Kelly explores the evolution of desire, discussing its biological, psychological, and cultural roots. How desire is not static but rather a dynamic force that changes over time due to various factors, including hormonal shifts, emotional experiences, and relationship dynamics.

She encourages listeners to embrace curiosity and explore their desires openly, while also highlighting the importance of communication and seeking support when navigating changes in intimacy. Insights from Esther Perel talk about how emphasizing the balance between closeness and independence in relationships.

The episode concludes with a book recommendation that complements the theme the episode's theme.

The Lover by Marguerite Duras (Author)

00:00 Introduction to Desire

07:49 The Evolution of Desire

13:46 Embracing Change in Desire

20:31 Insights from Esther Perel

Takeaways:

• Desire evolves and is influenced by various factors.
• Understanding the roots of desire is essential for personal growth.
• Curiosity can help navigate changes in desire.
• Desire is shaped by biological, psychological, and cultural forces.
• Communication with partners is crucial for intimacy.
• Shame can stifle desire; curiosity can liberate it.
• Desire is a journey that requires self-exploration.
• Esther Perel's insights redefine desire in relationships.
• Intimacy and desire thrive on balance and understanding.
• Reading can enhance our understanding of desire.

Kelly engages with Dr. Lisa Watson, a naturopathic doctor specializing in women's health and hormonal balance. They explore the complexities of hormones, their impact on libido, and the importance of understanding hormonal health.

The conversation discuss the roles of various hormones, the effects of stress and burnout, and the significance of lifestyle choices in managing hormonal health.

00:00 Introduction to Hormonal Health and Wellness

04:28 The Role of Cortisol in Libido

08:55 Exploring Libido: Key Hormones and Their Impact

18:55 Advocating for Your Health: Testing and Tracking Symptoms

24:18 The Limitations of Conventional Medical Approaches

32:27 The Importance of Self-Awareness in Hormonal Fluctuations

37:59 Fun and Personal Insights on Erotica and Self-Care

Takeaways

• Hormones are crucial signals that influence our body functions.
• Cortisol plays a significant role in stress management and libido.
• Both men and women experience hormonal imbalances, though differently.
• Dopamine is essential for arousal and can be influenced by lifestyle.
• Tracking symptoms can help identify hormonal imbalances.
• Advocating for health is vital, especially when feeling dismissed by doctors.
• Lab testing is necessary to understand hormonal health accurately.
• Lifestyle changes can significantly influence hormonal balance.
• Rest and relaxation are essential for managing stress and hormones.
• Understanding the natural fluctuations of libido can help normalize experiences.

Kelly explores the often challenging yet essential topic of sexual communication. She emphasizes the importance of open dialogue in fostering intimacy and trust within relationships. She looks at the various levels of communication and barriers that hinder discussions about sexual desires - practical strategies for initiating these conversations. Throughout, Kelly encourages listeners to embrace humour and vulnerability as they navigate their erotic selves and deepen their connections with partners.

Books: Anne Rice's Sleeping Beauty Trilogy

00:00 Introduction to Communication in Intimacy

10:45 Barriers to Discussing Sexual Topics

19:10 Exploring Kinky Literature: The Sleeping Beauty Trilogy