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One thing that seems to be certain in divorce is that no one gets everything they want. Most walk away feeling like they had to give up more than their share in order to get to a final agreement. Rarely do we hear a client say they thought the settlement was 100% fair and equitable. Most everyone feels like they got the short end of the stick.

So in this episode we dive into this idea of “fairness” and talk about how it can cause problems or create obstacles when it comes to getting to a final resolution. And we offer some coaching strategies for working with clients who get stuck in their own definition of "fairness".

Many clients start out saying “I just want what’s fair”. The trouble is that rarely will their spouse have the same definition of fair. We joke that “fair” is the 4-letter F word in divorce because what you think is fair, what I think is fair, and what the legal system thinks is fair can be wildly different.

Listen in as Tracy and Debra discuss the concept of fairness and justice and how expanding our definition of what's "fair" may be the key to finally reaching an agreement everyone can feel OK about.

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Divorce is hard enough with all the emotional turmoil, big challenges, and important decisions. It's even more difficult when your partner is intentionally working against you. But even more troublesome is when clients are working against themselves, so in this episode we're talking about self-sabotage.

We discuss how to recognize it, and more importantly, how to support clients who are engaging in self sabotaging behavior that may be preventing them from reaching their desired goal or outcome.

Self-sabotage is a completely normal human behavior and shows up frequently in divorce and co-parenting as a result of fear of the unknown, perfectionism, lack of self belief, resistance to change, or learned behaviors.

Overcoming self-sabotage requires a combination of self-awareness, self-compassion, and intentional effort - all things divorce coaches are great at supporting our clients with.

Listen in as Tracy and Debra talk through why self-sabotage happens and how you can work with clients in self-destruct mode to get them on a better path.

Learn more about DCA® or any of the classes or events mentioned in this episode at the links below:

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Good storytelling is a powerful tool for creating connection, building trust, and communicating ideas and concepts. However, when it comes to divorce coaching, storytelling can be a mixed bag. And a common mistake we see coaches make is oversharing about their own personal experiences.

In this episode, we discuss when and how it is appropriate to share personal stories with clients. While it’s well-intentioned, it’s also important to be mindful about when and how we share personal stories with clients.

Our words of caution...there are two ways storytelling can muddy the waters when it comes to our coaching relationships. First, sharing too much from our personal lives can take the focus off the client and put the spotlight back on the coach. And second, clients look to us as the expert so those stories might be interpreted as directive or advice giving.

Listen in as Tracy and Debra talk about why intention matters when it comes to storytelling in divorce coaching.

Learn more about DCA® or any of the classes or events mentioned in this episode at the links below:

Website: www.divorcecoachesacademy.com
Instagram: @divorcecoachesacademy
LinkedIn: divorce-coaches-academy
Email: DCA@divorcecoachesacademy.com