In this episode of Ghosted, Sarah and Pily dive into the importance of setting boundaries in different areas of life—relationships, work, and even with ourselves. They discuss how boundaries are a form of self-respect, protecting our emotional, mental, and spiritual well-being. As recovering people pleasers, they explore common struggles we face when trying to set boundaries, such as guilt, fear of rejection, the discomfort of saying "no.", and learning to take up space in relationships. Through biblical principles and personal experiences, they offer practical tips on how to communicate boundaries clearly and enforce them lovingly, empowering listeners to live more balanced and respectful lives.

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SHOW NOTES

- Proverbs 4:23 “Above all else, guard your heart, for everything you do flows from it.”

- Great article with scripture where Jesus sets boundaries | https://www.soulshepherding.org/jesus-set-boundaries/

- Brent Brown Boundaries and Core Feelings | https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vJAD4QXwLhQ

- “The limits of my language mean the limits of my world.” Ludwig Wittgenstein

🤎 The LORD bless you and keep you; The LORD make His face shine upon you, And be gracious to you; The LORD lift up His countenance upon you, And give you peace. Numbers 6:24-26

Ever felt that knot of worry about something that might never happen? You're not alone.

While fear is a healthy feeling programmed into your nervous system, giving you the survival instincts you need to avoid danger; anxiety is worrying about a threat that has not yet, or may never happen, if that thing never happens you'll be stuck in a perpetual state of anxiety. OOF. How many of us have experienced anxiety in one way or another?

Join us as we share personal stories and tips to break the anxiety cycle.

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SHOW NOTES

- Cast all your anxieties on him, he cares for you | 1 Peter 5:6-7

- Take every thought captive | 2 Corinthians 10: 3-6

- He will lead you beside still waters, He will restore your soul | Psalm 23

- Pastor Bev Tucker | https://www.bevtuckerministries.com/

- Brent Brown podcast episode about anxiety | https://brenebrown.com/podcast/brene-on-anxiety-calm-over-under-functioning/

- Verses Playlist | https://open.spotify.com/artist/3wjs1kzL7HZbzs8HpxllEI?si=e2LPgocdS0q8tM3QGvV5Gw

🤎 The LORD bless you and keep you; The LORD make His face shine upon you, And be gracious to you; The LORD lift up His countenance upon you, And give you peace. Numbers 6:24-26

Shame vs Guilt-- what's the difference and what effects do each have on our emotional wellbeing. Join the conversation as we dive into shame and guilt share our own stories of getting stuck in some negative cycles and how we broke free from the grips.

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SHOW NOTES

- The woman caught in adultery "Didn't even one of them condemn you?" "No, Lord." She says "Then neither do I, go and sin no more." | John 8:1-11

- 'Listening to Shame' a TED Talk by Brene Brown | https://www.ted.com/talks/brene_brown_listening_to_shame?subtitle=en

- “I believe that there is a profound difference between shame and guilt. I believe that guilt is adaptive and helpful—it’s holding something we’ve done or failed to do up against our values and feeling psychological discomfort.

I define shame as the intensely painful feeling or experience of believing that we are flawed and therefore unworthy of love and belonging—something we’ve experienced, done, or failed to do makes us unworthy of connection.

I don’t believe shame is helpful or productive. In fact, I think shame is much more likely to be the source of destructive, hurtful behavior than the solution or cure. I think the fear of disconnection can make us dangerous.” - Brene Brown

🤎 The LORD bless you and keep you; The LORD make His face shine upon you, And be gracious to you; The LORD lift up His countenance upon you, And give you peace. Numbers 6:24-26

Forgiveness—it’s not always easy to give or accept. In this episode, we open up about moments when we’ve had to offer forgiveness without receiving an apology, the struggle to forgive ourselves, and what it means to offer a genuine apology. We also discuss how forgiveness doesn’t always mean reconciliation, and sometimes, it’s necessary to forgive while keeping healthy boundaries in place.

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SHOW NOTES

- Forgive each others faults | Colossians 3:13

- God's yolk is light and our burden is heavy | Matthew 11:28-30

- Be kind and tenderhearted | Ephesians 4:32

🤎 The LORD bless you and keep you; The LORD make His face shine upon you, And be gracious to you; The LORD lift up His countenance upon you, And give you peace. Numbers 6:24-26

In this part two conversation about identity, we turn our focus from false identity to who we were truly created to be and where our true identity is found.

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SHOW NOTES

- Remove the plank from your own eye, bruh | Matthew 7:5

- You're a new creation | 2 Corinthians 5:17

- Priscilla Shirer's talk on identity: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=klkEKMTe3OY

- Reference to the book and story of Job

- You are God's masterpiece | Ephesians 2:10

- You are chosen and holy | Ephesians 1:4

- You are made complete | 2 Corinthians 12:9

- You are fearfully and wonderfully made | Psalms 139:14

- You are loved by God | 1 Thessalonians 1:4

- You are united with Christ | 1 Corinthians 1:30

- Episode 5 follow-up: The three wise men were traditionally known as magi or 'astrologers' that is, people who watched the stars for signs, each possibly from Persia, India, and Arabia. King Herod, also called ''Herod the Great,'' was a ruler of the Roman province of Judea. The three wise men, or kings, were warned in a dream about Herod's plans to harm Jesus and returned home via a different route to avoid Herod. Matthew 2:1-12

QUESTIONS TO ASK YOURSELF

- Who am I?

- Am I the job I work or what I achieve?

- Am I the things I've done right or the things I've done wrong?

- Am I defined by what others think of me?

🤎 The LORD bless you and keep you; The LORD make His face shine upon you, And be gracious to you; The LORD lift up His countenance upon you, And give you peace. Numbers 6:24-26

Today we start a conversation about identity focusing on the false identities we've attached ourselves to and what we've discovered about those things, ourselves, and our God along the way.

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SHOW NOTES

- You are not your symptoms or your diagnosis. There is hope. There is freedom.

- Consider what you're coming into agreement with whether it's a diagnosis, astrological sign, what you or others are speaking over you and ask God if this is REALLY who you are.

- Mark 8:35-37

- Proverbs 18:20-21

- 2 Corinthians 5:16-21

- FOLLOW-UP on the three wise men: they were traditionally known as magi or 'astrologers' that is, people who watched the stars for signs, each possibly from Persia, India, and Arabia. King Herod, also called ''Herod the Great,'' was a ruler of the Roman province of Judea. The three wise men, or kings, were warned in a dream about Herod's plans to harm Jesus and returned home via a different route to avoid Herod. Matthew 2:1-12

🤎 The LORD bless you and keep you; The LORD make His face shine upon you, And be gracious to you; The LORD lift up His countenance upon you, And give you peace. Numbers 6:24-26

In this episode, we reflect on the emotional process of sharing our testimonies in the last two episodes and how it affected us. We then explore the simplicity and power of prayer, focusing on the Lord’s Prayer and how God, in His greatness, knows our needs before we even ask.

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SHOW NOTES

- The Sermon on the Mount| Matthew 5-7

- The Lord's Prayer| Matthew 6:5-14 + Luke 11:1-4

- Birds of the air flowers in the field| Matthew 6:26-30

- God will supply every need| Philippians 4:19

BONUS NOTES

- Overflow Sermon from Pastor Erwin| www.youtube.com/watch?v=00Vi2MSVpoY

- Seven Frequencies of Communication| www.thesevenfrequencies.com

🤎 The LORD bless you and keep you; The LORD make His face shine upon you, And be gracious to you; The LORD lift up His countenance upon you, And give you peace. Numbers 6:24-26