In this compassionate guide you'll find tips and tools to help you set boundaries with others, honor and validate your emotions, and thrive in the face of life's challenges. You'll discover how to protect yourself from hurtful behavior, stop making excuses for others' limitations, forge healthier relationships, and feel more confident in your life. Most importantly, you'll learn how to stop putting others' needs before your own and manage daily stressors.

Was your mother preoccupied, distant, or even demeaning? Have you struggled with relationships - or with your own self-worth? Often, the grown children of emotionally absent mothers can't quite put a finger on what's missing from their lives. The children of abusive mothers, by contrast, may recognize the abuse - but overlook its lasting, harmful effects. Psychotherapist Jasmin Lee Cori has helped thousands of men and women heal the hidden wounds left by every kind of undermothering.

In this important sequel to Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents, author Lindsay Gibson offers powerful tools to help you step back and protect yourself at the first sign of an emotional takeover, make sure your emotions and needs are respected, and break free from the coercive control of emotionally immature parents.

Over the past decade, an overwhelming body of research has shown self-compassion to be key to good psychological and physical health. Whether you wish to reduce stress, develop healthy habits for exercise or diet, unlock your creativity, or even deal with serious conditions such as depression or addiction, a strong sense of self-compassion is an essential ingredient for success. Best of all, self-compassion is a skill that can be learned.

The most successful and satisfied people on the planet have one thing in common: the ability to create and communicate clear, healthy boundaries. This ability is, hands down, the biggest game changer when it comes to creating a healthy, happy, self-determined life. In Boundary Boss, psychotherapist Terri Cole reveals a specific set of skills that can help you stop abandoning yourself for the sake of others (without guilt or drama) and get empowered to consciously take control of every aspect of your emotional, spiritual, physical, personal, and professional life.

The first book specifically for daughters suffering from the emotional abuse of selfish, self-involved mothers, Will I Ever Be Good Enough? provides the expert assistance you need in order to overcome this debilitating history and reclaim your life for yourself.

In The Betrayal Bond, Patrick Carnes presents an in-depth study of these relationships, why they form, who is most susceptible, and how they become so powerful. He shows how to recognize when traumatic bonding has occurred and gives a checklist for examining relationships. He then provides steps to safely extricate from these relationships. This is a book you will turn to again and again for inspiration and insight, while professionals will find it an invaluable reference work.

In this breakthrough book, clinical psychologist Lindsay Gibson exposes the destructive nature of parents who are emotionally immature or unavailable. You will see how these parents create a sense of neglect and discover ways to heal from the pain and confusion caused by your childhood. By freeing yourself from your parents' emotional immaturity, you can recover your true nature, control how you react to them, and avoid disappointment. Finally, you'll learn how to create positive new relationships so you can build a better life.

If you grew up with an emotionally immature, unavailable, or selfish parent, you may recall your childhood as a time when your emotional needs were not met or dismissed—and you may have lingering feelings of anger, loneliness, betrayal, and abandonment. As an adult, you have fought hard to establish your own sense of self, and heal the wounds caused by your upbringing. But what about other emotionally immature people (EIP) in your life? As an adult child of an emotionally immature parent (ACEIP), you may be particularly vulnerable to EIPs.

Many of us long for spiritual connection and divine guidance - the wisdom and ability to make decisions that benefit ourselves and the greater good. But we've been conditioned to think and act selfishly, in ways that limit our access to the divine, with false, programmed beliefs that often result in suffering, addictive behaviors, and spiritual disconnection. The Inner Bonding Workbook can help you heal your psychic wounds and move beyond false limitations to achieve at-will, moment-by-moment connection with the divine.

Known for his magnetic and radiant personality, Frank spends his time training thousands of clinicians around the world on how to help clients with complex trauma make sense of their suffering. But underneath this charismatic exterior are his dark family secrets, including the marks of child abuse from his father and the invisible scars of shame.

Resource Tapping is a clinically recognized therapy to activate your inner strength and resiliency through bilateral stimulation of the brain. With step-by-step instruction, Tapping In teaches you this groundbreaking system for tapping both sides of the body to release emotional and physical distress, aid in healing, and calm the body on a deep physiological level.

