In this episode of 'Sex Advice for Seniors', I had the pleasure of chatting with sexologist Heather Howard about the challenges faced by individuals with mobility issues in experiencing sexual pleasure. How do you find the ideal, comfortable position to be intimate with your partner after a hip or knee replacement? How can you transition from perhaps a lifetime of having sex in a position that hits all the right spots to finding a new position that does the same?

We discuss the importance of understanding ergonomic adjustments, the psychological impacts of mobility limitations, and the differences in sexual desire and identity across genders. Because I always encourage my guests to offer practical advice, Heather shares sexual positions for those recovering from surgery and emphasises the significance of mental flexibility in navigating sexual function. This conversation especially highlighted for me the need for accessible resources and open communication about sexuality, especially when your body parts aren’t working like they used to!

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Takeaways

* Mobility issues can significantly impact sexual experiences.

* Ergo Erotics provides resources for pleasurable comfort.

* Common mobility issues include hip and knee pain and pelvic pain.

* Psychological factors play a crucial role in sexual motivation.

* Sexual identity is often tied to physical capability.

* Mental flexibility can enhance sexual function post-injury.

* Gender differences affect how individuals approach sexuality.

* Practical adjustments can help maintain sexual intimacy after surgery.

* Ergonomics in sexual activity can lead to sustainable pleasure.

* Open communication about sexuality is essential for health providers.

Chapters

00:00 Introduction to Mobility and Sexuality Challenges

03:07 Understanding ErgoErotics and Its Purpose

06:05 Common Mobility Issues Affecting Sexuality

09:01 Psychological Impact of Mobility Challenges on Sexuality

11:59 Navigating Sexuality After Major Health Changes

15:09 Gender Differences in Sexual Desire and Identity

18:02 Practical Tips for Sexual Positions Post-Surgery

20:48 The Role of Ergonomics in Sexual Comfort

23:57 Exploring Tools and Aids for Enhanced Sexual Experience

26:59 Conclusion and Resources for Further Support

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In this conversation, I enjoyed speaking with tantric teacher Rahasya to explore the intricate world of tantra and sacred sexuality. We delved into our personal journeys, cleared up some misconceptions surrounding tantra, and discussed its relevance for older adults. Together, we navigated the emotional complexities of sexual relationships, emphasising the importance of commitment on spiritual paths and the potential dangers of dabbling in tantra without proper guidance. Our discussion highlighted the necessity for a deeper understanding and respect for the practices involved in tantra, showcasing its transformative power when approached with seriousness and intention.

Takeaways

* I began my journey into sacred sexuality over two decades ago.

* Awakening is just the beginning of a spiritual path, not the end.

* Tantra is often misunderstood and misrepresented in modern culture.

* The emotional side of tantra can be dangerous if not approached correctly.

* Many enter tantra for superficial reasons, but true seekers discover deeper meaning.

* Supporting older adults in their sexual journeys can lead to profound healing.

* Past experiences significantly impact one’s sexual expression and intimacy.

* Dabbling in tantra without commitment can lead to negative experiences.

* True spiritual paths require a level of commitment that many may not be prepared for.

* The serious seeker must navigate the difficult and often uncomfortable path of spiritual growth.

Sound Bites

* "I completed my journey of sexuality by 40."

* "Awakening is really the beginning of a path."

* "Tantra is about learning from spiritual communities."

Chapters

* 00:00 Introduction to Sacred Sexuality

* 02:59 The Journey of a Tantric Teacher

* 05:56 Understanding Tantra: Beyond the Misconceptions

* 09:11 The Role of Tantra in Relationships

* 11:46 Supporting Older Adults in Their Sexual Journeys

* 14:55 The Impact of Past Experiences on Sexuality

* 17:57 The Dangers of Dabbling in Tantra

* 21:00 The Commitment Required for Spiritual Paths

* 23:58 Conclusion: The Path of the Serious Seeker

In this episode, I sit down with Dr. Judson Brandeis to delve into the often-taboo topic of men's sexual health. We tackle critical issues like erectile dysfunction and testosterone replacement therapy, exploring how these challenges impact not just physical well-being but also mental and emotional health as men age.

Our conversation sheds light on the vital role of blood flow and innovative treatments available for men over 60. We also confront the stigma that surrounds discussions of sexual health, emphasising the urgent need for awareness and education in this area.

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Key Takeaways:

- Many men seek help for erectile dysfunction and testosterone replacement.

- Testosterone can revitalise physical, mental, and sexual vitality.

- Ageing often brings erectile dysfunction, which can affect confidence and relationships.

- Medications like Viagra and Cialis are both safe and effective for treating erectile dysfunction.

- Nitric oxide boosters can enhance the efficacy of these medications.

- Healthy blood flow is crucial for sexual function and overall wellness.

- Embracing the changes that come with ageing is key to proactive health management.

- There is a significant stigma surrounding sexual health discussions, particularly for older men.

- Men should also be informed about women's health issues linked to sexual wellness.

- Open dialogue about sexual health can foster better outcomes for everyone involved.

