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Something we always say on Dem Bois Podcast is that visibility = possibility, and in this episode, I get to speak with someone whose visibility showed my possibility and gave me the permission to show up as my authentic self, Tiq Milan. Tiq is a trans rights advocate, speaker, father, teacher, and leadership development strategist, and I am very excited to share this episode. We discuss the challenges of fatherhood, emphasizing the need for legal protections and the impact of his daughter's mother on their relationship. And, Tiq gives us advice on self-love and the power of chosen family.

We talk:

How Tiq’s family support affected him - 10:55

Trying to find other Black trans men online - 20:58

Tiq’s spirituality - 28:40

The Moth - 40:49

His experience with fatherhood - 48:58

Episode References:

The Moth

Middle Church

Read more about Tiq in his bio below:

Tiq Milan is a leadership development strategist, trans rights advocate and speaker. He shares his inspiring story about his experience in the world as a Black transgender man of faith who is also a father, teacher, and world traveler.

• IG: @themrmilan

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People have all these rules for how trans masc folks should think, act, and feel, but the truth is that we are all different. There are no rules to being trans and we talk about that more in this episode of Dem Bois Podcast. Today I sit down with E.C. Pizarro III, and we discuss his transition, the challenges of being a Black trans man, and his work in tech. He highlights the importance of visibility and representation, mentioning his 2024 awards and his role in the trans community.

We talk:

E.C.’s gender journey - 8:36

The gender journey for youth - 19:09

Going stealth - 31:29

His career in tech - 49:58

Marsha’s Web - 54:35

Episode References:

The Aggressives (2005)

The L Word (TV Series 2004–2009)

TRANSworld Atlanta

Edens Garden

Marsha’s Web

Read more about E.C in his bio below:

E.C. Pizarro III is a technology experience strategist, owner of 1Z2R, and founder of Marsha’s Web, a resource for TLGBQIA+ communities focused on BIPOC Transgender, Intersex, and GNC business owners. He led TransTech Social from 2021-2024 and has been honored with the 2024 Pioneer of Technology Award, 2024 Change Agent Award, the 2023 Marsha P. Johnson Institute Legacy Award, and was named one of the Out100 LGBTQ+ Policy Makers in 2022. E.C. is dedicated to empowering clients and communities for long-term success through strategic growth.

• www.ecpizarro.com
• IG: @ec.the.tird
• LinkedIn: ecthethird
• Facebook: ec.the.third

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E.L. Winston is a father, husband, minister, advocate, and today’s guest on Dem Bois Podcast. In this episode he discusses his journey of transitioning later in life and the challenges he faced, including pushback from the trans community for not medically transitioning and not changing his name. He emphasizes the importance of service, hope, and helping others. And he puts his words into action by running his nonprofit, Transformation in Seat, which provides gender-affirming care.

We talk:

Transitioning later in life - 6:29

The Old Man's Corner in Blaqueout Magazine - 13:46

His career as a minister - 29:49

Putting help and hope into action - 38:23

Book therapy - 44:53

Episode References:

Dem Bois Pod Ep. 18

Dem Bois Pod Ep. 19

Blaqueout Magazine

TranZformation Center for Spirit

Monica Roberts Freedom School

Mahogany Books

Rivers Solomon

KB Brookins

Lambda Nu Dynasty

Read more about E.L. in his bio below:

E.L. Winston is a father, husband, minister and friend his heart for service fuels his advocacy to bring help and hope to his community he lives by the motto if you can look up you can get up!

• FB: E.L.Winston
• IG: @booktherapywitheelwinston
• TikTok: @booktherapywitheelwinston

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Introducing a groundbreaking collaboration crafted by Emilio Perdomo (featured on Dem Bois Podcast episode 37). This isn't just merch--it's a movement! We're empowering trans men of color with creative freedom to design their interpretation of Visibility = Possibility™. Think of it like major brands collaborating with athletes, but this time, our community takes center stage. It will be great to have TMOC designing products that represents their community and that folks will feel proud to put on. Every purchase supports our vital programs!

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Joël Simeu is one of Dem Bois 2023 Gender Affirming Surgery Grant Awardees and he is the production assistant for the Dem Bois Podcast. He is also today’s guest and we discuss his role in the organization and what he plans to contribute. Joël shares his journey, emphasizing the importance of community and storytelling. We highlight the significance of visibility, especially amidst political uncertainties.

