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  • The Evolution of Desire: Embracing Change
    2025/01/21

    Kelly explores the evolution of desire, discussing its biological, psychological, and cultural roots. How desire is not static but rather a dynamic force that changes over time due to various factors, including hormonal shifts, emotional experiences, and relationship dynamics.

    She encourages listeners to embrace curiosity and explore their desires openly, while also highlighting the importance of communication and seeking support when navigating changes in intimacy. Insights from Esther Perel talk about how emphasizing the balance between closeness and independence in relationships.

    The episode concludes with a book recommendation that complements the theme the episode's theme.

    The Lover by Marguerite Duras (Author)

    00:00 Introduction to Desire

    07:49 The Evolution of Desire

    13:46 Embracing Change in Desire

    20:31 Insights from Esther Perel

    Takeaways:

    • Desire evolves and is influenced by various factors.
    • Understanding the roots of desire is essential for personal growth.
    • Curiosity can help navigate changes in desire.
    • Desire is shaped by biological, psychological, and cultural forces.
    • Communication with partners is crucial for intimacy.
    • Shame can stifle desire; curiosity can liberate it.
    • Desire is a journey that requires self-exploration.
    • Esther Perel's insights redefine desire in relationships.
    • Intimacy and desire thrive on balance and understanding.
    • Reading can enhance our understanding of desire.

    Tags: desire, intimacy, sexuality, relationships, evolution, emotional connection, Esther Perel, personal growth, curiosity, self-exploration

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    24 分
  • Interview: Dr. Lisa Watson - The Connection Between Stress and Hormonal Health
    2025/01/07

    Kelly engages with Dr. Lisa Watson, a naturopathic doctor specializing in women's health and hormonal balance. They explore the complexities of hormones, their impact on libido, and the importance of understanding hormonal health.

    The conversation discuss the roles of various hormones, the effects of stress and burnout, and the significance of lifestyle choices in managing hormonal health.

    00:00 Introduction to Hormonal Health and Wellness

    04:28 The Role of Cortisol in Libido

    08:55 Exploring Libido: Key Hormones and Their Impact

    18:55 Advocating for Your Health: Testing and Tracking Symptoms

    24:18 The Limitations of Conventional Medical Approaches

    32:27 The Importance of Self-Awareness in Hormonal Fluctuations

    37:59 Fun and Personal Insights on Erotica and Self-Care

    Takeaways

    • Hormones are crucial signals that influence our body functions.
    • Cortisol plays a significant role in stress management and libido.
    • Both men and women experience hormonal imbalances, though differently.
    • Dopamine is essential for arousal and can be influenced by lifestyle.
    • Tracking symptoms can help identify hormonal imbalances.
    • Advocating for health is vital, especially when feeling dismissed by doctors.
    • Lab testing is necessary to understand hormonal health accurately.
    • Lifestyle changes can significantly influence hormonal balance.
    • Rest and relaxation are essential for managing stress and hormones.
    • Understanding the natural fluctuations of libido can help normalize experiences.
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    43 分
  • Communication (Laugh!)
    2024/12/23

    Kelly explores the often challenging yet essential topic of sexual communication. She emphasizes the importance of open dialogue in fostering intimacy and trust within relationships. She looks at the various levels of communication and barriers that hinder discussions about sexual desires - practical strategies for initiating these conversations. Throughout, Kelly encourages listeners to embrace humour and vulnerability as they navigate their erotic selves and deepen their connections with partners.

    Books: Anne Rice's Sleeping Beauty Trilogy

    00:00 Introduction to Communication in Intimacy

    10:45 Barriers to Discussing Sexual Topics

    19:10 Exploring Kinky Literature: The Sleeping Beauty Trilogy

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    22 分
  • Sexual Baggage
    2024/12/16

    Kelly delves into the concept of sexual baggage, exploring how past experiences, societal messages, and personal insecurities can impact intimacy and relationships. She emphasizes the importance of recognizing and addressing these issues not only for personal healing but also for the well-being of future generations. She talks about the effects of sexual baggage on relationships, the cycle of shame and insecurity, and the steps towards healing, including communication, self-acceptance, and seeking professional help. Kelly concludes with a reminder that healing is a gift to oneself and to others, paving the way for deeper connections and healthier relationships. Books The Body Keeps the Score by Dr. Bessel van der Kolk and Call Me By Your Name by Andre Aciman

    00:00 Understanding Sexual Baggage

    06:47 Impact on Relationships and Future Generations

    09:55 The Healing Process

    16:05 Celebrating Stories and Literature

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    19 分
  • Mental Load & Libido
    2024/12/09

    We explore the concept of mental load and its significant impact on intimacy and libido and how the overwhelming nature of daily responsibilities can detract from emotional and physical connection. We delve into the definition of mental load, its disproportionate distribution in relationships, and the cognitive and emotional consequences it brings. We also look at practical strategies for redistributing the mental load and creating space for intimacy are provided, along with a recommendation for an engaging erotic book.

    00:00 Setting the Scene: The Overloaded Mind 02:43 Understanding Mental Load and Its Impact 09:13 The Brain-Body Connection and Desire 13:02 Practical Strategies to Lighten the Load 20:02 Exploring Erotic Literature: A Book Recommendation 21:33 Conclusion: Rediscovering Connection and Desire
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    22 分
  • Sex After Kids
    2024/12/02

    Kelly explores the complexities of intimacy and sexual desire after becoming a parent. She discusses the common challenges parents face, including emotional distance, identity shifts, and societal pressures that can impact their romantic relationships. Kelly emphasizes the importance of self-connection and reframing intimacy, offering practical strategies for couples to rekindle their romance amidst the chaos of parenting. The episode is filled with insights on how to navigate the changes in desire and intimacy, encouraging parents to embrace their new normal and prioritize their connection with themselves and their partners.

    Chapters

    00:00 Welcome to Brain Sex

    01:44 The Reality of Sex After Kids

    03:31 Understanding Changes in Desire

    10:07 Reframing Intimacy Post-Parenthood

    16:21 Practical Strategies to Rekindle Connection

    Takeaways

    • It is normal to have very little desire after having kids.
    • Connecting with yourself is essential for intimacy with a partner.
    • Intimacy after kids requires a redefinition of what it looks like.
    • Parents often put themselves last, which affects their relationships.
    • Embracing your new body and identity is crucial for self-acceptance.
    • Quality time with yourself and your partner is necessary for rekindling romance.
    • Seduction and intimacy can take on new forms.
    • Communication about desires and needs is vital for a healthy relationship.
    • Laughter can help ease uncomfortable conversations about intimacy.
    • Reclaiming your erotic self is a journey that requires effort and patience.

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    26 分