Today I'm talking about grief over the future we lost when we got out of an abusive relationship. How do we deal with it and is it normal?

Topics:
Grief
What is a normal expectation of happiness
When the past comes for us
We have been through rapid change and our minds and emotions have to catch up with everything that has happened
Feeling uncomfortable in our new lives
Reframing the future
Taking the time to grieve instead of distracting yourself
Making space for the future
The gifts that come along with grief
Make a safety plan for difficult days
There is light on the other side of grief

Sometimes I Think the Grief Over My Failed Life Will Never Be Over

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I almost quit this podcast. Yikes! I'm here now so let's jump right into the episode.

Topics:
What's been going on
Why we start new projects when we need to make a major decision
Order from chaos
The Home Edit
All abuse is physical abuse
Why we need other survivors in our lives
Where the Crawdads Sing
Isolation
Allowing others to love us
Keep fighting against the abuse to move into your future
Be brave
Take care of yourself

Resources:
The Home Edit

Get Organized with The Home Edit

Where the Crawdads Sing

Wilderness to Wild

All Abuse is Physical Abuse

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Julia

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Today's episode is inspired by Mother's Day. How does sharing children with a narcissist impact your parenting?

Topics:
What I learned this week
Narcissists and their relationships with their mothers and other women
The narcissist's relationship with the mother of their children
Mother's Day and dreading being treated well
Gifts come with a price
How and why a narcissist replaces you as mother of your children
How the narcissist rewrites your children's memories
How the narcissist sets the new person up to take the blame in the future
How to reinforce your role as mother when it is being attacked by the narcissist
Making new memories with your kids
Your freedom to be the mother you always dreamed of
A little pep talk
Happy Mother's Day

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Julia

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What does abuse look like? Today I give examples of non-physical abuse.

Topics:
Obvious physical abuse
"Accidental" physical abuse
Show of violence
Controlling freedom of movement
Spying
Financial control
Abuse of children, loved ones, pets
Taking your independence away

Resources:
The Subtleties of Abuse
Poison Control

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Julia

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Today we are talking about taking time to rest and relax.

Topics:
Why we need to slow down and take a break from our thoughts and lives
How to make taking space easier when you aren't used to letting your mind relax
A list of ways to take a break

 M&M's Caramel Cold Brew
Taking a Break for Mental Health and Healing

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Today we are going to get real and work on the thoughts going on in our minds. You didn't cause the abuse and it is not your fault. Let's continue to break the hold abusers have over us by giving the responsibility for their behavior back to them.

Topics:
Abuse is not your fault
We struggle to believe that we didn't cause someone to abuse us
Acceptance
There is a time to ask why and how and a time to let it go and move forward
There is nothing wrong with you
The expectations of a narcissist for their relationship and how it is abusive
You didn't do anything to deserve abuse
How to break free from blaming yourself for the abuse
It's never okay for someone to abuse another person
The abuser chose to abuse
Change your mental narrative about abuse
Find your value in the right place and from the right people
You are a survivor

Resources:
Nothing About You Caused a Narcissist to Abuse You

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Today I am going to talk about how I came out of denial that my relationship was abusive. It was a long, painful process to face the truth. My hope is that what I share may help you move through it faster than I did.

Resources:
The Power and Control Wheel
How I Came Out of Denial

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You need a mantra! You do. It can help you change your thought process and keep you moving forward on your healing journey.

Topics:
How I received a mantra from a friend.
Tips for finding a mantra.
Examples of mantras.
What to do with your mantra.
How a mantra helps your mind heal.

Resources:
Future Survivors: You Need a Mantra
Future Survivors: You Need a Purpose
Create Your Playlist

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