This topic, reliving the past, the not so good parts, was something I journaled about recently.
That thing that happened to us or that bad decision we made keeps coming back to haunt us. Why? Because we allow it to... Now, don't get me wrong, moving past things that we regret or that were traumatizing for us is no easy feat.
Think about this though, what happens when you relive past unhappy moments? You relive it! Your whole body goes through it all AGAIN. Meaning you are affecting your emotional and physical health AGAIN. Remember your brain doesn't know the difference between what is real and what is imagined.
I bet you can think of a time when you were reliving an unpleasant moment how funky you felt. How you tightened up, felt irritated, angry and unsettled. You allowed something you can't change to affect you in the present moment, stealing your peace!
We've all done it and let's be honest we will probably do it again. So, what can we do to interject and stop ourselves before we go down the rabbit hole?
Say STOP (when you become aware your spiraling or starting to spiral) use your name! Look in the mirror when you do this if you can!
Then, once you do that take a deep breath.
Then say, you are okay, you are safe.
Start saying to yourself, You survived! Look how far you've come! You can do better going forward and make better choices starting NOW!!
Then think of all the things going right in your life right now. It doesn't matter how long the list is just make the list and repeat it in your mind or write it down, but turn your focuse to what is going right in your life.
This is just a quick way for you to stop yourself from allowing the past to come back and bite you!
That is all for today my friends. Let me know what you think about this process and if you try it out, let me know how it went. DM me on Facebook or Instagram @PositiveBabble or email me at jen@positivebabble.com
Make it a great week!