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Most men have struggles with identity at different times in their lives. And it often is visible in the different masks that we wear, one mask at work, one at home, one with friends, and on and on. My guest today is Kalab Johnson and he has a powerful story of how his struggles with identity led him to an affair, which led to his divorce.

But his story does not end there. In giving his life to Jesus, in putting his identity in Christ, Kalab’s marriage was restored. And today, he joins us on the show to share his story, his insights, and other great points we can all benefit from as we work through our own struggles with identity

Torn Asunder Book:

https://www.amazon.com/Torn-Asunder-Recovering-Extramarital-Affair/dp/0802471358

Questions Answered:

· What has your own journey with these struggles been like?

· Have you experienced the issue of wearing different masks as a man?

· Did you find yourself wearing a different mask as a husband as well?

· What is the story of the restoration of your marriage, after an affair?

· Why is it so important to have your identity grounded in faith?

· What’s the importance of prayer as it comes to struggles of identity?

· Why should a man who thinks he is on top of the world still put his identity in Christ?

· How is a man’s family impacted by his own struggles with identity?

· How do you think kids are impacted by a father’s struggles with identity?

· What is a suggestion for a man to try and break the trap of putting his identity in his achievements?

· How does your identity impact where you choose to work in your career?

· Why do we have to remember that our achievements are temporary in this world?

· What is the importance of keeping an eternal perspective when it comes to our struggles of identity?

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One of the most important things for a man is to not do life in isolation. It’s critical to have other men who will have your back, men you can do life together with. From celebrating the high points to supporting during the low points, this life was not meant to be lived alone.

My guest today is Theo Zhuang. Times were tough for him as a child, growing up in Venezuela from the age of 3 to 10 as his parents were missionaries, which was a difficult environment for a boy. And growing up as a pastor’s kid didn’t help him during those years, but began his discovery of his own identity, life purpose, and calling.

God brough him through various life experiences, from volunteering, to disaster relief, and in each he had an opportunity to take a giant leap of faith. Learning about himself from the inside out, he realized that he was created with unique gifts that made working as a transformational coach and leading the Noble Father community extremely fulfilling.

In his God-given calling, Theo wakes up every morning with a fervor for life, passionately pursuing his deep-seeded purpose, and building a legacy that he intends to leave behind for generations to come.

Connect with Theo Zhuang here:

https://www.facebook.com/coachtheoz

https://www.instagram.com/coachtheoz/

https://noble-father.com/

Find out more about Significant Man Ministries here:

https://SignificantMan.com

https://community.significantman.com

Questions Answered:

• What does “doing life together” mean?
• What are some of the things that get in the way of men sharing their emotions?
• Share your thoughts on the idea of living life from the inside out?
• How do you help men find their calling?
• What was it like interviewing your own father for your podcast?
• What was something you learned from your father?
• How was it growing up as a child in Venezuela?
• How do you help men who struggle with being a lone wolf?
• What are some ways you lead men to engage and share in community?
• How do you respond to the idea that a husband has his wife, so he doesn’t need other men as friends in his life?
• What do you think about a man who says that no one will understand my problem?
• How do you recommend that guys find other men they can do life with in their towns?
• How does your faith help you not to worry about what others will say about you?
• In what ways is social media impacting real friendships?
• What is the difference between transaction and transformed?
• What is the role of accountability in a community?
• What’s the importance of meeting together in person, and not just online?

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One of the issues it seems we all have to work through is the issue of pride. But it can easily sneak into life without us even realizing it. Pride can impact our marriages, our parenting, and every other aspect of our lives.

My guest today is Cody Martin, a man who has been working through this issue over his years. From serving our country in the special forces to everyday life, he shares his thoughts and experiences in dealing with pride.

Cody has been married for nine years only by the grace of God, with five kids ranging from 15 to 3 years old. He has gone to church since he was little but only really accepted Jesus Christ into his life during his first deployment to Afghanistan in 2009. He started military service as a Private First Class in the Minnesota Army National Guard. Next, he attended Saint John's University ROTC and after graduation, earned a commission as a 2nd Lieutenant in the active-duty army, where he was a field artillery officer until he tried out for special forces. In 2021 he medically retired from the 7th Special Forces Group as a Major and became a Field Skills Instructor as a contractor for the Air Force. Cody has recently created his own business called Chosen Property Management LLC.

Since every man has some challenge with pride, this is an important and critical conversation that we all need to hear.

