WHAT YOU THINK, FEEL AND DO/HOW DO WE GET LIFE TO GO OUR WAY/WHY DOESN’T LIFE GO OUR WAY AND HOW DO WE CHANGE THAT

“At this moment in time, is Life listening to what you think, considerate to what you feel and in alignment with what you do? Have people and circumstances in your life embraced what you expected? Has the universe obeyed the logic and rationality of your mind? Is this the story and the movie of your life as you imagined it to be?” These are some of the questions I ask those who have plunged deep into the abyss of a negative mood state.

When those with depression come to consult with me initially, they relate the circumstances that facilitated their melancholic state to the point where they’re sitting across the table from me. Life threw them a curveball regarding circumstances and relationships in their life. As much as in the past they were getting through life quite fine, there was a point it all changed it all became far too much.

In answer to the questions, all shake their heads. Life is not listening to what they think, inconsiderate to what they feel and definitely not aligned with what they do. Life has turned out unexpected. It is illogical. Irrational, not their story and definitely not the movie they had imagined. The story related is sad and depressing. The movie is one wherein they are the victims.

We may be fortunate enough to have a powerful and strong mind. Be further bestowed with position, power, fame and fortune. We may then choose to intimidate, manipulate people and coerce events to suit us. Yet, life will take its own course. As much as people at times may do what you want them to do, at other times they will behave as they wish to with no consideration for what’s on your mind. The events turn out contrary to your mind.  

Like a record stuck, the mind replays the story it wanted in the hope of a change, yet the reality is different. Eventually giving up on its expectations, it has no place to go. With no answers or solutions, the mind stagnates, uncertain and indecisive as to the future. There seems no way out.  

The mind gets depressed hitting the proverbial brick wall. It loses confidence and self-esteem in itself. It is overwhelmed, becomes anxious and fearful of the future as it cannot trust itself in. No matter what the mind may think, feel or do with its body there is no predictable outcome, has no impact on life and therefore seems wrong.

At this point, it feels that the whole world is conspiring against you. There is a slump in energy. We struggle to make it through the day. What then is the way forward? Rather than life listening, being considerate and in alignment with us, I need to be the other way around. We need to listen, be considerate and be in alignment with life. Rather than people and circumstances embracing us, we need to embrace them. We need to participate in a story and movie determined by life in obedience to the principles of life.

We need to humble ourselves, engage and embrace this life and universe in its entirety. We need to go beyond our mind and open up to the infinite awareness of all that life has to offer. Rather than the one tracked opinion of the mind, we need to be aware of the infinite possibilities that exist. To allow for the ebb and flow that life offers.

No matter how powerful and strong our mind is, the universe is infinite times more powerful and strong. No matter what we may think, feel and do, there is an infinite potential of responses life can offer to us. There is a far higher likelihood that life doesn’t go our way. In fact, it’s amazing the little that does go our way.

To embrace life and all that the universe throws at us, we have to detach and let go of our mind. Detachment means we do our absolute best, yet have no attachment to the outcome of what we do. We surrender with no expectation as to the outcome. We’re now living in a state wherein we embrace life...