Transformative Journeys and the Six Rules of Happiness with Ray Martin

Host Andy Grant interviews Ray Martin, a multifaceted entrepreneur, author, coach, and mindfulness teacher. Ray shares his profound journey of personal transformation, discussing the losses that led him to take a sabbatical, his experiences of running a marathon, and spending 14 years living out of a backpack.

He delves into the foundational principles and six rules of happiness he discovered and shares how mindfulness and meditation played a key role in his evolution.

Ray's inspiring story highlights the importance of living authentically, finding one's true path, and empowering others.

00:00 Welcome to Real Men Feel

00:19 Introducing Ray Martin

00:45 Ray's Journey of Loss and Transformation

04:46 The Turning Point: Helping Others

09:45 A New Path: From Businessman to Actor

13:42 Guiding Principles for Life

18:36 Discovering Mindfulness and Meditation

21:19 Connecting Through Service and Adventure

23:32 The Marathon Dream

24:38 Fundraising Success

26:01 The Call to Write a Book

26:39 Learning to Write

27:50 Returning to the UK

30:42 Six Rules of Happiness

39:57 Intentional Relationships

41:00 Empowering Others

43:18 Conclusion and Resources

Resources

Life Without A Tie, Ray Martin

-- https://amzn.to/3Bl3kRD

The Untethered Soul: Journey Beyond Yourself, Michael Singer -- https://amzn.to/3Bngwpj

The Hero's Journey, Joseph Campbell -- https://amzn.to/4gKyj9V

Managing Transitions: Making The Most of Change, William Bridges -- https://amzn.to/3Bl3OqV

Links

Ray Martin -- https://LifeWithoutATie.com

Follow Ray on LinkedIn -- https://www.linkedin.com/in/coachraymartin/

Connect with Andy and the Real Men Feel Podcast:

Interested in a Clarity Call with Andy? - visit https://theandygrant.com/talk

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Personal Website | https://theandygrant.com for coaching, healing, and book info!

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Understanding and Strengthening Modern Relationships with Kristal DeSantis

In this episode of Real Men Feel, host Andy Grant discusses with Kristal DeSantis, a licensed marriage and family therapist, her expertise in trauma work and relationships.

Kristal shares her journey from avoiding marriage to becoming a leading authority in relational therapy. She insightfully states, 'I wanted my practice to reflect two things: tactical skills and a strength-forward approach.’

They delve into Kristal's STRONG model of relational therapy, which includes six pillars aimed at fostering healthy relationships.

The conversation also covers the evolution of relationships, the challenges men face, and the often overlooked issue of male sexual abuse.

Kristal notes, 'The experience of the intersection of pain and helplessness is often where trauma begins,’ emphasizing the transformative power of trauma-informed and attachment-based approaches in therapy.

00:00 Welcome to Real Men Feel

00:20 Introducing Kristal DeSantis

01:18 Kristal's Journey to Therapy

04:34 Focusing on First Responders

06:54 Understanding Trauma in Relationships

09:56 The STRONG Model of Relational Therapy

19:53 Challenges Men Face in Modern Relationships

24:41 Redefining Modern Protection

25:56 Debunking Misconceptions About Men and Relationships

27:53 The New Relationship Paradigm

29:42 Navigating the Modern Dating Landscape

35:25 Men as Survivors of Abuse

43:50 Resources and Final Thoughts

Resources

STRONG: A Relationship Field Guide for the Modern Man, Kristal DeSantis

-- https://amzn.to/3Zw3IXu

The Abuse OF Men by Women: It Happens, It Hurts, And It's Time to Get Real About It, Ann Silvers -- https://amzn.to/3XxaEB1

His History, Her Story: A Survival Guide for Spouses of Male Survivors of Sexual Abuse and Trauma, by Debra Warner -- https://amzn.to/4d8uZ5y

Links

Kristal DeSantis -- https://www.strong.love

Follow Kristal on IG -- www.instagram.com/atxtherapist

Connect with Andy and the Real Men Feel Podcast:

Interested in a Clarity Call with Andy? - visit https://theandygrant.com/talk

Instagram | @realmenfeelshow & @theandygrant

Personal Website | https://theandygrant.com for coaching, healing, and book info!

