Negotiating isn’t easy. And for countless women, it’s exponentially harder. If you come across as fired up and assertive, you’ll face backlash from people who label you as unlikable, unhirable, intimidating, or bossy. If you’re amenable or meek, the negotiation falls apart. It’s no wonder 60% of women haven’t negotiated issues like workplace pay—at all. 

But “negotiation” doesn’t have to be a trigger word that’s avoided, says an acclaimed author-expert. Science reveals proven strategies that can help women get what they want.

Queenfidence Lifestyle is honored to feature an amazing fortified female leader, BETH FISHER-YOSHIDA, PH.D., CCS, is a global expert and educator in intercultural negotiation and communication. She’s the program director of Columbia University’s Master of Science in Negotiation and Conflict Resolution, a negotiation consultant for the United Nations, and the CEO of the consulting agency Fisher Yoshida International. She works in the U.S. and worldwide, conducting workshops on leadership, culture, workplace conflict, and negotiation, and boasts a client list that includes Fortune 100 companies, nonprofits, military and security forces, governments, NGOs, and educational institutions. Her new book, New Story, New Power: A Woman’s Guide to Negotiation (Bold Story Press; January 23, 2023), helps women of all ages make successful negotiations a reality. Learn more at bethfisheryoshida.com

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In this episode, learn how to communicate inside and out with calm, confidence, and self-love no matter the circumstances.

Presenters and performers aren’t the only ones who need calm and confidence in their everyday lives. After all, confidence is the fuel that drives us toward our ambitions, and calm eases the way. And when the two states combine, they form a magical and powerful combination.

After years of struggling with communication in school, business, and public, Patricia Stark achieved this state of “Calmfidence” not through some single moment of revelation but through years of small insights, “aha” moments, and constant practice. Today, after helping thousands of students and clients find their own voices and abilities, Stark makes her methods available in Calmfidence—a comprehensive guide to improving communication skills in any social interaction.

Calmfidence gathers a unique set of mental tools and experiential practices for quelling the self-sabotaging habits of the Inner Critic. With warmth and compassion, Stark guides you in how to identify and overcome your blockages to communication, how to react skillfully to strong emotions as they arise, and how to deal with setbacks in your Calmfidence journey without self-judgment.

You don’t need some rare talent to communicate well. When you engage with the exercises and encouragement in Calmfidence, you’ll learn how to stop surrendering to fear and become the calm and confident communicator who has always been waiting within.

About our special guest:

Based in New York & New Jersey, Patricia Stark Communications is a personal and professional development training company working with entrepreneurs, corporate executives, training & development professionals, celebrities, authors, news anchors, TV show hosts, influencers, and others whose careers and goals rely on their ability to communicate with calm and confidence- Calmfidence®. PSC is honored to have coached and trained 1000's of clients from around the country and around the globe including New Zealand, Egypt, Dubai, Australia, England, Japan, Saudi Arabia, Denmark, and Ireland.

Patricia Stark is a Certified Personal & Executive Coach (CPEC of the CaPP Institute -Coaching & Positive Psychology) & a Certified Body Language Trainer (Body Language Institute Washington DC) and holds certificates in Eclectic Cognitive Behavior Therapy & Visualization/Guided Imagery (LIU). She heads Patricia Stark Communications and specializes in helping clients build their Calmfidence® in interviews, on-camera, and in daily life with tangible strategies for powerful communication skills, mastering self-talk, and stress & anxiety relievers used by the pros.

Patricia has extensive experience as a health & medical news anchor, radio interview host, and appears regularly as a TV guest expert on the topics of communication and confidence. Her new book “Calmfidence: How to Trust Yourself, Tame Your Inner Critic, and Shine in Any Spotlight” is set to be published in September 2021 by Sounds True/MacMillan Publishing.

