In this episode, Nicole, Dr. Gregory Serfer, and Melanie Jones explore the fear of abandonment in Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD). They discuss how this fear affects relationships and daily life, sharing personal experiences, insights, and strategies for managing this challenging aspect of BPD. Whether you're looking to understand BPD better or seeking practical advice, this episode offers valuable guidance on navigating fear and abandonment.

Disclaimer: The title of this podcast and its contents are not intended to in any way promote, encourage, or advocate suicide or any form of self-harm. If you or someone you know is contemplating suicide and needs support, please call 988 for the Suicide and Crisis Lifeline.

Here is the episode breakdown:

Guest:

• Dr. Gregory Serfer

Email: contact@gregoryserfer.com

Book: “I Am Still Right Here”: https://www.amazon.com/I-Am-Still-Right-Here/dp/B0BNTZBZFT

Quora: https://www.quora.com/profile/Gregory-Serfer

• Melanie Jones: emmjay993@yahoo.com

In this episode, you will hear:

• 0:00 Intro

(Beginning of Interview)

• 1:07 Nicole’s Opening Statement
• 2:24 Introduction to Dr. Gregory Serfer and Melanie Jones (and Handsome Dan)
• 8:00 The Importance of Fear of Abandonment Concerning BPD
• 13:22 Follow up: Can Fear of Abandonment Play into Other Emotions/Thoughts
• 18:36 Mel’s Perspective: Fear of Abandonment
• 23:30 Relationships with a Person with BPD (pwBPD)
• 29:06 Advice For Confronting Discards
• 32:07 Mel’s Perspective: Tips to Avoid the Fear of Abandonment
• 35:20 Nicole’s Perspective: Tips to Avoid the Fear of Abandonment
• 38:44 More Strategies (Continued)
• 39:58 Testing, Self-Awareness, and More Perspectives
• 47:15 Resources, Solutions, Planning, and Support
• 49:08 Mel and Gregory’s Final Words

(End of Interview)

• 49:52 Nicole’s Closing Statement
• 50:15 BPD Daily Mantra
• 50:31 Outro
• 51:50 Ion Like That by Jane Handcock: https://music.youtube.com/watch?v=j5oo3U0QeLQ

Episode Resources:

• Website: https://www.showmegrace.org/

Connect with the Host:

Nicole Darby: presspause4grace@gmail.com

Free BPD Support Resources and Weekly Support Group (Wednesdays): https://www.showmegrace.org

Credits:

Hosts: Nicole Darby, Dr. Gregory Serfer, Melanie Jones, "Handsome Dan" -Yeti microphone

Music Producer of Podcast’s Intro Music: DJtheIII

Sound Engineer: Stefan Mitroi

Podcast Producer: Nicole Darby

Research Team: Nicole Darby & Tamar Brignolle