To learn about Mighty Oaks Programs:

https://www.mightyoaksprograms.org/

To learn more about Significant Man Ministry:

https://SignificantMan.com

Questions Answered:

• Why do you think there are so many warnings about pride in the Bible?
• How does pride lead into other sins?
• What are some ways that pride impacted your own walk as a man?
• Did your wife call out your issue with pride, or did you realize it yourself?
• How does pride impact our relationship with God?
• How can pride be a slippery slope?
• What are the ways pride shows up in your marriage?
• What are your thoughts on how humility connects into the discussion of pride?
• How does our culture of doing better and doing more impact our pride?
• What happens when the center of a man is himself instead of God?
• What’s the danger of a man wearing masks in life?
• Why do the people who matter the most get hurt the most?
• Why does breakthrough happen so often when a man hits the breaking point?
• What do you think the difference is between being proud of something and being prideful?
• What’s the importance of starting small as men deal with pride in their lives?

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As husbands, we want to improve. We want to get better. We want to become a high value husband. But how do we do that, and what does that even mean?

My guest today, David Frey, is an expert on this topic and he shares his great thoughts and insights with us.

David has been married to his wife for 34 years. They are the parents of two beautiful adult children. David is the author of the book titled, “301 Ways to Be a High Value Husband” and the creator of the “Communicate to Connect” program. He is the Founder of a marriage education company and the High Value Husbands coaching program. And David has been researching the science of successful communication and relationships for many years.

Connect with David at:

https://www.facebook.com/dfrey

Find David’s book here:

https://www.amazon.com/301-Ways-High-Value-Husband/dp/1931740003

Find out more about Significant Man Ministries here:

https://SignificantMan.com

Questions Answered:

• What is a High Value Husband?
• Why is the topic of ownership so important in being a better husband?
• What are some of the critical skills for husbands to learn?
• How does a husband learn how to validate the feelings of his wife?
• Why does a man want his wife to desire him?
• Is it important for a husband to study his own wife?
• What happens if a husband tries to change for his wife instead of for himself?
• How does following Jesus help us become a high value husband?
• Is it possible for a husband to change his wife?
• How does the mirror effect work in a marriage?
• How does praise help in a marriage?
• How does Jesus treat the people he loves the most, and how does that help a man to become a high value husband?

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In our culture, we don’t have any clear line, or event, or rite of passage for when a boy becomes a man. This leads to many boys struggling and trying to figure when, and how, they become men. A rite of passage is a powerful experience, from a young man and his father, that invites the boy into his journey of manhood.

My guest today is Steven Arms, and he is a leading expert in this subject. In his book, Milestone to Manhood, Steven shares his firsthand experience of his own Rite of Passage weekend, and he reflects on how it shaped him into the man that he is today. His book also provides other men with the framework of how to hold their own Rite of Passage weekend for their sons.

Connect with Steven, find his book, and learn more about a Rite of Passage at:
https://Milestonetomanhood.com

Connect with Warren, find his books, learn more about Significant Man live events, and more at:
https://SignificantMan.com

Questions Answered:

· What is a Rite of Passage?

· What’s the difference between adulthood and manhood?

· How do you describe the framework for a Rite of Passage?

· Why is a challenge required in a Rite of Passage

· What about a man who cannot hold an outdoor Rite of Passage?

· Why is the age 13 suggested for this kind of event?

· What is the importance of talking about what it means to be a man with your son?

· Why is the example a man sets to his son so critical in this discussion?

· What is the role of the mother in a Rite of Passage for boys?

· Can a father lead his daughter on a Rite of Passage?

· What mistakes have you seen men make with a Rite of Passage?

· What is the most important, and last ritual, of a Rite of Passage?

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In today’s world so many men are working through the ideas of masculinity, toxic masculinity, and calling. So what does healthy masculinity look like? What does a man’s calling look like? How does a man discover his calling? My guests today, Rory and Matt, have great insight into these issues and lots more in a fun and important conversation.

Rory Lawrence is the founder of The Dangerous Man Podcast. Husband to Jenni, father to three children, brother to seven siblings, and a Pastor to Legacy Church. He holds a deep desire to help all men discover their true masculine and dangerous selves. Rory has conquered hell on earth many times, overcoming some of life’s most difficult battles and he continues to turn that pain into purpose. Masculinity is a pursuit he believes brings revelation to a mans heart of who he is, from the God who designed it. When real biblical masculinity is embraced it deepens a mans understanding and ability to live out the unique calling on his life as a dangerous man.