Sound Bites:

- "Men's sexual health often gets brushed under the carpet."

- "Testosterone can ignite your libido."

- "Viagra and Cialis are nothing short of miraculous."

Chapters:

00:00 Introduction to Men's Sexual Health

02:55 Understanding Testosterone and Its Impact

05:58 The Role of Erectile Dysfunction Treatments

09:01 The Psychological Aspects of ED

12:00 Navigating Ageing and Sexual Health

15:12 Innovative Treatments and Therapies

18:07 The Importance of Blood Flow

21:05 Addressing Stigmas in Sexual Health

24:07 The Connection Between Heart Health and ED

26:55 Final Thoughts on Sexual Wellness

Join us for an enlightening discussion that aims to break down barriers and promote healthier conversations around men's sexual health.

https://brandeismd.com/

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Do you consider sex like a McDonald’s burger or a Michelin-starred meal? Do you know the difference and what part tantra plays in how we connect with our partner(s)?

I’ve interviewed several tantra practitioners over the years; each has a different take. In this episode, Janice Lee delves into the world of Tantra, exploring its true essence as she understands it beyond the clichés often associated with it.

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We discuss the importance of intimacy in sexual relationships, practical tips for reviving passion in long-term partnerships, and the significance of understanding one's own arousal. Janice shares her journey into Tantra and the misconceptions surrounding it, emphasising that genuine connection and intimacy are essential in modern dating.

Sound Bites

* "Tantra is about intimacy, not just sex."

* "Sex has become kind of like fast food."

* "It's about being playful and in the moment."

Chapters

00:00 Exploring the Essence of Tantra

04:51 Reviving Intimacy in Long-Term Relationships

09:50 Understanding Arousal and Communication

14:59 The Journey to Authentic Sexuality

20:11 Breaking Down Misconceptions About Tantra

25:02 Finding Genuine Connection in Modern Dating

You can find Janice Lee (Jaylala) - Heart and Soul Tantra - here:

Janice’s Booking Calendar

Bio.Link/Jaylala & Social Media

Janice’s YouTube Channel

Boundary Bliss On-line Course

In a recent post, I wrote about self-exploration and how little many women know and understand their anatomy, especially when it comes to sexual pleasure.

This week’s podcast is an interview with Michelle Germey, a Yoni therapist, about the importance of understanding female anatomy, the challenges women face regarding body confidence and sexual health, and the impact of ageing on sexual desire.

We discuss the need for open communication about sexual issues, the role of clinical sexologists, and the resources available for women seeking help. The conversation emphasises the importance of self-exploration, acceptance of bodily changes, and the normalisation of diverse vulva appearances.

Michelle shares insights on enhancing intimacy and pleasure, even as one ages, and the significance of scheduling intimacy in busy lives.

Takeaways

* The term 'Yoni' refers to female reproductive organs and embodies femininity.

* Understanding one's anatomy is crucial for sexual health and confidence.

* There is no 'normal' appearance for vulvas; diversity should be celebrated.

* Ageing can lead to changes in sexual desire and physical response.

* Communication about sexual health is essential for maintaining intimacy.

* Accessing sexual health services can be challenging, especially for women.

* Clinical sexologists play a vital role in addressing sexual health issues.

* Women often experience shame around their sexuality and bodies.

* Self-exploration and understanding personal pleasure are important.

* Scheduling intimacy can help maintain a fulfilling sexual life.

Sound Bites

* "I wanted to specialize in female biomedical issues."

* "The Yoni is those female organs of the womb."

* "There is no normal; it's just what it is."

Chapters

00:00 Introduction to Yoni Therapy

02:50 Understanding the Yoni and Female Anatomy

06:04 Body Confidence and Normalizing Vulva Diversity

08:55 Ageing, Sexual Desire, and Changes in the Body

11:59 Communication and Overcoming Sexual Shame

14:47 Accessing Sexual Health Services and Support

18:09 The Role of Clinical Sexologists

21:01 Exploring Female Sexuality and Pleasure

23:46 Scheduling Intimacy and Finding Pleasure

26:52 Resources for Sexual Health and Therapy

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https://www.cosrt.org.uk/search-members/

You can find Psychosexual Services on the NHS here. Not all regions offer these services.

Examples

https://slam.nhs.uk/service-detail/service/psychosexual-service-114/

https://www.guysandstthomas.nhs.uk/our-services/psychosexual-clinic

In this episode, I interviewed Susan Bratton, an intimacy advisor, wellness expert, author of numerous books about sex and relationships, and veritable powerhouse with 44 programs, gifts, and subscriptions.

A topic that comes up time and time again here is how to communicate with one’s partner or anyone with whom you intend to be intimate about your sexual desires. This is where Susan’s concept of a sexual soulmate pact comes in, which we discussed in this episode. We explored the significance of open communication and the benefits of ageless sexuality. Susan explained that a sexual soulmate pact is an agreement between partners to openly discuss their needs, desires, and boundaries throughout their intimacy journey. This pact fosters ongoing communication and encourages partners to express themselves without fear of judgment. We also discussed the idea of a sex life bucket list, which can help couples explore new experiences and keep their sex life exciting.

