Burnout isn’t just being tired or overwhelmed—it’s what happens when your nervous system is totally tapped out. This episode is a wake-up call and a reframe. I break down what burnout really is, what it’s not, and how to start healing without adding more pressure to your already packed plate.

[00:00–01:25]
📍 Let's reframe burnout
I kick things off by calling out the biggest misunderstanding about burnout: we think it’s situational, but the truth is deeper. Burnout is when your nervous system says, “I’m done.” It's not weakness—it's a stress overload.

[01:26–03:20]
🔥 Burnout vs. "nervous breakdown"
I talk about how burnout used to be labeled a nervous breakdown, and why that language matters. It’s about capacity, not capability. Burnout is your body's way of saying something's not working.

[03:21–05:10]
🚫 People-pleasing & the cost of “playing nice”
If you’re saying yes when you want to say no, avoiding boundaries, and putting everyone else first, this is your burnout blueprint. I walk through how saying “yes” at the expense of yourself leads to emotional depletion.

[05:11–07:45]
🌪️ The real burnout trigger: a fried nervous system
What looks like anxiety, panic, and sleeplessness often comes down to nervous system dysregulation. I compare it to skipping flossing—eventually the buildup causes pain. We need daily emotional hygiene.

[07:46–09:35]
💡 How to start regulating your nervous system
This isn’t about meditating more or walking it off. I explain how real nervous system regulation is consistent, intentional, and doable. I share the first tool you can try today: my 5-minute reset (and how to get it).

[09:36–11:20]
⚖️ Capacity & emotion: how to hold more
Think about how you feel after vacation vs. after a sleepless night. Emotional capacity changes, and we can build it intentionally. This section is about how we make allowing emotion easier.

[11:21–13:00]
🧠 Thoughts, beliefs & the mental load
Burnout isn’t just emotional—there’s a mental component too. I talk about how the belief that you’re responsible for everything and everyone fuels burnout and why it’s time to challenge that.

[13:01–15:00]
💬 Where to start & how I can help
I wrap with two options for going deeper: book a discovery call with me at amandahess.ca or join my Love Yourself No Matter What membership for free at joinamanda.ca. Plus, how to reach me for the free 5-minute reset.

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This episode is more than a conversation—it’s a reclamation.

LT Dixon joins me to share a deeply personal, powerful journey of healing, self-discovery, and radical self-love. From surviving abuse to raising five kids as a single mom, LT didn't just rebuild her life—she reinvented her identity.

Together, we explore what it actually means to put yourself first without guilt, why so many women feel resistance to loving themselves, and how to start operating from a completely new paradigm—where self-love isn’t optional, it’s foundational.

You’ll walk away with tangible wisdom, loving truth bombs, and a fresh perspective on what it means to be love, lead with love, and build a life from the inside out.

Whether you’re at the start of your healing journey or deep in the process of remembering who you are—you’ll find resonance here.

0:00 – Welcome + introducing my first guest in this self-love series
2:15 – LT’s story: healing from abuse and rediscovering herself
6:45 – “It started with a cup of coffee”: the smallest act of self-love that changed everything
10:30 – The moment she said, “This can’t be my life”—and why that question matters
14:55 – How to ask, ‘Where am I?’ and why this is the most powerful place to begin
19:30 – Redefining love on your own terms: acceptance, appreciation, no judgment
24:10 – LT’s “me, we, them” framework and how it transformed her family
29:50 – What to do when you feel resistance to loving yourself
33:40 – Setting boundaries without guilt—and how it’s a form of love
37:20 – Why healing isn’t about being perfect—it’s about being honest
41:10 – Final takeaways + where to find LT online

📱 TikTok: @getyourshifttogether
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Ever feel like nobody truly sees you or hears you—like you’re speaking, but it’s not landing? In this episode, I’m sharing a personal story that cracked this experience wide open for me. If you’re neurodivergent, highly sensitive, or just someone who’s been labeled as “too much,” this is going to resonate deeply. We’ll explore what it actually means to feel unseen and unheard, why this is such a common experience (especially for women like us), and how to begin rewriting that story from the inside out.