We talk:

What the organization's mission means to Joël - 3:01

What he wants to contribute - 12:07

Words of love to the audience - 18:22

Episode References:

2023 Grant Awardee

Dem Bois Podcast Ep. 69

Read more about Joël in his bio below:

Joël is a writer from Douala, Cameroon, currently based in Ithaca, NY, where he is completing his English PhD at Cornell University. His writing is grounded in a poetics of Black & queer futurity. Joël believes in the pursuit of liberation, justice, freedom, and love for all oppressed people. He enjoys going on walks and listening to jazz music. He’s an aspiring saxophonist and loves his friends.

• https://www.instagram.com/jojosim27

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Introducing a groundbreaking collaboration crafted by Emilio Perdomo (featured on Dem Bois Podcast episode 37). This isn't just merch--it's a movement! We're empowering trans men of color with creative freedom to design their interpretation of Visibility = Possibility™. Think of it like major brands collaborating with athletes, but this time, our community takes center stage. It will be great to have TMOC designing products that represents their community and that folks will feel proud to put on. Every purchase supports our vital programs!

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Most of us only think about death when someone close to us meets that fate. But, it’s important to prepare for death because it is a natural part of life. In this episode of Dem Bois Podcast, I sit down with Patrick Cornelius, and we discuss his career shift from brain injury rehabilitation to becoming a funeral director and embalmer, emphasizing the importance of visibility and preparation for death. Patrick also talks about the challenges of navigating new identities and the significance of living authentically and planning for the future.

We talk:
Patrick’s gender identity journey - 11:50
Always having an attraction to gay men - 19:30
Advice for listeners wanting to explore their sexuality - 33:21
Patrick’s career transition - 41:20
The importance of living authentically - 53:34

References:
Stone Butch Blues
Stealth: A Transmasculine Podcast S5 E4 with Patrick
Stealth: A Transmasculine Podcast S5 E1 with Shawn Aaron

Read more about Patrick in his bio below:
Patrick is a 55-year-old black, gay, trans man who began socially transitioning around 2009 and medically transitioned in 2012. Originally from Southeastern PA, he’s called Portland, OR home for the last 11 years. He enjoys discovering the many plant-based restaurants the Pacific NW has to offer, weightlifting, the theater and traveling with his husband. After spending 20+ years working in community-based brain injury rehabilitation, disability sport and the Paralympic movement, he changed careers to follow his dream of becoming a funeral director and embalmer in 2013.

• @patcorn

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In this episode of Dem Bois Podcast, I sit down with Kwasi Johnson, best known as Kwasi Raheem for our next installment of our Board Member Highlight Series. Kwasi shares his career journey from finance to IT and his role as a senior IT engineer. He discusses his transition to our board treasurer, emphasizing his commitment to resource allocation, community support, and amplifying trans men of color voices. He also stresses the significance of voting and encourages community engagement.

We talk:
What Dem Bois mission means to Kwasi - 6:32
What he would like to contribute as a board member - 8:40
What he does as a treasurer - 11:49

References:
Dem Bois Podcast Ep. 60

Read more about Kwasi in his bio below:
Kwasi was one of Dem Bois 2022 Gender Affirming Surgery Grant Awardees. Kwasi has been welcomed to join the Board as the Treasurer. Kwasi brings his extensive knowledge of financial planning, budgeting and project management to Dem Bois as a way help shape the lives and futures for trans men of color

“Peace, love, and light to you. My name is Kwasi-Raheem. I'm a fun, loving, and hilarious plant & animal dad. When I'm not working 1 of my 2 IT related daytime gigs; you can catch me photographing, walking my dogs, and or in your local Home Goods. I also keep a number of reptiles and am a budding "Lego-Brick Architect.”

• kwasi.raheem@dembois.org

Would you like to make a difference in the lives of trans men of color? Are you or someone you know interested in serving on a non-profit board?

We are looking for one individual who is committed to supporting trans men of color.

Dem Bois seeks a trans leader of color, or other queer folks of color, along with allies who understand the importance of accessing medical transition-related care, and other trans related issues to join our Board.

We are looking for someone who would like to become our Vice-Chair to work alongside the other dynamic leaders of the board to help support the mission and vision of the organization.

