In this episode, we explore the complexities of managing in-law relationships during the holidays. From understanding family systems to setting boundaries and staying connected as a couple, this episode is packed with actionable advice and expert insights.

Key Takeaways:

• Why in-law dynamics can feel overwhelming and how to address them
• Practical examples of healthy boundaries
• Solutions to common challenges like unsolicited advice and conflicting traditions
• Tips to stay emotionally connected during the holidays

Resources:

• The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work by Dr. John Gottman
• Boundaries by Dr. Henry Cloud
• Hold Me Tight by Dr. Sue Johnson

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Email: Coaching@recognizingpotential.com

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In today’s episode, we’re diving deep into one of the most powerful influences on your marriage: your mindset and belief system. Research from psychologists and relationship experts like Dr. Carol Dweck and Dr. John Gottman shows that our mindset shapes how we experience our relationships. When we believe in the growth and potential of our marriage, we become more resilient, empathetic, and connected. But what happens when our beliefs start to shift to the negative? Why do we tend to veer that way over time, and how can we change it?

We’ll uncover why mindset matters, how to strengthen a growth mindset within your marriage, and practical ways to nurture positive beliefs about your partner. If you’ve been wondering how to renew your faith in your relationship, or if you’re ready to shift your perspective for a stronger, happier marriage, this episode is for you!

Key Takeaways:

• Why Mindset Matters in Marriage:
  How a “growth mindset” can improve resilience, deepen empathy, and foster connection during tough times, based on Dr. Carol Dweck’s research.

• The Role of Positive Belief:
  Dr. John Gottman’s insights on “positive sentiment override” and why assuming the best in your partner can be a game-changer.

• Common Pitfalls & Negative Beliefs:
  Understanding “negative sentiment override,” why it happens in long-term relationships, and how it can damage trust and connection over time.

• 5 Practical Steps to Strengthen Belief and Positivity in Your Marriage:

  1. Practice Positive Assumptions: How to validate your partner’s intentions, even during conflict.
  2. Reframe Negative Beliefs: Tools for catching negative thoughts and shifting to a growth perspective.
  3. Reconnect with Shared Goals: The power of aligning on shared values and future dreams.
  4. Small Acts of Appreciation: Why consistent appreciation boosts overall positivity.
  5. Focus on Self-Growth: Tips for personal development that can transform your relationship.

Research Highlights:

• Dr. Carol Dweck’s “Growth Mindset” theory and its application in marriage.
• Dr. John Gottman’s work on relationship dynamics, positive sentiment override, and lasting connection.

Resources Mentioned:

• Dr. Carol Dweck’s book, Mindset: The New Psychology of Success
• Dr. John Gottman’s The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work

Actionable Challenge for Listeners:
This week, start with one small act of appreciation every day. Share something you love about your partner, or recognize something positive they’ve done. Notice how these small acts impact your overall mindset about your marriage!

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In this episode, I debunk more misconceptions sent in by listeners, followers and clients.

5:56 My spouse should "just know"

8:51 Marriage with Fix Our Flaws/ I Can Fix Them

17:40 Our Relationship Will Stay the Same (as when we were dating)

20:04 We should spend all our time together/do everything together/no girls or guys trips

22:55 External influences have no power over your marriage

28:10 Sex will always be frequent and exciting

34:33 All couples eventually grow apart

37:11 If you can't say something nice, don't say anything at all

39:42 Issues with family will eventually go away/In-laws should bring up issues with family

43:39 You knew what you signed up for

50:25 We don't need to plan/pay for the marriage, only the wedding AND the wedding is the finish line

52:01 We'll figure it out as we go/marriage doesn't need a purpose

54:45 Your marriage is too far gone to save

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Have you ever thought that marriage was supposed to make you happy? Or maybe that if you have an argument you're headed straight for divorce? Or maybe even that you were supposed to be passionate, in love with and attracted to your partner every moment of every day for the rest of your life? Well, if that's you, you're definitely not alone but you also believe a misconception that isn't true and could be causing you more harm than good in your marriage.

Check out these 10 common misconceptions that lead to divorce so you can divorce proof your marriage!

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In the first session I have with couples, we always go over goals for where they want their marriage to be, what's working and what's not. I've coached over 100 couples in the last 5 years and they have ALL said "we want better communication" and while coaching them, I find that they don't have a communication problem and neither do you. What is it really? Disconnection. Jump into this episode to find out how disconnection leads to communication breakdown, what it looks like, sounds like and how to fix it.

Chapters:

0:00 Understanding Communication Breakdown in a Marriage

3:07 The Importance of Emotional Connection

6:00 Identifying Signs of Disconnection

8:49 Rebuilding Emotional Connection

11:50 Effective Communication Strategies

15:14 Understanding Connection Differences

18:07 Practical Tips for Strengthening Connection

20:54 Conclusion: Restoring Connection and Communication

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Why do people fear falling out of love?

This fear often stems from a deep-seated anxiety about the future. We all enter relationships with hopes, dreams, and a vision of everlasting love. But as time goes on, we might notice changes in our feelings or the dynamics of the relationship, which can trigger doubts and fears. This fear is not irrational; it’s a reflection of how much we value our relationships and how much we want them to succeed.

In this episode, I dive deep into this topic as well as the marriage retreat that I'm hosting January 24 and 25, 2025 in Granbury, TX.

Chapters

0:00 Intro and Marriage Retreat Announcement

10:46 Understanding the Fear of Falling Out of Love

23:26 Love as a Verb: Taking Action in Your Relationship

25:20 Building a Strong Friendship

31:39 Cultivating Emotional Safety in Your Relationship

34:38 Maintaining a Growth Mindset for a Thriving Relationship

44:09 Regular Check-ins and Communication: Keys to Lasting Love

47:21 Conclusion and Offering Hope and Tangible Tools

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An astounding amount of people report having significant amounts of resentment towards their partner. Bitterness, hardness of heart and maybe even thoughts of divorce have crept in and taken over their hearts and minds. What does resentment feel like? What does it look like? How do you overcome it after it's already built a wall between you and your partner? Take a deep dive with me as we uncover all of these answers and more to restore your marriage.

Chapters:

0:00 Introduction: The Prevelance of Resentment in Relationships

11:46 The Negative Effects of Resentment on Marriages

22:41 Root Causes of Resentment in Relationships

31:04 Strategies for Overcoming Resentment in Your Marriage

37:49 The Importance of Emotional Safety & Connection in Overcoming Resentment

40:01 Equalizing Mental Load and Household Responsibilities

41:48 The Imbalance of Giving in Relationships

48:42 The Process of Forgiveness

53:46 Repairing Conflicts in Relationships

01:01:22 Preventing Resentment

01:04:04 Positive Experiences and Signing Off

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Love is a verb, not just 3 little words. So when you're trying to divorce proof your marriage, how do you make "I Love You" mean a little bit more? In today's episode, we break down 5 ways to make "I Love You" mean a little bit more.

0:00 Introduction

4:16 Daily Intentional Effort

5:14 Respect

12:14 Follow Through

15:32 Eliminating Assumptions

24:26 Appreciating Your Differences

Within these chapters, we talk a lot about ways to get your sex life on track, 5 finger apologies and repairing after a conflict.

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