Now a self-help classic, Disarming the Narcissist is a practical, step-by-step communication guide to help you cope with and confront the narcissist in your life. Based on fan feedback, this fully revised and updated third edition features new information on shame, hypersexuality, and infidelity in narcissism; legal information to help you if you are divorcing a narcissist; and the impact of narcissism on children.

Waking the Tiger offers a new and hopeful vision of trauma. It views the human animal as a unique being, endowed with an instinctual capacity. It asks and answers an intriguing question: Why are animals in the wild, though threatened routinely, rarely traumatized? By understanding the dynamics that make wild animals virtually immune to traumatic symptoms, the mystery of human trauma is revealed.

Dr. George K. Simon knows how people push your buttons: your children---especially teens---are experts at it, as is your mate. A coworker may quietly undermine your efforts while professing to be helpful, or your boss may prey on your weaknesses. Manipulative people have two goals: to win and to look good doing it.

心に沁み入るブッダの教え。私たちが幸福になる秘訣は、「世の中の考え」と「この世の真理」を正しく理解することにあります。


「あなたは、ふだん、まったくあべこべの感覚で生きていますね」

こう言われたら、あなたはどう感じるでしょうか?

「あべこべ」とは「さかさま・逆」の意味。
つまり、「あなたはさかさまの感覚で生きています」ということです。

私たちは、そんなことはないと思うでしょう。
ですが、お釈迦さまから見れば、実際は皆、あべこべ感覚で生きていると言います。

たとえば、「人生は楽しい」と考えても、実際の人生は「苦」ばかりということ。
「私は死なない」と思っても、人間には必ず「死」が訪れます。
「世の中の考え」と「お釈迦さまがいうこの世の真理」はあべこべです。
それは、私たちがものごとを勝手に捏造していることが原因なのです。

この本では、私たちが真の幸福と安らぎを得るために、ものごとをありのままに
知るために、お釈迦さまの道を紹介してくれます。

「道徳的」に生きれば、道が開ける。一見簡単に見えてなかなかできない、道徳的な生き方の真髄を教えてくれます。


「道徳」という言葉から、何を思い浮かべますか。
道徳なんて堅苦しいもの、面倒くさいものというイメージを持っている方が多い
のではないでしょうか。

しかし仏教で言う道徳とは「選択」の問題です。
幸せになるための正しい「選択」をする方法が「道徳」であり、
それはなにも難しい哲学でもよく理解できない話でもありません。
大切なのは、その選択を的中させるためにどうすればよいのか、ということです。
そしてその答えは簡単で、道徳的な生き方をすることとイコールになるのです。
本書の題となっている『的中する生き方』とは道徳を実践した生き方のことなのです。

本当の「道徳」とはとても面白いものです。
道徳を守ろうとして苦労することで、自分の中の怒りや憎しみに気づき、
そこから「では怒りをなくそう」と思うことによって楽になります。
理性で考え、行動することで、正しい生き方の選択ができるようになっていくの
です。

本書を通じて、本物の道徳を理解しましょう。
それが幸せで成功に満ち溢れた人生を実現する最短の方法なのです。

発達障害と似た症状は、“ストレス”が原因だった！メディアで話題の専門家が教える、今からできる克服の方法

Why does it feel so natural to be compassionate and kind to those we care about - yet so hard to treat ourselves the same way? "Our culture teaches us to use self-criticism for motivation and to build self-esteem by constantly measuring ourselves against everyone else," says Dr. Kristin Neff. "We need to re-learn the essential skill of being genuinely nurturing and supportive toward ourselves."

心に沁み入るブッダの教え。あなたの心には五二の「心の中身(心所)」があるのです。振り回されず、幸せに生きるために「心の中身」を把握しましょう。


私たちは、喜んだり・怒ったり、色々な感情を持っています。
それはどういうことなのでしょうか?

本書では心の元素である「心の中身=心所」を一つひとつ見ていくことで
心の仕組みについてわかりやすく迫っています。
心の膨大な動きは「心の中身」を知ることで把握していけるのです。

どうしてこの人はこんなにイライラしてしているのだろう?
どうして私はこんなに悲しい気持ちになるのだろう?
と家族・同僚や自分自身の気持ちが分からなくなってしまうことはありませんか?

他人や自分の感情の動きを把握するために
まずはお釈迦さまが発見した五二種類の「心の中身(心所)」を理解することから
始めましょう。
自分自身を見つめなおすきっかけになる一冊です。