With over 20 years of first-hand experience in front of the camera and on stage, Patricia is one of the few trainers in the country who has worked extensively in front of the camera in both broadcast and corporate media. Patricia has appeared in over 2000 Fortune 500 corporate media productions in just about every sector of industry as a moderator, trainer, host, and corporate spokesperson, and has anchored national and international news.  She is a member of SAG/AFTRA and has appeared in numerous television commercials and programs and held a recurring role on Law & Order: Criminal Intent.

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Today's Fortified Female Leader is Jill McAbe who is a best selling author and celebrated coach in business success, strategic planning, finding purpose, and the science of high performance and change. As a lifelong service-based entrepreneur and student of social science, Jill has dedicated her career to the science of turning dreams into reality.

Jill's best-selling book, It's Go Time, helps professionals, creatives, and expertise-based entreprenuers who are tired of feeling undervalued learn how to start and scale businesses that make them feel alive and inspired.

Lacking an understanding of how to choose projects and execute on shorter timelines, many business owners struggle–sometimes for years–to make their businesses work. With It’s Go Time, you’ll learn everything you need to build a business that works. Your reward will be renewed motivation, unstoppable productivity, and a clear path to the business and life you want.

Sometimes it takes a catastrophic event to wake us up. We’re diagnosed with a life-changing illness, end a long-term relationship, unexpectedly get laid off, or face an event that utterly upends life as we know it (COVID-19, anyone?). These turning points can be terrifying. Yet, we all encounter them in our lives. The real question is: how will we face them?

 The so-what: Despite our knee-jerk reaction to hang on to what’s “normal,” disruptive moments are exactly what’s needed to transform ourselves and the world around us, urges recognized leadership and personal development expert RADHA RUPARELL.

 And she should know it. In Brave Now: Rise Through Struggle and Unlock Your Greatest Self (March 19, 2021), Ruparell shares the battle of her lifetime—a brush with death from a deadly virus we know all too well—and how she pulled from two decades of professional experience to overcome its challenges.

 Radha Ruparell, a global cross-sector leader with expertise in leadership development and personal transformation. She has worked with CEOs, Fortune 500 senior executives, social entrepreneurs, and grassroots leaders around the world and heads the Collective Leadership Accelerator at Teach For All, a global network of independent organizations in 60 countries committed to developing leadership in classrooms and communities to ensure all children fulfill their potential. She holds a dual master’s degree from Harvard University and is the author of the Amazon top seller Brave Now: Rise Through Struggle and Unlock Your Greatest Self (March 19, 2021). Learn more at bravenowbook.com.

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For women who’ve learned to be their own worst enemies, this in-your-face guide offers powerful tools to break free from the cultural messages that feed negative body image and stand in the way of women becoming their most authentic and radiant selves.

In a society overwhelmed with messages of how women should be and appear, it’s easy for them to internalize these ideas and become their own harshest critics. It’s time for a change. It’s time to stop squashing women into painfully tight “should-be” boxes and celebrate their bodies for what they are—divine tools to reach our highest aspirations and experience the full fabulousness of life.

Erica Mather is a lifelong teacher who has struggled with emotional overeating, compulsive over exercising, and body dysmorphic disorder. As an embodiment educator, she guides people to feel better in, and about, their bodies. Her Adore Your Body Transformational Programs help overcome body image challenges, and The Yoga Clinic of New York City helps students, teachers, and health professionals to learn about empowered self-care for the body. Mather is a recognized body image expert, a Forrest Yoga lineage-holder, and was also named one of the next generation’s important yoga teachers by Yoga Journal. She writes for mindbodygreen on the topic of body image challenges, is a regular columnist for Rivertown Magazine, and is a popular repeat interview on the SoulFeed Podcast, Hay House Radio’s Angel Club, and many more. Mather lives in New York City, NY. Visit her at www.ericamather.com

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There is a gap between where most individuals are now and what they believe they are truly capable of. Most of the time that gap is HUGE. Our special guest Diane Allen pulls back the curtains and brings us on the stage to step into the flow state.