Takeaways

* A sexual soulmate pact is an agreement between partners to openly discuss their needs, desires, and boundaries before, during, and after intimacy.

* Open communication is key to maintaining a satisfying and fulfilling sex life.

* Ageless sexuality is possible, and sex can continue to improve and bring joy throughout life.

* A sex life bucket list can help couples explore new experiences and keep their sex life exciting.

Sound Bites

* "I've written 44 books and one of the books that I've written is called Sexual Soulmates, the six essentials for connected sex."

* "The sexual soulmate pact takes care of two big problems: 'I don't know what I want' and 'I don't want to say anything because I don't want my partner to feel like they've done something wrong.'"

* "The sexual soulmate pact is the antidote to the monotony of monogamy."

Chapters

00:00 Introduction and Welcoming Susan Bratton

03:05 The Concept of a Sexual Soulmate Pact

08:02 Addressing Communication Challenges

18:44 The Antidote to the Monotony of Monogamy

23:58 Desire: Safety, Security, Novelty, and Variety

33:12 Sexual Confidence and General Confidence

You can find Susan at:

SusanBratton.com

BetterLover.com

Download your FREE Sexual Soulmate Pact here

What is your sexual birthright and can you say, with 100% honesty, that you are able to fully embrace your sexual self without shame, embarrassment or fear?

That’s the topic of this week’s discussion with one of my oldest guests, Galen Fous, a sex therapist and educator.

During our conversation, we discussed the role of kink and the erotic in maintaining an active sex life, even with physical limitations. Galen encourages couples to have open and honest conversations about their desires and to explore the vast territory of pleasure beyond traditional friction sex. He also highlights the healing and empowering aspects of reclaiming one's sexuality.

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Takeaways

* Explore your authentic sexuality and embrace your sexual birthright.

* Engage in open and honest conversations with your partner about your desires and fantasies.

* Move beyond traditional friction sex and explore the vast territory of pleasure available to you.

* Reclaim your sexuality and heal any past wounds or traumas.

* Embrace the opportunity to deepen intimacy and connection with your partner through sexual exploration.

Sound Bites

* "I'm still having sex at least three times a week and I'm talking about sex that is in the range of three to five hours per session."

* "This is the great time of life. You know, this is your time to have the freedom to pursue what interests you and what excites you. And sex can certainly be a big part of that."

* "To be honest, it's a very complicated at this stage when we have decades of indoctrination and programming and beliefs and stories and judgments and experience painful experiences and all those things now have are a big, those are all tangled up with your authentic sexual expression."

Chapters

00:00 Introduction and Unique Perspective

03:12. Maintaining an Active Sex Life in Later Life

08:45. Embracing Freedom and Pursuing Sexual Pleasure

11:36. Untangling Beliefs and Programming

18:15. Moving Beyond Friction Sex

26:07. Exploring the Vast Territory of Pleasure

31:51. The Importance of Honesty and Courage

34:37Conclusion and Invitation for Further Conversations

Find Galen at : https://GalenFous.com

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When I was growing up, there was a cult-like therapy called EST (Erhard Seminars Training), which couples and singles could attend. I subsequently learned that it became Landmark Forum. I mention it because when I think of retreats, having never attended one, they always feel mysterious and somewhat secretive. Still, I know plenty of people who regularly go on retreats, and I know now how beneficial it can be to switch off from the world for several days and absorb whatever knowledge is being imparted.

Kanya Ford, my guest on this week’s podcast, hosts a couples retreat called Fools in Love Couples Retreat. Here, couples can take a break from their usual environment and address relationship issues. The retreat includes purposeful activities, community meals, and opportunities for couples to support and learn from each other. Each year, she introduces new elements to keep the sessions fresh and interesting.

The retreat lasts from Thursday or Friday to Sunday afternoon. As she explains during our conversations, emotions can run high during the retreat, with happy tears, sad tears, and frustration. The motivation for attending the retreat varies, from reigniting sexual passion to seeking help before marriage. The retreat is open to a diverse mix of people, and the average age of attendees is between 35 and 45. What particularly fascinated me about her retreat is that she tends to keep them below ten people so each couple is able to spend quality time with Kanya and the other participants, as well as with each other.

In addition to the retreat, Kanya offers one-on-one coaching and group classes called Mind Phucked (I love this!), which focus on utilising the mind to set the body free in relationships. These classes include touch yoga, pleasure mapping, and deep stretch exercises. Kanya emphasises the importance of maintaining intimacy and connection in relationships, especially in the senior years.

00:00 Introduction to the Fools in Love Couples Retreat

01:24 Digging into Relationship Nuances at the Retreat

04:06 Addressing Emotions and Apologies at the Retreat

05:13 Motivations for Attending the Retreat

15:13 Utilising the Mind in Group Classes

You can find Kanya at:

https://loveandintimacy101.com/

https://www.instagram.com/coachkay101

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