Neurodiverse relationship expert Jodi Carlton discusses how #CassandraSyndrome affects autistic partners in #neurodiverserelationships. She emphasizes the importance of understanding both neurotypical and autistic experiences, highlighting that trauma can impact either partner. Learn about the double empathy problem, emotional isolation, and how these challenges can shape relationships.

00:00 Introduction: Cassandra Syndrome in Neurodiverse Relationships 01:03 Purpose of the Channel: Uniting, Not Dividing 02:28 Overview of Cassandra Syndrome 04:24 Addressing First Comment - "I'm a late diagnosed autistic woman married to a non-autistic man..." 04:44 Affirming the Autistic Experience of Trauma 05:36 Not All Partners (ND or NT) Experience Trauma 06:02 Addressing Second Comment - "Yeah. I definitely see this happening infinitely more for the autistic than the neurotypical..." 06:36 Us vs. Them 07:20 Let's Understand Each Other. Both Partners Can Experience Trauma 08:30 Addressing Last Comment - "In my experience, it not only depends on the cognitive empathy or the theory of mind and general emotional intelligence of the autistic partner but also the level..." 11:12 Final Thoughts: Cassandra Syndrome and Autistic Trauma 11:55 Share Your Experience in the Comments

👩‍💼 Hi, I'm #JodiCarlton !! I am a seasoned professional with 20+ years of experience as a therapist and relationship coach specializing in neurodiverse relationships.

I AM NEURODIVERGENT: I discovered as an adult that I am #ADHD, and I was married to an autistic man for 19 years. I also had other neurodiverse romantic relationships and have an autistic daughter and an ADHD son. Through the years, I have realized that my entire extended family is neurodivergent. My relationships with neurodiverse family and friends have been my personal training ground for understanding and helping partners and couples in their own relationships.

Below are some of the neurodivergent resources I offer:

💬 TRY THE NEW AUTISTIC TRANSLATOR TOOL! https://autistictranslator.com/?via=jodi Provides a detailed explanation of each neurotype's expectations and perspectives on any situation you enter at the prompt. Developed by Michael Daniel, who is autistic and wanted help in his own neurodiverse relationships.

💻 QUIZZES: https://jodicarlton.com/take-a-quiz/ Take free quizzes about neurodivergence, autism, and toxic relationship dynamics, and learn which resources will benefit you the most.

🤩 CONSULTATIONS/COACHING: https://jodicarlton.com/private-coaching/ I coach individuals, couples, and families worldwide using a solution-focused approach that results in life-altering answers and real change.

🎙️ PODCAST: https://jodicarlton.com/podcast Listen to the "YOUR Neurodiverse Relationship" podcast. It's been downloaded in over 70 countries on your favorite podcast platform. You can also watch it here on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@JodiCarlton/podcasts

💁‍♀️ COURSES: https://jodicarlton.com/courses Work at your own pace in my self-study courses. Gain access to the world's first communication model that facilitates life-altering clarity and change. Discover if your partner or relationship is toxic and unsafe.

📖 BLOG: https://jodicarlton.com/blog Browse through articles about executive functioning, masking, narcissism, communication, and so much more.

Don’t forget to like, share, and subscribe for more insights on #neurodiversity!

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In this solo podcast episode, #JodiCarlton delves into the intricacies of dating for both #autistic individuals and #neurotypicals dating someone on the spectrum. Drawing from my experiences with long-term couples, she emphasizes the importance of recognizing red flags early on in relationships. Key topics include the dangers of not being your authentic self, patterns of harmful behavior, boundary issues, and intimacy misalignments. She also addresses the concept of capacity and developmental stunting in autistic partners and how these can manifest in relationships.

Additionally, she explores common justifications for staying in unhealthy relationships and the critical mistake of falling for someone's potential rather than their current reality. This episode is a must-listen for anyone navigating the dating world, particularly in neurodiverse contexts, and provides valuable insights for setting up future generations for success in their relationships.

00:00 Introduction to Dating and Relationships 00:58 Recognizing Red Flags in Relationships 01:40 You've Become a Different Person 02:25 Understanding Codependency 04:03 Behavioral Patterns and Apologies 05:54 Communicating Boundaries Effectively 07:45 Intimacy and Alignment in Relationships 10:52 Emotional Availability and Capacity 12:49 Adolescent Development and Responsibility 18:27 Justifying Staying in a Relationship 28:00 Concluding Thoughts and Advice . . . .

👩‍💼 Hi, I'm #JodiCarlton !! I am a seasoned professional with 20+ years of experience as a therapist and relationship coach specializing in neurodiverse relationships.

I AM NEURODIVERGENT: I discovered as an adult that I am #ADHD, and I was married to an autistic man for 19 years. I also had other neurodiverse romantic relationships and have an autistic daughter and an ADHD son. Through the years, I have realized that my entire extended family is neurodivergent. My relationships with neurodiverse family and friends have been my personal training ground for understanding and helping partners and couples in their own relationships.