🧠 Here’s what we cover:

[00:00] – Welcome & why this topic matters
[01:30] – A real-life moment with my husband that brought up deep feelings of being unheard
[04:15] – How I reacted (and what I used to do before I had the tools I do now)
[07:00] – The shame spiral that used to follow, and why I don’t go there anymore
[09:20] – Why neurodivergent women are often misunderstood and mislabeled
[11:40] – A poolside story with my dad’s wife that triggered old beliefs and shame
[14:30] – How hiding parts of ourselves contributes to feeling invisible
[16:50] – Why you have to see yourself before anyone else can
[18:40] – What it means to be your own ride or die
[20:00] – How to build connection, support, and belonging—on your terms
[22:10] – The two ways to work with me if you’re ready to finally feel seen and heard

💥 Ready to feel truly seen and heard in your life?

→ Book a 1:1 consult with me here: https://amandahess.ca
→ Join my membership and start your FREE week here: https://joinamanda.ca

You deserve to take up space. Let’s do this together. 💛

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Do you ever find yourself holding back from feeling hope—because deep down, you're afraid of being disappointed, let down, or even embarrassed? You're not alone. In this episode, we explore how learning to build emotional capacity for hope is essential to living a life that feels meaningful, connected, and aligned with who you really are.

You'll learn why hope isn't just a feel-good emotion—it’s a vital ingredient for mental and emotional wellbeing. If you're sensitive, neurodivergent, or simply someone who’s been hurt before, hope can feel risky. But avoiding it? That leads to a life that gets smaller and less satisfying over time. This episode will show you a new way.

We’ll walk through a clear 3-step process for expanding your emotional capacity so that you can open yourself back up to dreaming, desiring, and pursuing the things that actually matter to you. You’ll leave with practical tools, journaling prompts, and a challenge to help you reconnect with possibility—on your own terms.

[0:00 - 3:00] – Why This Matters More Than Ever
A powerful reminder of what’s possible when you allow yourself to feel hope—and what’s at stake when you don’t.

[3:01 - 6:50] – Why Hope Feels Unsafe for So Many Women
Understand the hidden ways you’ve been taught to shut down your dreams and why hope can feel like a risk rather than a resource.

[6:51 - 10:00] – The “Realism” Trap & How It Shrinks Your Life
Explore how being “realistic” often becomes code for “settling”—and how to know if you’ve fallen into that trap.

[10:01 - 14:15] – What Happens When You Avoid Hope
Discover the quiet cost of choosing safety over possibility and how it shows up in your relationships, career, and self-worth.

[14:16 - 18:30] – The Behaviors That Numb Hope—and Why They Don’t Work
From resentment to numbing to self-sabotage, we unpack the habits that develop when you shut out hope—and how to shift them.

[18:31 - 22:00] – What Emotional Capacity Really Is (And Why You Need It)
Learn what it means to actually build your emotional capacity—not just tolerate more stress—and how this changes everything.

[22:01 - 27:00] – The 3-Step Framework for Building Capacity for Hope

Regulate your nervous system

Allow emotions (instead of avoiding them)

Shift your thought patterns with powerful questions
You'll get concrete tools and journaling prompts to start implementing today.

[27:01 - 29:00] – How Avoiding Pain Also Blocks Joy
Understand how protecting yourself from difficult emotions is also limiting your ability to feel joy, connection, and satisfaction.

[29:01 - End] – Your Next Step: Practice Hope, On Purpose
Take on a simple challenge to practice hopeful thinking in the next 24 hours—and learn how you can get deeper support, totally free, through the Love Yourself No Matter What Membership. Head to joinamanda.ca to try it out with no strings attached.

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In this episode, I thoughtfully explore the importance of making peace with our past selves as a key element of self-love and personal growth. Through my own personal experiences and insights, I share how embracing compassion toward past versions of ourselves, rather than judging or rejecting them, allows for genuine healing and deeper self-understanding. Recognizing our past selves as doing their best with the knowledge and resources they had at the time helps free us from lingering regret or shame. Ultimately, cultivating this understanding creates a more authentic, peaceful, and fulfilling life.