What does board membership mean? What does a Vice-Chair of a non-profit board actually do? Are you interested in being a part of Dem Bois board, but would like to learn more before applying?

• Schedule a 15-minute meeting to learn more about board service. Learn how you can use your skills and talents to support the mission and vision of Dem Bois Inc.
• Link to application to Join Dem Bois Board of Directors

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Dem Bois Inc. is an organization dedicated to amplifying trans men of color voices, and today on Dem Bois Podcast, we are continuing our Board Member Highlight Series with Tiana Moon, our board secretary. Tiana shares their background, including their mixed-race heritage, queer identity, and extensive experience in training and community education. And, they emphasize the importance of financial support for gender-affirming procedures, recounting their own experience with top surgery in Tijuana.

We talk:
Tiana’s career and personal life - 1:21
Dem Bois Inc mission - 5:17
Their hopes for the future of Dem Bois - 8:10

Read more about Tiana in their bio below:
Tiana grew up in Kumeyaay territory, living on both sides of the U.S/Mexico border in San Diego, CA and Tijuana, MX. They are a mixed race Chicano of Indigenous and Jewish ancestry. They are also queer, polyamorous, trans, nonbinary, and disabled. All experiences that shape their sense of community and commitment to care work.

They are a Co-Director at Brown Boi Project, an organization dedicated to Gender Justice and leadership development with a focus on how Black, Indigenous, and other people of color experience masculinity. They are also a facilitator and logistics nerd. In addition to formal training and curriculum design, their facilitation includes holding other dynamic spaces like support groups, retreats and gatherings, repair processes, community building events and action planning. Most recently they presented at the Caring Futures conference at The American University of Paris to present on mutual aid, building community care projects and decreasing reliance on violent state systems.

Furthermore, they have a decade of experience providing trauma informed direct services and mentorship to LGBTQ2S+ youth and families experiencing homelessness, incarceration, and co-occurring psychiatric disability and substance use dependence. Both in professional capacities represented by organizations and informally through community relationships and activist care spaces.

They are excited to bring these experiences to their role and honored to support the work of Dem Bois through service as a board member!

• tiana@dembois.org

Dem Bois seeks a trans leader of color, or other queer folks of color, along with allies who understand the importance of accessing medical transition-related care, and other trans related issues to join our Board.

We are looking for someone who would like to become our Vice-Chair to work alongside the other dynamic leaders of the board to help support the mission and vision of the organization.

What does board membership mean? What does a Vice-Chair of a non-profit board actually do? Are you interested in being a part of Dem Bois board, but would like to learn more before applying?

• Schedule a 15-minute meeting to learn more about board service. Learn how you can use your skills and talents to support the mission and vision of Dem Bois Inc.
• Link to application to join Dem Bois Board - Join Dem Bois Board of Directors

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With everything going on in the world today, it’s especially important for he LGBQ and Trans community to learn to shut out the noise so that we can focus on what is actually important. But how? Today on Dem Bois Podcast, Ja’Mel Ashely Ware gives advice on how to do just that. Ja’Mel discusses his transition, the impact of his mother's early death, and his experiences with grief and anger. He emphasizes the importance of mental health support for trans men of color. And, he recounts his decision to become a birthing parent, the challenges of public backlash, and the significance of creating a loving, supportive family environment.

We talk:
Backlash from first pregnancy - 16:26
The importance of therapy - 24:19
Being born with HIV - 31:59
Recognizing how your actions impact your children - 45:10

References:
Living Untethered, book by Michael A. Singer
Emory University Hospital Midtown

Read more about Ja'Mel in his bio below:
Ja'Mel Ashely Ware is a visionary leader known for his impact as an entertainer, entrepreneur, and educator. Beginning as an HIV advocate at age 7, Ja’Mel has passionately championed HIV awareness, reproductive health, and entrepreneurship within the LGBQ and Trans community. He holds a degree in Social Work from the University of Wisconsin-Madison and is pursuing an MBA at Emory University. As founder of The IR Agency, Ja’Mel merges business acumen with social responsibility, empowering organizations to embrace diversity and inclusivity. His work has earned numerous accolades, and he is the proud father of Sea Cannon and Heir Enéz.

• @sirjamelashely on all platforms
• www.jamelashelyware.com
• www.theiragency.org

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