Imagine you have a bucket that represents your needs in intimacy—what does that bucket look like? Is it overflowing, half-empty, or maybe even bone-dry? In this episode, we're diving deep into the idea of "sex buckets"—our unique needs, emotions, and thoughts around intimacy and connection.

We’re talking about how everyone has different "buckets" when it comes to sex, and those buckets can look very different depending on the person, their stage in life, or even the season they’re in. How do you and your partner understand each other’s buckets? How do you fill them in a way that builds connection, trust, and joy in your relationship?

To help me unpack all this, I’ve brought in my amazing husband Sean for an honest, real, and sometimes hilarious conversation about what this looks like in our marriage. From navigating changing seasons of life to addressing the unique needs we each bring to the table, we’re covering it all—communication, emotions, and practical ways to strengthen intimacy in your relationship.

Whether you’re in a thriving season or working through challenges, this episode will give you tools to identify your needs, communicate them, and start filling up each other’s buckets with intention and love.

❤️ What You’ll Learn:

• What a "sex bucket" is and why it matters in your relationship.
• How different seasons of life—like parenting, stress, or big transitions—can affect intimacy.
• Why it’s okay for you and your partner to have different needs and expectations.
• How to communicate openly about your "bucket" without judgment or shame.
• Practical ways to fill up your bucket (and your partner’s!) in meaningful ways.

Grab a coffee, settle in, and let’s have a raw and refreshing conversation about building intimacy that truly lasts.

🎧 Listen now and start the conversation that could transform your relationship!

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Are you a busy parent secretly dreaming of fitting into your old 18 or 22-year-old jeans? Those pre-kid days where you had the time to meal prep and hit the gym for hours might feel like a distant memory—but don’t lose hope!

This week, we’re tackling how to lose weight and get healthy without needing endless hours or unrealistic routines. It’s not about chasing your younger self; it’s about creating a sustainable, healthy version of YOU that works for your life now. You’ll get practical, parent-tested tools to prioritize your health while juggling family schedules, soccer practice, and bedtime stories.

From sneaky ways to fit in movement to building meals that fuel you and your kids—this episode is packed with real-life tips to help you reclaim your health goals without losing your sanity. 💪👨‍👩‍👧‍👦

✨ Your dream body doesn’t belong in the past—it’s waiting for you right now. Tune in and start your journey today!

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Are you feeling exhausted trying to teach your kids responsibility while keeping the peace? You’re not alone! Many parents hit a point where they say, “I’ve tried everything, and nothing works.” It feels like no matter what you do—setting rules, following through, or refusing to cave—things just don’t click.

In this episode, we’ll explore:
✅ Why traditional approaches to responsibility sometimes don’t work.
✅ How to teach responsibility and maintain a loving connection with your kids.
✅ Practical strategies to create accountability without power struggles or frustration.

If you’re tired of nagging, yelling, or battling over chores, homework, meldowns or follow-through, this episode offers fresh tools that work even when you feel stuck.

Remember, teaching responsibility doesn’t mean sacrificing the relationship. Let’s walk through what to try next—together!

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In this episode, I sit down with a special guest, my good friend and basketball coach- Phoebe, to explore what it means to lead with integrity at work and at home. Together, we dive into the vital role integrity plays in leadership, both on the court and in our everyday lives. Whether you're managing a team, raising kids, or mentoring others, this episode offers practical wisdom and encouragement.

We’ll also discuss actionable ways to help children learn and live with integrity. From modeling strong values to handling real-life challenges, this conversation will inspire you to lead by example and foster integrity in your home and community.

Key Highlights:

• How integrity shapes leadership in coaching and parenting.
• Practical ways to teach kids the importance of honesty and accountability.
• The power of leading by example and staying consistent in your values.
• Stories of integrity in action—on and off the court.

Whether you’re a parent, coach, or leader in any capacity, this episode is packed with lessons to help you and your family thrive. Don’t miss this inspiring conversation about building strong character and living with purpose!

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In this episode, we explore the three main causes of self-sabotage: negative words, limiting beliefs, and assuming intentions. Discover how the language you use shapes your mindset, how deeply rooted beliefs can hold you back, and how jumping to conclusions about others' intentions can harm relationships.

Learn actionable strategies to recognize and overcome these patterns, including reframing your thoughts, challenging limiting beliefs, and giving others the benefit of the doubt. By tackling self-sabotage, you can pave the way for a more fulfilling and joyful life.

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In today’s episode, we’re exploring the art of balancing leadership and management as a parent. Parenting goes beyond daily tasks; it’s about inspiring and guiding your family toward growth and unity. We’ll share simple, practical strategies to help you lead and manage your home effectively, plus a free downloadable worksheet to start implementing these tips right away!

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Discover how to define and reinforce family values, create easy systems for daily tasks, encourage problem-solving, make time for flexibility, and empower your kids with responsibility. Each tip is designed to foster both structure and growth, helping you create a harmonious and thriving home environment.

Download our worksheet, try these ideas with your family, and connect with our online community to share your journey! Keep the worksheet visible as a reminder of these practices.

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On today's Families Matter Most podcast, we're diving into Marriage and Fighting, featuring a special guest—my husband, Sean! We'll explore the common parenting battles that arise at different stages of raising kids. First, we tackle the preschool years when life feels chaotic, finances are tight, you're overworked, and the kids seem to never listen—we're all just craving breaks! Next, we shift to the elementary years, where fights center around screen time, extracurriculars, and learning when to stand firm or let go. Then, it's on to the pre-teen and teen stages, where battles revolve around cell phones, driving, and navigating the tension of having a nearly adult child who lacks full responsibility. Throughout each stage, we share survival strategies and discuss how easy it is to fall into blame and miscommunication. But don’t worry—it does get easier! Tune in to hear how we've navigated these challenges together.

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This week, we have a special bonus episode from our online course Building Connection! Have you ever wondered how to strengthen family bonds, reduce sibling squabbles, or manage your own stress and anger as a parent? If so, this episode is for you. We're diving into one powerful part of the course today!

Discover the three things that will transform your family connection:

1. Weekly Family Fun Night – Carve out time for fun, laughter, and togetherness.
2. Family Weekly Schedule Meeting – Keep communication open and get everyone on the same page.
3. Weekly One-on-Ones – Spend focused, intentional time with each child, really listening to their heart.

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