter, Sophie. Alfred shares the raw and deeply personal journey of discovering her condition—marked by seizures, an epilepsy diagnosis, and a potential Harvard medical study that could provide crucial insights into her condition.

Through candid storytelling, Alfred discusses the emotional struggles, the toll on marriage, and the resilience required to accept and embrace an unexpected parenting journey. From early signs of autism to learning to grieve the life he once imagined, he offers powerful advice on coping mechanisms, therapy, and the importance of support systems. Whether you’re a dad feeling overwhelmed or someone seeking inspiration, this episode is a must-listen.

TOPICS COVERED
✔️ Early Signs & Diagnosis – The unexpected medical episodes that led to Sophie’s autism & epilepsy diagnosis
✔️ The Emotional Rollercoaster – How Alfred struggled with resentment, exhaustion, and eventually found peace
✔️ Seeking Help – The power of therapy, faith, and support systems in navigating the challenges of special needs parenting
✔️ The Impact on Marriage – How Alfred and his wife strengthened their bond despite the hardships
✔️ Choosing to Have Another Child – The thought process and fears behind expanding their family
✔️ Words of Wisdom for Dads – The importance of grieving, adapting, and embracing the unique journey of raising a neurodivergent child

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Unmodern Podcast – https://unmodernpodcast.com/episodes

QUOTE
“You have to grieve the life you thought you’d have and learn to love the life you’ve been given.” – Alfred Samson

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Every child's autism journey is unique. This video shares one family's personal experience and is meant for informational purposes only. Always consult with healthcare professionals for medical advice.

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SUMMARY

In this heartfelt episode of Dads in Autismland, host Mark de Grasse takes listeners on a personal journey exploring the unexpected blessings and silver linings that come with raising a child on the autism spectrum.

Drawing from his experience as a father to Damien (12, severe nonverbal autism) and Declan (11, neurotypical), Mark offers a refreshingly honest perspective on the different paths of fatherhood.

Through candid reflection and genuine vulnerability, he challenges the narrative that autism parenting is solely about challenges, revealing the profound ways his son has transformed his life for the better.

TOPICS

• The Freedom from Social Expectations: How autism parenting can liberate both parent and child from societal pressures
• Celebrating Different Victories: Finding joy in unconventional milestones, from pointing to keeping a jacket on
• Living Authentically: Learning from children who experience life without masks or pretense
• Personal Growth Through Parenting: How having an autistic child motivated positive life changes
• The Power of Present Moment: Embracing a different perspective on time and achievement

QUOTE:

"My son loves me. That's the biggest thing I could ever want or wish for in life. And I have that every day, so I'm doing good." -Mark de Grasse

Note: Every child's autism journey is unique. This video shares one family's personal experience and is meant for informational purposes only. Always consult with healthcare professionals for medical advice.

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