Below are some of the neurodivergent resources I offer:

💬 TRY THE NEW AUTISTIC TRANSLATOR TOOL! https://autistictranslator.com/?via=jodi Provides a detailed explanation of each neurotype's expectations and perspectives on any situation you enter at the prompt. Developed by Michael Daniel, who is autistic and wanted help in his own neurodiverse relationships.

💻 QUIZZES: https://jodicarlton.com/take-a-quiz/ Take free quizzes about neurodivergence, autism, and toxic relationship dynamics, and learn which resources will benefit you the most.

🤩 CONSULTATIONS/COACHING: https://jodicarlton.com/private-coaching/ I coach individuals, couples, and families worldwide using a solution-focused approach that results in life-altering answers and real change.

🎙️ PODCAST: https://jodicarlton.com/podcast Listen to the "YOUR Neurodiverse Relationship" podcast. It's been downloaded in over 70 countries on your favorite podcast platform. You can also watch it here on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@JodiCarlton/podcasts

💁‍♀️ COURSES: https://jodicarlton.com/courses Work at your own pace in my self-study courses. Gain access to the world's first communication model that facilitates life-altering clarity and change. Discover if your partner or relationship is toxic and unsafe.

📖 BLOG: https://jodicarlton.com/blog Browse through articles about executive functioning, masking, narcissism, communication, and so much more.

Don’t forget to like, share, and subscribe for more insights on #neurodiversity!

📱 FOLLOW ME and SUBSCRIBE: YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@JodiCarlton Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/thejodicarlton Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thejodicarlton TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@thejodicarlton LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jodicarlton

#CassandraSyndrome is not an official diagnosis but is a descriptive term that refers to emotional pain and isolation experienced by a partner in an autistic-neurotypical relationship when their concerns, wishes, and experiences are overlooked or dismissed. Whether you're seeking clarity or looking for ways to strengthen your #neurodiverse relationship, this video provides valuable insights and support.

Check out our recent blog: https://jodicarlton.com/understanding-cassandra-syndrome-neurotypical-autistic-relationships/

00:00 Introduction to Cassandra Syndrome 00:08 Understanding Cassandra Syndrome 00:37 Neurodivergent Relationships and Brain Differences 03:03 Communication Challenges in Neurodiverse Relationships 03:57 The Impact of Miscommunication 04:20 Cassandra Syndrome - Rooted in Greek Mythology 04:54 Emotional and Physical Effects on Neurotypical Partners 07:29 Why Autism Can Seem Like Narcissism 08:03 Impact Over Time 13:37 Healing from Cassandra Syndrome 13:44 Learn About Autism 14:43 Self-Care 16:13 Codependency in Your Relationship 18:06 Communication Skills Training 19:10 5 Ways to Heal from Cassandra Syndrome 20:52 Conclusion and Resources

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👩‍💼 Hi, I'm #JodiCarlton !! I am a seasoned professional with 20+ years of experience as a therapist and relationship coach specializing in neurodiverse relationships. I AM NEURODIVERGENT: I discovered as an adult that I am #ADHD, and I was married to an autistic man for 19 years. I also had other neurodiverse romantic relationships and have an autistic daughter and an ADHD son. Through the years, I have realized that my entire extended family is neurodivergent. My relationships with neurodiverse family and friends have been my personal training ground for understanding and helping partners and couples in their own relationships.

Below are some of the neurodivergent resources I offer:

💬 TRY THE NEW AUTISTIC TRANSLATOR TOOL! https://autistictranslator.com/?via=jodi Provides a detailed explanation of each neurotype's expectations and perspectives on any situation you enter at the prompt. Developed by Michael Daniel, who is autistic and wanted help in his own neurodiverse relationships.

💻 QUIZZES: https://jodicarlton.com/take-a-quiz/ Take free quizzes about neurodivergence, autism, and toxic relationship dynamics, and learn which resources will benefit you the most.

🤩 CONSULTATIONS/COACHING: https://jodicarlton.com/private-coaching/ I coach individuals, couples, and families worldwide using a solution-focused approach that results in life-altering answers and real change.

🎙️ PODCAST: https://jodicarlton.com/podcast Listen to the "YOUR Neurodiverse Relationship" podcast. It's been downloaded in over 70 countries on your favorite podcast platform. You can also watch it here on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@JodiCarlton/podcasts

💁‍♀️ COURSES: https://jodicarlton.com/courses Work at your own pace in my self-study courses. Gain access to the world's first communication model that facilitates life-altering clarity and change. Discover if your partner or relationship is toxic and unsafe. 📖 BLOG: https://jodicarlton.com/blog Browse through articles about executive functioning, masking, narcissism, communication, and so much more. Don’t forget to like, share, and subscribe for more insights on #neurodiversity!

📱 FOLLOW ME and SUBSCRIBE:

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@JodiCarlton

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/thejodicarlton

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thejodicarlton

TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@thejodicarlton

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jodicarlton