Podcast Website | http://realmenfeel.org for all things podcast-related!

RMF Facebook Group | http://realmenfeel.org/group

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Overcoming False Accusations and Personal Growth: Ghasan Alesayi's Journey

In this episode of Real Men Feel, host Andy Grant speaks with Ghasan Alesayi, an actor and filmmaker from Toronto. Ghasan shares his rollercoaster journey of dealing with false legal accusations and public scrutiny after being arrested for voyeurism while working with a dating coach.

He talks about his battle with fear, insecurities, and the lessons he learned about vulnerability, consent, and empathy during this challenging period.

Throughout the conversation, Ghasan emphasizes the importance of understanding one's emotions, embracing personal growth, and how he is navigating life after this experience, including his ongoing project—a documentary titled 'Uncancelled' that details his story.

00:00 Introduction to Real Men Feel

00:19 Meet Ghasan Alesayi: Actor and Filmmaker

01:05 Ghassan's Rollercoaster Journey Begins

03:03 Facing Fears and Seeking Therapy

10:01 The Dating Coach Experience

18:11 The Arrest and Legal Battle

26:09 Facing Serious Charges

27:15 Contemplating the Future

28:19 Seeking Legal Help

30:57 The News Breaks

32:36 Support and Isolation

34:33 Impact on Career

38:27 Lessons Learned

41:23 Rebuilding and Moving Forward

48:36 Documenting the Journey

50:37 Final Thoughts and Resources

Ghasan discusses the impact on his life, the lessons he learned about consent, and his journey towards recovery and empowerment.

Links

Ghasan on Medium -- https://medium.com/@ghasan.alesayi/love-lies-and-legal-trouble-b6f853a7567c

Ghasan AKA Sam Al Esai -- https://samalesai.ca/

Connect with Andy and the Real Men Feel Podcast:

Interested in a Clarity Call with Andy? - visit https://theandygrant.com/talk

Instagram | @realmenfeelshow & @theandygrant

Personal Website | https://theandygrant.com for coaching, healing, and book info!

Podcast Website | http://realmenfeel.org for all things podcast-related!

RMF Facebook Group | http://realmenfeel.org/group

Support this podcast | https://anchor.fm/realmenfeel/support

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Real Men Feel: Embracing Authenticity with Jason Lange

In this episode of Real Men Feel, host Andy Grant welcomes Jason Lange, a men's embodiment coach and certified No More Mr. Nice Guy coach. They discuss the origins and impact of nice guy syndrome, the importance of men's groups for growth and support, and the journey toward authenticity and emotional expression.

Jason shares insights into how nice guys are created, the significance of setting boundaries, and the role of men's work in fostering healthier relationships.

The conversation also touches on men's cultural conditioning to disconnect from their emotions and the need for men to rebuild their connection to their bodies and instincts.

Highlights:

00:00 Welcome to Real Men Feel

00:20 Introducing Jason Lange

02:20 Understanding Nice Guy Syndrome

09:15 The Impact of Men's Groups

15:21 The Importance of Embodiment

21:13 Challenges Men Face

25:20 The Role of Men's Groups in Emotional Health

37:34 Nice Guy Recovery and Authenticity

44:39 Jason Lange's Podcast and Final Thoughts

Resources

No More Mr. Nice Guy: A Proven Plan for Getting What You Want in Love, Sex, and Life by Dr. Robert Glover - https://amzn.to/3ALB1eT

Dr. Glover on Real Men Feel - https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/whats-wrong-with-being-a-nice-guy/id1107137758?i=1000507430169

Links

Jason Lange -- https://evolutionary.men

Connect with Andy and the Real Men Feel Podcast:

Interested in a Clarity Call with Andy? - visit https://theandygrant.com/talk

Instagram | @realmenfeelshow & @theandygrant

Personal Website | https://theandygrant.com for coaching, healing, and book info!