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Even in paradise, self-judgment can follow us. In this short and honest episode, I share insights I’m having while in Hawaii—about why being somewhere beautiful doesn’t automatically make self love easier, and how we often carry our inner critic with us no matter where we go. I talk about what real self love looks like, how to practice it in everyday moments, and why your circumstances are never the key to your happiness.

🕒 Episode Breakdown:

• [00:00] – Welcome from Hawaii + the surprising truth about not always feeling good in beautiful places
• [01:30] – Why paradise doesn’t fix self-judgment or negative self-talk
• [02:20] – Self love is a choice you make in the moment—not something that comes from the outside
• [03:40] – Real examples from my own life: body image, nervous system, and family tension
• [05:10] – The myth that self-criticism creates accountability or growth
• [06:15] – What practicing real-time self love actually looks like
• [07:20] – Emotions don’t last forever: how to ride the wave instead of resisting it
• [08:00] – Why your brain comes with you—whether it's to Hawaii, weight loss, or success
• [08:40] – An invitation to join the Love Yourself No Matter What Membership

✨ If this episode resonated with you, click HERE to learn more about my brand new membership, or come chat with me on Instagram or TikTok @theamandahess.

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We live in a world that constantly prioritizes convenience—fast food, quick fixes, and instant results. But what happens when we take that same approach to our own lives? In this episode, I dive into how we’ve been conditioned to prioritize efficiency over true self-investment and why that’s holding us back from real growth, joy, and fulfillment. If you’ve ever struggled with feeling like an “inconvenience” or putting yourself last, this episode is for you.

🕒 [0:00 - 2:30] | The Lightbulb Moment

• How this topic came to me while driving home from spin class.
• The realization: We’ve been trained to think of ourselves as “convenient” or “inconvenient.”
• The connection between convenience culture and how we treat ourselves.

🕒 [2:30 - 6:00] | The Fast Food Analogy 🍔

• Why we can’t build a strong, fulfilling life using a “fast food” approach.
• The difference between cheap, quick fixes vs. meaningful, long-term investments.
• The impact of always choosing the easiest, lowest-cost option—whether with time, money, or energy.

🕒 [6:00 - 9:30] | The Convenience of Input vs. The Inconvenience of Output

• We often choose what’s easy and efficient (the “fast food” input).
• But that leads to long-term dissatisfaction, burnout, and lack of fulfillment.
• The cycle of cutting corners and why it never leads to real happiness.

🕒 [9:30 - 12:00] | Time Audit: How Much Are You Really Investing in Yourself?

• A quick self-check: How much time do you spend purely on YOU (not for work, family, or others)?
• Why most women answer less than an hour per week—or even zero.
• The hidden consequences of constantly deprioritizing yourself.

🕒 [12:00 - 15:30] | Money Audit: Are You Always Looking for the Cheapest Option?

• A second self-check: How much money have you spent only on yourself in the past year?
• Why we spend so much on family, homes, and responsibilities but almost nothing on ourselves.
• The real cost of only buying things for ourselves if they’re on sale.

🕒 [15:30 - 18:00] | The House vs. Fast Food Comparison 🏡

• When you buy a house, do you pick the absolute cheapest one with poor materials and bad insulation? No!
• Yet, we do this with ourselves—choosing “cheap” solutions instead of quality investments.
• What would happen if you built yourself the way you build a home—thoughtfully, intentionally, with care?

🕒 [18:00 - 20:30] | The Power of Real Self-Investment

• How investing in yourself expands your capacity—to handle stress, relationships, work, and life.
• Why the belief that “investing in myself takes away from others” is a LIE.
• How my personal coaching and self-development investments have made me better in all areas of life.

🕒 [20:30 - 23:00] | Stop Looking for the Quickest Fix

• The obsession with shortcuts and why they often lead to more frustration.
• The importance of consistency over speed.
• Why the “slow, nourishing” approach is the one that actually works.

🕒 [23:00 - 25:00] | Final Thoughts + Action Steps

• How to start making better investments in yourself—with time and money.
• The first step: Start with nervous system regulation (grab my free 5-minute reset at joinamanda.ca).
• A reminder: You deserve more than the clearance section of life.

🎧 Ready to stop treating yourself like fast food? Listen now!

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