In this episode, we explore the complexities of managing in-law relationships during the holidays. From understanding family systems to setting boundaries and staying connected as a couple, this episode is packed with actionable advice and expert insights.

Key Takeaways:

• Why in-law dynamics can feel overwhelming and how to address them
• Practical examples of healthy boundaries
• Solutions to common challenges like unsolicited advice and conflicting traditions
• Tips to stay emotionally connected during the holidays

Resources:

• The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work by Dr. John Gottman
• Boundaries by Dr. Henry Cloud
• Hold Me Tight by Dr. Sue Johnson

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In today’s episode, we’re diving deep into one of the most powerful influences on your marriage: your mindset and belief system. Research from psychologists and relationship experts like Dr. Carol Dweck and Dr. John Gottman shows that our mindset shapes how we experience our relationships. When we believe in the growth and potential of our marriage, we become more resilient, empathetic, and connected. But what happens when our beliefs start to shift to the negative? Why do we tend to veer that way over time, and how can we change it?

We’ll uncover why mindset matters, how to strengthen a growth mindset within your marriage, and practical ways to nurture positive beliefs about your partner. If you’ve been wondering how to renew your faith in your relationship, or if you’re ready to shift your perspective for a stronger, happier marriage, this episode is for you!

Key Takeaways:

• Why Mindset Matters in Marriage:
  How a “growth mindset” can improve resilience, deepen empathy, and foster connection during tough times, based on Dr. Carol Dweck’s research.

• The Role of Positive Belief:
  Dr. John Gottman’s insights on “positive sentiment override” and why assuming the best in your partner can be a game-changer.

• Common Pitfalls & Negative Beliefs:
  Understanding “negative sentiment override,” why it happens in long-term relationships, and how it can damage trust and connection over time.

• 5 Practical Steps to Strengthen Belief and Positivity in Your Marriage:

  1. Practice Positive Assumptions: How to validate your partner’s intentions, even during conflict.
  2. Reframe Negative Beliefs: Tools for catching negative thoughts and shifting to a growth perspective.
  3. Reconnect with Shared Goals: The power of aligning on shared values and future dreams.
  4. Small Acts of Appreciation: Why consistent appreciation boosts overall positivity.
  5. Focus on Self-Growth: Tips for personal development that can transform your relationship.

Research Highlights:

• Dr. Carol Dweck’s “Growth Mindset” theory and its application in marriage.
• Dr. John Gottman’s work on relationship dynamics, positive sentiment override, and lasting connection.

Resources Mentioned:

• Dr. Carol Dweck’s book, Mindset: The New Psychology of Success
• Dr. John Gottman’s The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work

Actionable Challenge for Listeners:
This week, start with one small act of appreciation every day. Share something you love about your partner, or recognize something positive they’ve done. Notice how these small acts impact your overall mindset about your marriage!

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In this episode, I debunk more misconceptions sent in by listeners, followers and clients.

5:56 My spouse should "just know"

8:51 Marriage with Fix Our Flaws/ I Can Fix Them

17:40 Our Relationship Will Stay the Same (as when we were dating)

20:04 We should spend all our time together/do everything together/no girls or guys trips

22:55 External influences have no power over your marriage

28:10 Sex will always be frequent and exciting

34:33 All couples eventually grow apart

37:11 If you can't say something nice, don't say anything at all

39:42 Issues with family will eventually go away/In-laws should bring up issues with family

43:39 You knew what you signed up for

50:25 We don't need to plan/pay for the marriage, only the wedding AND the wedding is the finish line

52:01 We'll figure it out as we go/marriage doesn't need a purpose

54:45 Your marriage is too far gone to save

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