Podcast Website | http://realmenfeel.org for all things podcast-related!

RMF Facebook Group | http://realmenfeel.org/group

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YouTube | https://youtube.com/realmenfeel

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Generational Healing and Integrating Masculine and Feminine Energies with Gao Motsemme

In this episode of Real Men Feel, host Andy Grant welcomes Gao Motsemme, a psychic surgeon and embodiment queen dedicated to helping individuals break free from patterns of generational toxic relationships. Gao discusses her journey into ancestral healing, energy work, and the importance of connecting with one's inner child and sexual energy. The conversation delves into the integration of masculine and feminine energies, the impact of generational trauma, and the significance of authentic leadership in both personal and professional settings. Listeners are invited to explore their own emotional and energetic landscapes to achieve deeper healing and self-awareness.

00:00 Introduction to Real Men Feel

00:21 Meet Gao Motsemme: Psychic Surgeon and Healer

01:39 Understanding Generational Trauma

03:53 Gao's Personal Journey and Awakening

06:53 The Role of Ancestral Healing

09:36 African Ancient Quantum Medicine

15:28 The Power of Sexual Energy

22:27 Leadership and Presence

23:55 Integrating Masculine and Feminine Energies

27:31 Connecting with the Inner Child

31:11 The Importance of Emotional Resilience

39:34 Conclusion and Contact Information

Links

Gao Motsemme -- https://www.gaomotsemme.com/

Book a complimentary call with Gao -- https://bit.ly/Orgasmicclarity

Connect with Andy and the Real Men Feel Podcast:

Interested in a Clarity Call with Andy? - visit https://theandygrant.com/talk

Instagram | @realmenfeelshow & @theandygrant

Personal Website | https://theandygrant.com for coaching, healing, and book info!

Podcast Website | http://realmenfeel.org for all things podcast-related!

RMF Facebook Group | http://realmenfeel.org/group

Support this podcast | https://anchor.fm/realmenfeel/support

YouTube | https://youtube.com/realmenfeel

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Exploring the Flavors of Emotions with Kim Korte

In this episode of Real Men Feel, host Andy Grant converses with Kim Korte, a sensory perception and emotion management strategist. Kim explains her unique metaphor for emotions, comparing them to flavors and cooking ingredients. They discuss how emotions are formed, the impact of memories, and the importance of acknowledging and working through emotions rather than suppressing them. Kim shares insights from her book, 'Yucky Yummy Savory Sweet: Understanding the Flavors of Emotions' and discusses how external sensory perceptions and past experiences influence emotional responses. She also emphasizes the significance of emotional granularity and the benefits of being attuned to one's feelings to improve overall well-being.

00:00 Welcome to Real Men Feel

00:32 Introducing Kim Korty

01:43 Exploring Emotions Through Food Metaphors

04:29 Understanding Emotional Processes

06:27 The Importance of Emotional Awareness

20:09 Practical Exercises for Emotional Insight

27:48 Personal Reflections and Impact

34:15 Final Thoughts and Farewell

Links

Kim Korte -- https://kimkorte.com

Yucky Yummy Savory Sweet: Understanding the Flavors of Emotions -- https://amzn.to/46S79t6

Connect with Andy and the Real Men Feel Podcast:

Interested in a Clarity Call with Andy? - visit https://theandygrant.com/talk

Instagram | @realmenfeelshow & @theandygrant

Personal Website | https://theandygrant.com for coaching, healing, and book info!

Podcast Website | http://realmenfeel.org for all things podcast-related!

RMF Facebook Group | http://realmenfeel.org/group

Support this podcast | https://anchor.fm/realmenfeel/support

YouTube | https://youtube.com/realmenfeel

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