Matt Fortin is co-founder of The Dangerous Man Podcast. He is a loving husband to his wife Becca and he became motivated to inspire men to be the best version of themselves after being surrounded by great examples of men all throughout his life. Matt has always been drawn to mental toughness, discipline and drive, and those values pushed him to carry out his Division 1 baseball dream at Seton Hall University. Matt is a firm believer that all he has learned in athletics has helped him define his conception of manhood.

You can find their podcast and connect with them at https://dangerousmanpodcast.com/

You can find Significant Man Ministries at https://SignificantMan.com

Questions asked:

What do you mean when you state, “Your masculinity isn’t toxic, it’s missing”?

How does a guy find his masculinity?

What was something you discovered through great books written to men?

What are some lies of the enemy that you’ve had to face?

Why do men suffer with domestic abuse in silence?

How does a man discover their calling?

Why is the greatest calling for a man to lead his family?

How does culture attack marriage?

What are some questions men should ask themselves as they are discovering their calling?

How does a man deal with knowing his calling, but his wife is not on board?

What is the importance of a husband and wife being on the same team?

What is the distinction between what is from the world and what is from God?

What are your thoughts on a man who goes with the flow instead of following his calling?

What does the Bible say about passive men?

What duty does a man have to fulfill his calling?

What does it mean to be dangerous for good?

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Communication is one of the main challenges in marriages, and it’s one of the most important things between husband and wife. There are so many questions about this topic. How do we learn to communicate? How does a married couple learn to talk with each other? What does healthy conflict resolution look like in marriage? And so much more.

In this episode today my guest, Austin Holt shares his expertise and experience on these critical questions. Austin is a Christian, Husband, Father, and life hobbyist. He loves all things marriage, ministry, parenting, coffee, outdoors, and more. He loves doing deep transformational work in the hearts, minds, and souls of others so they can best show up exactly how God made them to. His love for people and for life is both contagious and energizing.

It's a great conversation that all men and women can learn from...

Questions Answered:

• How do most couples learn to communicate, in general?
• How do most couples learn to communicate with each other?
• Why do so many people learn about marriage simply by being married?
• What does healthy conflict resolution look like in a marriage?
• What are some of the ways that men and women are wired differently?
• How does the idea of tone impact communication?
• What are some examples of non-verbal communication?
• What is the power and benefit of using Connection Cards?
• Why should men function as husbands “doing marriage” as unto the Lord?

You can reach Austin at:

Consciouschristianmarriage.com

You can reach Warren at:

SignificantMan.com

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The word cancer is loaded. When we hear the word, all sorts of images pop up in our minds. Our emotions start racing and we start thinking about the future differently.

My guest today, Mike Knebel, has dealt with cancer. And recovery. And then cancer again. And then recovery again.

In this episode, he shares about his faith, his humor, his wife and kids, and the entire process of fighting cancer.

Mike Knebel is a husband, father, Christ follower, self-described bourbon expert, thrice failed political candidate, and reluctant Husker fan.

As a man who finds power in humor, he likes to share that he gave his left nut to get his first book published. You can get his book, Nut Up or Shut Up, on Amazon right now.

It’s an important episode that everyone needs to listen to. So let’s get started.

Questions Answered:

· How did your journey of finding out about cancer begin?

· How did you process the odds and statistics and mental aspects of facing cancer?

· What role did your faith play in this experience?

· What was the first conversation with your wife like once you received your diagnosis?

· How did you and your wife decide what, and how, to share this news with your children?

· Why was, and is, humor so important to you in writing the book and in facing cancer?

· How was your recovery from your cancer surgery?

· When you received a second diagnosis, what was it like going through surgery and recovery yet again?

· What was it like facing cancer with your wife as a unified team going through this together?

· Why is it important that men not go through facing cancer alone?

· What are your thoughts on the way testicular cancer is stigmatized?

· How has your health and nutrition changed since you were first diagnosed?

· What advice do you have to someone who has concerns about this or is early on in dealing with a diagnosis?

· What is the importance of early detection and getting things checkout out right away?

Learn about the Testicular Cancer Foundation

https://testicularcancer.org/

Order Mike’s book, Nut Up or Shut Up

https://www.amazon.com/Nut-Up-Shut-Strength-Testicular/dp/B0D8P2T4PT

Connect with Mike on Instagram here

https://www.instagram.com/kickingcancerintheballs

Find Significant Man Ministries here

https://SignificantMan.com