Who is Diane Allen? In her own words, "I spent years training to become a professional violinist. Feeling bulletproof with my New York City violin training, I was completely caught off guard when my nerves would get the better part of me during auditions. Unable to show my high skill level under high pressure, I struggled to get work.

After 10 years of trial and error, I found that when I got into the music and into my flow state, my nerves would go away, I’d achieve personal bests daily, and I tapped into the energy of influence. So I made getting into flow a repeatable process.

As a result, I became the concertmaster (lead violinist) of the Central Oregon Symphony for 15 years.

With my Copper Dragon Violin in hand, I now deliver keynote performances that combine music, visuals, psychology, and neuroscience along with the specific steps to deeply engage, refuel, tap into creativity, and become fully utilized. Through my proprietary three-step system audience members learn to access the peak performance that already exists within them, make it a repeatable process, and discover how to exude their influential energy and lead."

Visit her online at www.dianeallenspeaker.com

Not only are we living in an era of particularly high anxiety, but according to the Anxiety and Depression Association of America, anxiety-related disorders are the most common mental illness in the United States, affecting more than 40 million adults aged 18 and older. And anxiety disorders also affect more than 25 percent of teenagers ages 13 to 18. Robbins’ story offers hope and inspiration to individuals trapped by anxiety disorders.

Food for Thought:

• Anxiety is a self-imposed prison with walls that close in overtime.
• Avoiding triggers that provoke panic attacks is not a cure for anxiety, but an imperfect anxiety-management strategy.
• It is possible to free oneself from the prison of anxiety through self-compassion and the hard work of introspection.

About our special guest: Wendy Tamis Robbins, author of The Box: An Invitation to Freedom from Anxiety, is a lawyer by day, writer by night, and a “professional panic attacker.” Despite near-crippling anxiety, she worked her way through Dartmouth College and law school before, in her 30s, she set her mind to overcoming the anxiety and panic attacks that increasingly limited her life.

Wendy Tamis Robbins’ anxiety, obsessive-compulsive and panic disorders started when she was a young child growing up in a volatile household. Anxiety controlled her life well into adulthood, to the point of agoraphobia. Though she dabbled in treatment from time to time, it took many years and an unsuccessful marriage before she finally took hold of her mental health and, through introspection, meditation, re-parenting, and self-administered exposure therapy, escaped from her self-inflicted prison.

For the past 20 years, she has worked in corporate finance, creating and preserving affordable housing and lending to underserved communities. Learn more at www.WendyTamisRobbins.com.

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When you think about healing from emotional trauma, do you picture Olympic-style weightlifters, loud clanking barbells weighing hundreds of pounds, or even that dusty pair of dumbbells tucked away in your closet?

 You should, says a respected trauma practitioner and pioneer.

In an era defined by trauma—from #MeToo to COVID to social injustice—survivors often turn to “branded for healing” fitness modalities like yoga. But these approaches can trigger survivors. What may be the answer? Trauma-informed strength training, which benefits not only your heart, muscles, bones, posture, and balance but also your feelings of self-confidence, self-efficacy, and physical safety. And that’s empowering.

 A celebrated personal trainer, trauma practitioner, and educator, LAURA KHOUDARI reveals this new approach to healing in her debut book, Lifting Heavy Things: Healing Trauma One Rep at a Time (LifeTree Media; May 25, 2021).

 She is standing by to share: 

• 3 practical tools that will allow you to feel safe in your body 
• Easy ways to establish a trauma-sensitive, home-based strength training practice.
• How to quickly identity—and recover from—triggering movements and moments. 

About our special guest:

LAURA KHOUDARI is a trauma practitioner, certified personal trainer, and corrective exercise specialist. Widely recognized within the trauma and fitness communities, her work has been featured in Buzzfeed, UpWorthy, Outside Online, Medium, Tonic, and Girls Gone Strong. She is the author of Lifting Heavy Things: Healing Trauma One Rep at a Time. 

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