Episode Overview

In this episode of You Keep Me Sane, we explore the art of listening and its impact on connection, growth, and health. Inspired by listener feedback, we discuss what it takes to be a good listener and how real listening strengthens relationships, helps us feel understood, and supports mental and physical well-being.

Key Discussion Points

• Listening as a Core Value: Inspired by listener feedback, we discuss the importance of listening thoughtfully and without interruption, highlighting its impact on connection.
• Four Key Traits of a Good Listener:
  1. Safe Space: Offering a non-judgmental space for others to open up.
  2. Presence: Practising full presence, even in long-distance voice messages.
  3. Empathy Over Solutions: Prioritising empathy and understanding over advice.
  4. Holding Space Without Pressure: Allowing people to share at their own pace.
• The Health Benefits of Being Heard: Studies show that expressing emotions without suppression benefits both mental and physical health.

Listener Takeaways

• The Power of Empathy: Real listening is about presence and understanding rather than problem-solving. Simple affirmations like “I hear you” can make a world of difference.
• Creating Connection: Developing listening skills helps build trust and vulnerability, both for the listener and the speaker, making for stronger, healthier relationships.
• Physical and Mental Health Impact: Allowing oneself to be heard has shown positive effects on mental and physical health, as expressed through studies on suppressed emotions.
• Space for Vulnerability: Being a good listener can encourage others to open up and allow us to access authentic connections, benefiting everyone involved.

Links From The Show

Incredible holiday portraits for those in London (discount code YKMS24):

https://www.gsixtysix.com/category/xmas24

For more about the impact of suppressing your feelings and staying silent:

https://time.com/6319549/silencing-women-sick-essay/

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Host: Aileen Harvey & Julie Fahy

Editor: Allia Lenit Galos

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Disclaimer:

Remember, we’re two friends sharing our personal experiences and discussing everyday challenges. We’re not qualified coaches or therapists, and our content is for general information and supportive conversation only. If you need professional help, please seek advice from a licensed therapist.